Well, i think you and me feel the same i think that you should not rush into things if you don’t feel right. if you don’t feel safe or fine around him then i think you should leave him. first you should talk to him and let him know what you feel. do not loud or start to talk like if you are mad because then you will start a fight. talk to him like if his your friend and let him know what you feel. remember you still have a long life to see up ahead.
Ok well comprimise. if you truly intend to marry him and you both love each other than there is some sort of comprimise you BOTH can reach… Good Luck and Congrats
YAY - congrats! you should talk to him about this! if you love each other then you will sort some thing out - trust me!
I was raised Catholic. was to be married in the church did all the pre stuff etc.., I am now a Christian. I attend some nice Christian Churches, seek some out and share w/boyfriend..maybe you do the same of Catholic Mass then after an education you choose whats best for YOU TWO!
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Does it really matter? Don’t be a butt! Make love!
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It does matter. Religion is a very big part of my life, not his. He only wants it because thats what his parents want. And I love his parents they are like my own and they are getting pretty old so that makes me want to respect there wishes and go on with the Catholic wedding but then I also think about my family. My parents and brothers and sisters dont go to church ever. They arent religious at all. I just want to make everyone happy…
well, this is a problem that you HAVE to compromise on BEFORE you get married. Don’t wait. If you are this worried about it, then you need to talk to him about it. Even though the day is about marrying him, it is mostly about you my dear. Don’t do anything that will make you unhappy. That will not bode well for the marriage. Work all this out with him. You love the guy. :) Don’t ever forget that. You can make it through anything. He’ll understand. Just tell him you don’t want to change like that, and I’m sure that he’ll understand. Work it out. :-D Marriage is about compromise right? :) Love him.
what is more important your boyfriend or religion god always comes frist you both have to sit and agree that no matter what religion ur in you’ll always love each other try not to have a church wedding try something romantic like the beach or park wedding or back yard one it will be quite pretty
Hey there. I don’t know if this will help but I can share my experience. My husbad was Catholic and my family was not religious at all. I personally was not raised to chanel my love for God in any specific way, but he had no problem with that. He did want a Catholic wedding and for me, that was okay. I felt that at least he had a way of focusing his life and a wedding IS a spiritual thing. I did not feel that it was all a farce just because I was never religious - it was our wedding and I made my vows to him the way he understood it best. My parents were okay with it to. But, my husband and I discussed this openly.
You really need to talk to him about the way you feel. No man wants his woman to participate in a wedding ceremony that will make her uncomfortable. Why don’t you both sit down and be open about your reasons. You will be surprised to find the different possible compromises when you work at it together.
Congratulations and may you two have many happy years of open communitcation and a helluva lotta love:)
Thanks everyone! I really appreciate everyones opinion!!!
Tell him about your feelings on that matter. If he still wants you to convert to the imho wrong catholic teaching, then tell him that it doesn’t work that way.
:) no prob, and congradulations hon. Good luck in life.
Well maybe you should first try ti go to a catholic mass and see if you like it or not. Also you should take him to your church to see if he likes too. I am not not saying you should married in catholic just go and see. Also you can also try getting married in both culture; like my boss did. Remember you guys pray to the same god, but in different ways and believe in different faiths. Good luck!
Well the thing about going to a Catholic mass is he doesnt go to church here. Tho only time he goes to churchis when he goes home to Illinois. We are in the military and are stationed in AZ. He has been to my church several times but doesnt really like it…. We are going to have our wedding in IL and are going there next month to start the planning. So I will be going to his church with his whole family to see how I like it. Me and him talked about it last night and i agreed that i would go to church with him and would decide after that. Its his wedding too and love makes sacrifices. Thanks everyone!!
But to sacrifice your own faith and beliefs, that’s too much to sacrifice. Think twice about it.
Its not like I am converting to Catholic, and it would be the same for him if we have a Christian wedding.
Maybe you should just think about your self and make your self happy
what would make you happy and your future husband?
I cant just think about myself.. not when Im engaged thats not how relationships work. Especially not with me I like to make him as happy as he makes me. I just cant wait to start planning!! I already have everything in my head!! lol
What i mean is maybe you should not make your family happy or his family but making him and you happy.
Oh okay I see what you are saying
you should talk to him/her (fiance) about it.
Talk to him. My daddy was Roman Catholic (very devout) & my mom was Southern Baptist. They chose to get married on my maternal grandparents ranch with a non-denominational minister presiding. It was how they ocmpromised.
catholics are christians. but the do have really strict rules…trust me i am one! and one of the rules is that you cannot recieve cmmunion unless you are married to a catholc. but dont get me wrong! there are also many people who are not married to catholics! do what you think is best for you and makes the both of you happy. tell him that you do not wish to convert. if he really loves you then he will work things out for the both of you. but catolic weddings arent much different from regular. go to youtube and type in catholic weddings and you can watch some and see if you would like it! but i wish you all the best and god bless!
Congratulations! I appreciate the insight you gave me, good luck and best wishes!
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