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got some heavy news….im a bit drunk and high but thats not what im on about my uncle killed himself today and hes my mums brother and she is absolutely gutted as shes a jehovahs witness and believes that suicide sends you to hell…or sumthin like that..but im gutted too because he come round my house(i still live at home with my parents and im 20) and i just tried to stay away from him cos i couldnt be bothered to try to talk to him..but thats cos its so hard cos hes just so different to how he used to be when i was a kid.. i remember when i was a kid and before my mum became a jehovahs witness and he used to get me the best birthday and christmas presents like skalectrix and some computer games and tis beasty super mario watch witch i loved..but my mum found him dead in his flat today and id just like to here for suggestions for how to comfort her…shes really been the only one out of the whole of my mums family to take care of him and i just feel so bad for her…but its weird cos i dont feel that bad for him just my mum.
and i think im right for feeling that

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Hines, IL, US | 1 year, 3 months ago (21 minutes after post)

that stupid helpbot. he is getting on my nerves. anyway, im confused. did he die just today, a while ago, or what?

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Prickwillow, I9, GB | 1 year, 3 months ago (35 minutes after post)

today probably about 8 hours ago… i live in england so thats about 2pm

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Prickwillow, I9, GB | 1 year, 3 months ago (36 minutes after post)

i mean 10m hours

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Las Vegas, NV, US | 1 year, 3 months ago (48 minutes after post)

Why did you mum have to take care of him? Was he sick or into an addiction? This will be extremely difficult for her to handle for many reasons. At this point, her faith will carry her through. Encourage her to talk about her feelings and express her grief as often as she needs to. Sit and listen and hug her and comfort her in her pain. You have no personal feelings about his death?

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Lawton, OK, US | 1 year, 3 months ago (5 hours, 30 minutes after post)

just be there for your mom let her know u care and pray for her let her know u are praying for her and encourge her to talk with people of her faith

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Prickwillow, I9, GB | 1 year, 3 months ago (11 hours, 37 minutes after post)

he had a mental illness and was just a wreck basically. he went to jail after hes wife left him cos he tied up her parents and beat them up in the woods and smashed up their car..he then got transferred to a mental hospital/prison thing and since hes come out hes been taking heroin on and off. the rest of the family didnt know what to do and just sort of avoided him exept my mum who kept on taking him back and forth from some mental hospital place…they gave him some medication there but he said it just made him worse so he stopped taking it…..but that made him worse cos he just started taking smack instead.

im not sure how i feel about the whole thing..its just a bit surreal cos i got a phonecall yesterday and it was for my mum and the bloke onj the phone said”just tell your mum that were here for her” and i was like WHY? whats happened and then he said something about her brother and straight away i just thought that hed killed himself…but i thought naaaaa hed probably just been acting wierd in front of the neighbours or something….i wonder what could of been done to stop him from doing it…..did he consider himself a nuisance to the family and thought it would make everyone elses life easier?or did he realise that he was losing his mind and wanted to end it before he totally lost it?or was it just an accidental overdose?………its crazy its so easy to try and help people here on the internet and strangers on the street but family and friends justs seems more difficult…i wonder why….

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Las Vegas, NV, US | 1 year, 3 months ago (19 hours, 56 minutes after post)

Tommy, we are here for you if you need to talk, and you will. Whatever feelings come to the surface for you need to be validated by you. There is no need to bury them because you have plenty of friends here. Suiciide has a habit of launching every one that is left behind on quite a journey.

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Prickwillow, I9, GB | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

i think ive talked enough! made me think of a few things though with what my mums been saying to me. he suffered with paranoid schizophrenia and my mum said that everything he done was centred around himself (selfish) so this makes me think he probably killed himself becuase he couldnt hack the mental illness and not because he thought he was a nuisance.
although the day before he died he gave his girlfriend(didnt even know he had one) money that he owed her and gave his parents money that he owed them and then when my mum found him she said there was the exact amount that he owed her in his wallet. so thats pretty inconclusive!
anyway in my crazy head i thought that a schizophreniac must be able to write the best character based stories ever! maybe it could be used as a form of therapy?
thanks everyone

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