life help: should some people live alone? - Help.com

maybe some should live alone for periods of time until they gather themselves and learn who they are that way they know who will compliment them. no one should live alone forever. we are human ment to feel another physically and emotionally. we are nothing w/ out another. maybe this is your time. dont give up on yourself eventually you will learn to mold to someone and someone to you.

Can you go out and try to get involved in somethign, to meet people? You could try to find a roommate? Rent out a room?

Wretch, I understand. I live alone and sometimes I feel like I am getting to comfortable by myself. I have done the roommate thing, and I will never live with another woman again. I might be ok with a male roommate. I would like to get married one but it is hard to find someone. I think cdjanet is right you will mold and adapt when you live with someone else. She is also right about how we are meant to be near each other.

9 years is a long time. but from what ive noted you spend alot of time at home and if you say this is where you come for human experience than its not enough. this is where you come for advice or to vent about human experience… my suggestion to you is to get out more… or its true it will be awefully difficult to meet anyone.

ps. i remember looking through your profile i noticed you havent excepted not one friend???? its almost like you seclude yourself purposely, you only speak of this one person that makes your life so painful. is there anything to be greatful for? are there any relationships in your life worth valueing? memories worth sharing??? i dunno maybe excepting some friends would be a good start if you havent done so already that is…. please dont take anything i say the wrong way :o)

Living alone is GREAT if you would like to become extremely proficient at video-games or developing a tunnel-like view of life and the world around you. Im fortunate i live at my friend’s home with his parents, because when I need some human contact i go into his room and go “RAH! IM HERE TALK TO ME!” or i just bother his cat.

to have a friend you have to be a friend so get out find somebody to be friends with

I know exactly how you feel. I grew up almost totally alone and had a hard time after that being able to have relationships with other people because I was very shy. I got burned pretty bad so I ran from all my problems and started a new life. I have gradually warmed up to the people around me in my community, but it has been a hard struggle to be able be around people. I have dealt alot with being alone. After years of being alone, you feel as though it is your curse, that maybe it was meant to be. But I have found people need others, even if is to talk about the weather. You need someone in your life, even if it isn’t a boyfriend. Just… people, the people around you. If they are too stagnant, go somewhere and meet others.

I hate living alone…….

just because 1 didn’t work out doesn’t mean that everybody else is like that

love is a hard thing to find, maybe sometimes you only find it once in a lifetime, sometimes many. You won’t find it again if you stay stagnant and stay in one place. It’s actually something you find only by chance, and not nessissarily where or when you were looking for it. Sometimes the timing is all wrong and it just cannot be. I have that problem myself at the moment. I am in love with someone who can never be with me because of prior commitment. But I am okay with that because I have learned that the world does not revolve around me and some things I just cannot have.

living alone is fine. you shouldnt have to justify your existence by having a significant other. you shouldnt have to give into societys ideals.

Life is what you make it. What your life sould be is simply what you’re happy with. some people are meant to live alone, honestly. but those are the poeople that are HAPPY alone, HATE other people’s company, and for whatever other reason, like solitude. You don’t sound to happy so i would venture to say you are not one of those people meant to live alone. i know meeting people who wont treat you badly or backstab you is REALLY difficult, but sometimes you gotta try.

I don’t believe there are people who don’t want to be around people by nature, but often because they are afraid, which goes all the way back to childhood. People in the present simply symbolize the people who brought you up. If it means your father hit you when you were little, you will be afraid of man going to hit you in the present. Speaking for myself, I was continuingly humiliated by my older sisters, which explains why I am afraid of younger woman. Afraid something similar will happen again. I try to tell myself it is only a feeling, but it is hard to do…