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For the last few months my mood has been deteriorating badly.

There’s no obvious reason for this, I get on fine with my family and friends, I have a boyfriend who loves me and tries his best and I was doing alright in my studies.

I didn’t notice how bad things had been deteriorating until recently. I seem to be feeling sad or down all the time, and stupid little things can set me off in floods of tears. My memory and concentration seem non-existant at times, which is playing havok with my uni work. Everything that used to entertain me or makes me happy just seems so dull or iritating now, and while I’m not exactly suicidal sometimes I can’t help but wish that something would happen to me to make this all just go away.

I’ve never been the type of person to share their problems with other people. I talk to my boyfriend about little problems at times but I feel bad that I’m dragging him down into my problems, I normally end up feeling rather guilty and consider breaking up with him as it’s selfish for me to stay with him, but I don’t know what I’d do without him. I’ve spoken briefly to my university supervisors about it to explain why I haven’t been doing my work, but they don’t know the full extent as I have a habit of playing my problems down when talking to people, and I’m worried I’m going to end up failing uni or getting kicked out, as I simply cannot do the work or pass my exams in my current state. I’ve been to see a counsellor too, but I didn’t feel comfortable with her so I skipped my second session, which I realise was a very bad step and I do regret it now, even thought I don’t really think a councellor would be that much help for me. To be honest talking about my problems face-to-face with someone scares me immensely.

I’m not really looking for help with this post, I understand that I have to find that for myself, but it’s nice sometimes to vent.

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madeye1 offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Salt Lake City, UT, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

I know exactly what you mean. I have been the same way the last couple of months as well. I didn’t notice the tiny changes in my life that made me uncomfortable all the time, or the things lurking in my subconscious causing me to be moody and depressed. It really can sneak up on you. I couldn’t concentrate on anything and my grades when down the tube cause I couldn’t remember anything. But it really is better to talk to people. Seeing a councler is great. You just have to be willing to open up to them.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (2 hours, 26 minutes after post)

Make sure your getting enough sleep. that can really effect your mood not to mention your productivity during the day.
If thats not the case if you a woman, I would think also it could be a hormone inbalance.
See a doctor if this continues to help determine what might be causeing all this. He can prescribe you something to help you get on with your studies in the mean time.

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KawaiiKitsune134 offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Hollywood, FL, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (12 hours, 53 minutes after post)

I agree with My3sons4ever. Maybe you should see a doctor, it could just be hormonal problems.

I had this exact same problem recently. Everything that I loved suddenly made me hate it, and all my friends just ticked me off, when they really weren’t doing anything wrong. I even resulted to cutting myself for quite a while.

It is really better to speak to someone, but it doesn’t have to be a counselor. Talk to someone you trust, like a girlfriend or a close relative. Whatever reason is causing you discomfort, talking to someone always helps. Depression isn’t worth breaking up with your boyfriend or suffering from grades over. It’s like a little bug in your subconscious that’s convincing you that you’re life isn’t worth living. Just stay positive. ^-^

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