friends help: My query is on life in general. - Help.com

I don’t know, what to say to you. I’m younger and I’ve been through much less than you, that’s for sure, but I can tell you a few things I’ve learned so far. Try to change. Don’t push it, first change those little things that you don’t like about yourself and the surrounding world and then try to deal with those bigger. Step by step. Stop drinking, don’t take drugs, it’ll do you no good. I’ve met a man, a former drug addict and a former alcoholic, who told me that the best first step to change would be standing in front of the mirror, looking into your own eyes and trying to say “I love you” to your reflection. Be honest and friendly. And don’t be afraid to travel, but if you want to, you can meet very interesting people in your surrounding.

Everything is up to you. If you think positively, you will change. Be strong and have faith in yourself. Take care.

Write out your new path in life and stick with it. you have to re-convert all your habits into decisions, decisions where you go with your new path instead of the old one.

It is very tough. I am having my own miserable time and it gets depressing having to get “back on track” over and over again, but that seems to be what life’s about. Eventually, the new choices become new habits and it gets easier.

I’m not sure if my words will help, but I feel you need to get to know you and to learn to like/love who you are. Accept the person you are now who has done all of these things to hurt himself & for disappointng himself. Take what you can learn from all of this cuz it has to have made you stronger inside on many levels.

What your future will be is what you put into it. You have a chance coming up to change when you leave for the new school in a different area. Seek out new friends there that don’t just see life as one big drinking & drugging party. Find people you can talk to and learn from. My grandpa always told me the people who come into our lives or who cross our paths of life are there for a reason. He said get to know them and learn all you can from them. Find good people to be friends with. Make friends from other countries or places that you can travel to and visit.

If travel is something you want, then find a way to make it happen. Nothing comes easy in life. If we want something bad enough, then we find ways to make dreams happen.

Just don’t give up or lose hope. We need hope in us to keep moving forward in life.

Good luck & take care.

I think you might do well to get my book. But to go on for now. We all have a dark side… a Shadow as C.Jung calls it. This shadow is our disowned self. Almost every murderer will tell you I didn’t know I had it in me… but now I know I can. Most people don’t think they could kill another person, but in truth they can! This is their disowned self. Why do I go on like this. Well, it seems you’ve touched some of your shadow. If you own it, take the responsibility for your actions; both in the past and now, then you can move forward. You have a bright future if you only allow yourself to see it. Change is not bad… it’s good, and relatively easy. As Nike says, “Just do it”.
Bright blessings ~ R

if we only get to live for ‘three score and ten’ then as you approach 20 you have only ‘two score and ten’ left so ….. time to get sorted then! your body is the machine to deliver the physical aspects of what your mind wants - if the body is sick then the mind will be hindered and frustrated - if the mind is sick then the body will follow. you need time and space to heal both and realise your true potential, which if you want it to be, can be all you ever dreamed of achieving. the downside is that you have to work for it and it’s not easy. the easier choice for you, it seems, would be to stay with the ‘friends’ and hide your dreams behind drink and drugs. go to uni - you have worked hard already to achieve that and through that experience you may get opportunity to travel. otherwise, take life by the neck and live it - go travel - experience climates, cultures, foods, sights, sounds and smells - but do it carefully and safely. why don’t you try volunteering (VSO would be a good place to start) or teaching at a summer camp. you’ll do what’s right in the end but don’t waste life - it really is too precious and rumour has it that we only get one - a rumour i do not believe as i’ve had too much fun this far - i’m coming back!! if you want any more advice then send me a message - if not, enjoy and have a ball! good luck.