Love help: My grand children have been verbally and emotionally abused for 4.5 years. - Help.com

try the following google search

http://www.google.com/search?q=verbal…

what sort of abuse are we talking about? does he treaten to kill them? does he call them stupid? what? any examples?

Rich, verbal abuse can be more incapacitating to a child than physical abuse. Imagine how it would feel to called stupid on a daily basis by your father. Regardless of how smart the child actually is, they will be convinced that they are just stupid. Robbing them of any potential they could have.

Trust me… I understand your point Animal (intimately). I never said one was more or less sever. The reason for my question, is that what could be considered abuse by one person is not by another. For me to tell a child that if they behave a certian way, that they will be grounded for a week, and I’ll take away TV veiwing could be seen as abusive to some… not so abusive to others… If a child is behaving poorly consistantly and the parent is trying to parent… and first it’s the TV… then it’s the computer… then it’s the phone… one by one someone is watching a child loose their privledges… someone with a soft heart may see this as abuse. How do you deal with abuse? You call CPS of course! But is this the answer we are talking about here? Convince a judge? shouldn’t the actions convince a judge? Being OVER protected can be almost as damaging to the psyche as being abused.
Bright blessing ~ R

Olivia, I have been taking my son’s father to court for 10 years, for various reasons, from Child support to different types of abuse….. I agree that it definetly depends on specific expamples of what he has been doing to them. If you haven’t yet, make sure that you keep some type of journal of exactly what goes on, things the kids have said, things you have heard or seen, nothing 3rd party, they will dismiss it completely. I wish you the best of luck…I have found that here in NY the Family Court system sucks, and it is not an easy fight… I will keep you and your family in my prayers

Thanks Rich, I agree with everything you mentioned here. I got the impression that you were discounting verbal abuse. My appologies. Sometimes its hard to figure out where someone is gong from just a line or two.

np Animal… and thanks. I agree. So, in some cases… I’m hesitant to give counsel. Ya know I listen to Dr. Laura on occasion, and she’s not so bad, but every now and again she has the “solution” after a 30 second sound bite… How is that possible? It’s not.
Bright blessings ~R