Love help: Why is it opposites attract?

carmen23

Why is it opposites attract?

Why is it that the good girl always falls in love with the bad guy. Good guys stay with females who are not the best?

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original AKS 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (15 minutes after post)

opposites attract is an over-simplification. i have to run right now, but i will reply when i get back.

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Alm, 11, NO | 2 years, 6 months ago (37 minutes after post)

According to my social psychology literature studies show that similarities is better to predict relationships than opposites. It’s just a saying, and point (on every side of stuff) can be made with saying, regardless is they hold any truth or not.

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Alm, 11, NO | 2 years, 6 months ago (38 minutes after post)

And my personal experience says all the great girls always go for the great guys. I have no idea where people get this from. Television?

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (44 minutes after post)

it is a matter of perception. example:

i like Brenda, therefor she is a great girl

Brenda likes steve, so to Brenda, steve is great, but to me, steve is a bad guy

tami likes me, so i am a great guy

but i like Brenda, so to tami, brenda is a bad girl

make any sense?

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candp 146 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (4 hours, 7 minutes after post)

hey, AKS, are you making anonymous posts?

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (4 hours, 21 minutes after post)

i think sometimes people seek out people who are different because different is exciting! I would imagine a few different scenarios:You’re old, bored, tired with being you…you see someone completely different and it excites you..don’t think it’d last too long..You don’t like who you are, so seek out the opposite..again..not a lasting relationship..i dunno, who knows why we fall for the people we do..i think for a lasting relationship, you need some sames..some commonground to work from

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Wainwright, AB, CA | 2 years, 6 months ago (9 hours, 3 minutes after post)

I heard that opposites usually always attract because subconciously, people look for qualities in a mate that complement themselves. Example. If you get stressed out easily, or get worked up easily, you might be attracted to someone with a very calming demeaner, someone that will ground you.

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carmen23 0 #
Lancaster, PA, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (9 hours, 9 minutes after post)

Here is a list of our diferences: hes from the country, im form the city, he’s south america, im dominican, he’s old fashioned im modern. thank god we speak the same language. yet we learn so much from each other. i often wonder if a relationship like this will last. Im really attracted to his ways.

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Wainwright, AB, CA | 2 years, 6 months ago (9 hours, 17 minutes after post)

I think that a relationship with so many differences can definately work. But when two people are so different there is always a larger element of give and take. If you two really like each other and want to be together you just need to learn how to ‘negotiate’ so you are both satisfied in the relationship.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (11 hours, 45 minutes after post)

just the one about Fluffy, CandP.

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Chattanooga, TN, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (2 months, 3 weeks after post)

I got one thought for you.
1. You are a very hyper, mature, love life, business type of female.
2. Always outgoing, self-employed, have tons of friends: the female.

You are in a not so great relationship(3 years), off-and-one with a unsimilar guy.
1. The guy is about to be 41, was living with his mom until two months ago,
settles for a lower paying job, have some friends(3), still lives in the 80’s,
critical, takes everything to serious.

So do you think that in this situation that Opposites attrach?

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