i swear to god if u run away i will hunt you down and break ur legs.
my best friend ran away once. I cooldv stopped him but i let him go. Now hes in rehab after trying to kill himself. hes tried running 3 times since then. His parents loved him and he didnt realize it.
Dont do this to yourself. Itl ruin your entire life.
Dont do it to your friends, Itl damage them. It damaged me. Itl be devestating, even to the people you dont even think care.
I wont kill myself, I just want to be happy. I deserve to be happy, and I wont ever be happy here. I wish I could go through all the details but its not worth it. I feel selfish to put my parents through so much bullshit but they wouldn’t understand. They think my depression is a joke, and it isn’t. Someone once told me that I will change the world one day. I tend to put my plan in motion once I arrive in Montreal.
What exactly are you running from? The pain on your life? You’ll still have to take yourself with you! You’ve come up with this romantic plan, that in actuality will cause as much pain as you are running away from! And then what will you do? Run again? Go back home with your tail between your legs? It’s much better to face your problems head on and change yourself in it all. It carries so much more dignity. Cowards run. You don’t want to be a coward, do you?
You’re going to have a hard time, if your family reports you as missing then the police will access all your records, like credit cards, name change records, etc. Your only chance of really dissapearing is making a whole new identity, govt records and all. And that’s really hard.
I dont care how hard your life is, its only gonna get worse if you run. The cops will find you, your mother will be in tears. Theyl put you on suicide watch for a week in a hospital, regardless on your emotional and mental status.
Go to bartending school.. Whith out running away. have fun… WHITHOUT making a dumb dumb DUMB decision. No one deserves to suffer because life threw you a curve ball and you decided to run from the plate.
everyone deserves happiness :)
your plan sounds a bit extreme but i know the feeling.. wanting to do something big to change my life around. all i can say is that you should probably think the details over a bit more… dont just assume that person will help you. sleeping in your car isn’t the best thing to do. try it for one night and decide if you can live like that indefinitely. it’s very uncomfortable, its almost like getting no sleep. After one night you’ll see.
All I can say is be a bit more patient, life has funny ways of making things work out once you let go…
best of luck to you :)
Nainachick - I don’t know what I am running from, maybe its something great that I can’t see right now. All I know as of right now this life is causing me so much unhappiness.
Nath - I am 19 years old. How do I stop my parents from reporting me missing?
Darkshine - They wont put my on suicide watch for running away…Im an adult technically. Im allowed to leave anytime. I know its selfish to do this to my family and friends but its this place. I can’t escape it. The longer I wait the more life passes me by. If I wait to long it will be to late. I want to be a kid. I want to party and go you every night. I don’t think I should pay for my past mistakes. People change, its not fair. If I stay here I will just be stuck in this bullshit limbo.
Soyinfinita - I know it is. I plan on trying it out a couple more times at home. My car is pretty comfortable in the back. I will cover the seats with pillows and blankets etc. It sounds pathetic but I should be able to find a place in no time even if its a **** hole. Im not really picky. As for the guy, I don’t know he will help me. He could very much turn on me and rat me out but I know I can count on him if anything goes wrong. Hes saved me once before. Im not going to reveal myself unless I am in trouble though. I just think its good to have someone you can trust close by.
If your stuck in bullshit limbo, then have a mother ******* party there, with your friends. You dont have to pay for your past mistakes, but u will if u run. You can still live where you are now. If the place is to sleepy, then maybe your the one it needs to shake things up abit. Theres fun everywhere, your just not looking hard enough.
If you really feel it neccisary to run away, then tell everyone. MOVE AWAY, dont run. That way your friends and family get a chance to hear you out, and say goodbye. And then It wont seem like your running away for the attention and thrill of it all.
Oh, I like that, Tom. Move yes, but don’t run.
My family wont let me move. Im in University. The said the only chance I have is if I apply and get accepted in another place. I tried to get accepted to a school in Montreal…it didn’t work. Its almost like its destiny.
My friends will never take me seriously. I will always be someone they can’t take seriously because my past mistakes. I care about them so much, but that doesn’t seem to matter.
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It seems to me that you have done things in the past that made your family lose their confidence in you. Maybe it would be a good thing to try to do something to show them that you are now worthy of trust. And maybe you might even need to prove that to yourself as well. Who knows ? Just a thought …
applying to one school isn’t enough of an effort to say that road is completely stumped.. maybe try another school. believe me, it’s the best way to have a fresh new start without ruining your life (actually building up)
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look you shouldnt run away for your health and safety dont run away. your parents do love you very much so dont run away it will turn out ok i think that you should talk to your family and that you needed to be trusted and if you still cant go just stay dont run away it will be o.k :)
things in life hard but the only way you can do things is deal with them my life ain’t all that i be honest but i ain’t running away i am still here fightthing all the way . the truth is the past will alls comeback if you don’t deal with it like someone said it will come back face it on that way you can move though life
Once you have your cash and your not happy where you are and want to move to Montreal. Then move to Montreal but just tell your family, face-to-face, on the level cause what use is it to lie.
It’s not really the adult thing to do is it, just run off. That way, you can keep in touch here and there and they know roughly where you are.
And don’t give me the “my family is because I come from an italian family who wouldn’t understand and would force me to come back home no matter what.” - your an adult, they cannot force you to do nothing, even if they disagree with your actions at least you done the right thing by telling your family and friends beforehand.
Yeah… I was thinking… 19 years old. Seems more like taking control of your own life than running away. But is running from people that love you (no matter how they make you feel) a good thing?. Sometimes it is appropriate to sever relations with your family…. other times it could be the biggest mistake in your life. Measure your actions carefully in that regard. Yes, becoming that adult, and moving away… is a far better idea then running way.
Bright blessings ~R
Hi Nazaire. It’s me again.
I’m thinking if you want to change your life and make a new start somewhere far from your family for a while, that’s alright. But you have to be well prepared before you do that. What’s that idea of sleeping in your car. If you’ve got money in the bank, you could make it easier than that on yourself. Also, did you realize that if you want to be sure to find a job easily in Montreal, you had better speak a little French ! It’s a very bilingual city. And you want to change your name ? You can’t get on a pay roll with a false name and social security number ! That’s why I tell you, you better be well prepared and really sure that’s what you want to do. Once you’re sure of that, then you can go. But you don’t really need to hide if your mind is really made up. Leave if you want to leave but don’t change your name. Be an adult and stand up for yourself. Well, that’s my opinion anyways …
I have applied to most universites in Montreal, unfortunately my highschool marks keep pulling me down. I don’t want to live somewhere else, thats my home. I know it is..I can’t explain it.
I hate it here. Everyone are so selfish. I am trying my best, I keep changing and trying but its not my fault. I realized that no matter how much I mature or change I can never change my environment. No matter how strong I am, I will never be happy. Its because I don’t have the things I want out of life. These things aren’t materialistic, as I am not a materialistic person. I keep letting people hurt me because I am too nice. I love the people around me but they don’t share that same feeling. They walk all over me, and I let them because If I stand up for myself I will be alone.
I will tell my parents im leaving, in a note. I wont tell them where because they will get me back. You think you know my situation but you don’t. My family aren’t like others. They don’t solve things with a simple conversation. My leaving would result in my older cousins and bro coming in, beating the **** out of me and pulling me back home with my tail between my legs. I have also talked to my parents, in a mature level about moving away for a year. It was out of the question until I am finished University.
Marylou, thank you so much. I understand I need to know french. Thank god I took all those courses during my 15 years of schooling. As for changing my name, I don’t think im doing it as a precaution. I have always had this passion for a fresh start. My uncles name is Nazaire…atleast before he died. I love that name. I also tend on thinking way more into this, trust me It will take me a few months of planning.
As for the past always coming back. Its not like you think. Its not something I did, its the way I was. Before, I used to like things like Video games, cards etc. I never really took an interest in my appearance or going out etc. My friends never gave me a chance, I guess they thought I was an embarrassment. The funny thing was is that I would never bring my hobbies into my social life. People are just idiots. No matter how hard I try, people will always see me that way, even though I am 100% different. I keep trying to change but I am out of room, theres nothing left for me to change about myself. Now, I need a change in environment. I can spread my wings and finally be happy. Sure there will be rough spots and the beginning will be hell, but i am strong. I want this, I deserve it. I don’t see why I should stay here, fight something that isn’t worth fighting.
I will never be close to my abusive brother. I will never be as good as I am to my cousins. No one notices me because of my past mistakes and I have spent to many lonely nights confused about my appearance and the people I care so much about don’t like me. Its funny, anytime I meet a new person they totally have me pegged at being a rich, snobby jock. Its only because thats what I am on the outside, in the inside I am all heart and everyone who knows me, knows that and decide to walk all over me. This is me standing up, running away, moving away it doesn’t matter.
You sound like you want to do it so do it with planning, money behide you and some foresight. So your not the families number one, many ain’t and i understand how you can feel as a result of what i’ve seen in my uncle as my dad was always the number number and he turned to drink because of it (trying…your choosing to run away (which at the moment, packing your bags and just going is running away).
All I would say is that you must tell your family, how can you beginning a new life as adult whilst acting in such a childish manner as just walking out on your family as your too scared to tell them due to fear of them stopping you.
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Umm hi everyone i am havin a problen in life i keep failing in my classes im 15
i need help but i dont trust anyone i know so i am going to try this out, my parents love me and they wish i would do my homework and class work and they just found out that i have been skipping classes latley i need some help on what tio do ASAP so if any of you can help me out ill explain in greater detail once you’ve reached me at my E-mail i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> Thank You
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look dear i don’t know what to say yes i say live your life but you really must try and speak to your family i been watching lots of tv dramas and a lot a adults and kids end up doing so much bad things beacause there parents never cared for them and it hurts but if don’t say anything or try cause like you said. when u say they are italian what do u mean by that meaning the god father thing right i am just asking so i can find out more
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I have decided that I am going to run away.
Right now I am off from University (year 1) for the summer and I am extremely depressed about my life. I hate the fact that my past mistakes continously haunt me and I am not having as much fun as I should be. On top of that I am sick of the same things every single day.
This is my plan. I am going to spend the next few months working out and getting my bartending license. Since I lost a lot of weight over the last few months, nearly 100 pounds to be exact, most pictures are outdated. I am going to avoid cameras and delete the few pictures they have of me thin. I am going to spend some time looking at the idea of a name change. On top of all this I am going to have to throw my family in a different direction. During these next few months I am going to tell my family how much I wish I could live in New York. On the side I am going to tell my sister Ottawa. This will make sure they wont suspect Montreal.
When I am done working out, and working full-time I am going to get access to my savings account which has almost 20 grand in it. The day I leave I am going to pack everything, including lots of blankets and pillows. I plan on sleeping in my car for the first couple of weeks or so until I find a decent apartment or job. This works because the weather is pretty warm right now. Thats why its perfect. I am going to leave a note to my family, apologizing and saying everything I wish to tell them. That day I will drive the long six hours to Montreal and sleep the night in my car. The morning I will start searching for a job somewhere I know I will run into a friend of the family. Since he doesn’t know me that well, theres a large chance he wont recognize me. He will be my security blanket in case I ever need help.
The reason I am being so secretive to my family is because I come from an italian family who wouldn’t understand and would force me to come back home no matter what. So what do you think? Bad idea or not?
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