life help: Why is just allowing people to walk all over you something people tell you have to deal with?

rstorku

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Why is just allowing people to walk all over you something people tell you have to deal with?

It hardly seems fair - yeah yeah i know life isn’t fair - but we got to keep our dignity, and just letting someone talk to you as if you were a stupid child who didn’t know a thing, or if by doing something minor like havin unshined shoes your pulling the walls of civilization down around you - letting someone speak to you in a demeaning way, that’s not right. Then you finally do speak up after years of hearing a person speak to people in such a way, with no consideration, after all that time, you stick up for someone when you know it isn’t fair the way they’re being gone crook on - you get in trouble as well - they’re grateful you stuck up for them but then someone else tells you they understand what you did but sometimes you just have bite your tongue and not say anything - you’d be surprised to have any tongue left after seven years. you don’t blame the person for giving you such advice but it’s sad that such advice has to be given - in a land of democracy and free speech and the right not to be verbally harassed, not to be spoken to in a demeaning way - advice like that shouldn’t be given. People have to have common courtesy for those around them - sure you have the right to be angry at times, and you might snap out at someone, but you don’t talk to evryone like they’re ignorant and foolish - sometimes the best way to get across a message is to be polite, to ask of someone politely not demand it. I do feel sorry for such people -truly, though i rant and rave against them and yes, speak abusively of them (which is wrong) - i do feel sorry for them, that they do have the happiness that makes things easier to deal with, that they should find some happiness. I feel bad that i do talk meanly of them. Just the whole thing annoys me sometimes. Maybe i wouldn’t mind so much if i was getting paid

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Kiz 1 #
An Unknown Location | 6 years ago (18 minutes after post)

What would you be getting paid for? Being walked all over? Being abused? I had that working for a IT retailer doing customer service. I can’t stand it when people seem to think they know more about you and who you are and what you are like than you do yourself. I have come to believe that people to it to feel more powerful. That was in the case of them not getting what they wanted or not hearing what they wanted and it made them feel better to talk down to, or abuse, someone whether it’s their fault or not. Common courtesy is hard to find sometimes. I found some groups of friends, even entire communities can be very courteous towards each other and total strangers, yet the majority seem to feel it is their moral and civil duty (and human right) to put someone else down and walk all over them. Enduring such a thing for years just becomes an enormour burden. If you are a friend willing to speak out for someone suffering the footprints of others thats very commendable. I do no believer, however, that you should also be walked on, disregarded or told to ignore the situation as well. No one should ever have to put up with such treatment. Unfortunately such a thing is nigh impossible. I have determined myself to speak up immediately if I’m not happy with my treatment or other peoples adverse attitudes toward me. Don’t take the abuse from the start and don’t let it become a burden. If I was trying to help someone else suffering other people’s footprints, I would get as many like-minded people as myself to help out, and speak out against the person or people walking over my friend. I hate people who need to feel powerful at the expense of others. I really really do.

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Aurora, CO, US | 6 years ago (15 hours, 42 minutes after post)

If you let people walk all over you. Thats your problem, I personally never do. Unless I notice that it is in my best interest to do so.
You don’t have to let people walk all over you, who ever says you should deal with it, are the kind of people that are weak, lack of confidence, and have low self esteem.

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rstorku 1 #
AU | 6 years ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

the thing sometimes the pl that tell u to do so r trying to look out for u - make ur life easier in the world - it is easier sometimes just to accept it and not make waves - that s wat i find kinda sad - that instead of correctin many ppl are acceptin - but then mine’s only small scale - and i only had myself to worry about - wen iit affects other ppl more than ur self i can understand it’d be alot more difficult

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An Unknown Location | 5 years, 9 months ago (2 months, 4 weeks after post)

yeah but without anyone getting mad at you how do you stop people from walking all over you.

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 7 months ago (2 years, 4 months after post)

I agree with all of you! Have a great, burden-free day everyone! :D

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