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lol! thank you Rich! I loved the PTA thing.
Is it just me or do we as parents have to be alot more involved than our parents were? My mom never ONCE helped me with homework, or go to one meeting aside from the parent teacher conference. It wasn’t as if she was being neglectful, NO parents were expected to do as much as we are today. I’m not arguing about helping my child, but it seems as though we are expected to do a certain percentage FOR the child, which I think is wrong. After reading my 4th or 5th paragraph, that I have been assigned my my kids teacher, I have to stop and say, “wait a minute! I all ready DID second grade!”
As far as my putz, I mean my husband, we spoke last night. I told him that not doing these things with our daughter is causing a rift between them. It’s a rift that will one day make it alot easier for her to get into the backseat of some guys car. That got his attention. He didn’t realize that the relationship wasn’t self sustaining, and fell into the trap that, “she knows I love her- that’s all I have to do as a dad” I think he is aware now and will try. I honestly don’t think he ever directly means to be a sh1thead, it’s more by default! Ah well, I love him anyhow. thanks for the replies!

I agree that everyone is doing more, and it ends up back on someone’s plate- usually the parent.But is it fair that we should be doing so much FOR the kids? WHat are they really learning from my reading of the paragraphs, or from me doing the crossword puzzle? I had to do it all on my own, and it taught me to do my own work. I fear we are teaching our kids how to shove it all onto someone else’s lap.
Things are a little different here, we live in the biggest city in Saskatchewan, but it still only takes 20 minutes by bus for my husband to get to work, or 10 minutes by car. He’s home a little after 4:30 everyday, and I’m a stay at home mom. We live 1 house away from a huge wheat field. It’s pretty laid back. We’ve also decided to not overload our kids with this practice and those lessons like so many parents do. Not that it’s wrong, if you can do it, but I don’t think anything can be gained from over scheduling them. I just know myself. My fundamental goal is peace. That cannot be attained from spending my life at hockey arenas and soccer fields and piano lessons and tap classes. This summer the kids will be doing swimming, and the other kid will be doing tee ball. Period. No more. We might go camping for a week too. But other than that, they can run barefoot and find frogs and bugs and ride their bikes everyday like I did as a kid.
Wow you really made me think alot! Thanks for that.

I completly agree. that is what I was telling my mother last night. I said, “God was NOT a part of that meeting last night.” I do it for the reasons I mentioned above. I want her to be a part of this particular school system, because it is better supported where I live, and because I want the idea of God to be introduced to her in her daily life (and public schools disallow the mention of God while there) so this is really my only option for that, unless i wanted to home school and there is NO way I’d do that.
I would say I was a Catholic in name only. I don’t subscribe to many of their beleifs, and I really wanted to use it as a base point in my kids beleif system, as it was in mine. I went to the schools, and had a good experience, but my horizons have broadened greatly since then. But part of sending them to the school is partaking of their rituals, whether I like it or not. So I came, and vented, and got through it. Now I move on. Thanks for your post.