Love help: How do you forgive a friend who slept with your girlfriend? - Help.com

That was a huge breach of trust. If the relationship is to go on as a friendship, that trust has to be restored. You kind of have to go with your feelings on this, and judge for yourself whether you want to keep them as friends. Speaking for myself, I don’t think I could have a relationship with either.

This was years ago, and you have all been friends forever… a door hopefully opened in your life and you’ve moved on to happiness and you VALUE this long friendship. If not, you deserve to move on. If that means dumping them, at least for now, do it. See where tomorrow takes you. But don’t forget that these friends must care for you… noone can steal someone, she must not have felt that you were a love interest. But the FRIENDSHIP survived. It sounds like you made out better than most love interests.

Whoa… this is a tough one. I guess you just have to accept it. But… you will never be friends with them as you once were. Some wounds leave scars and this one definitely does. You can forgive if you want, but never forget. It will always loom like a huge shadow around the relationship you have with them.
Make new friends. Good luck!

Forgiveness doesnt mean to forget. If you remained friends with him, it shows you have already forgiven him. Clearly for you though, the situation never became resolved. Figure out within yourself what YOU can do to find closure in that. Once you find that closure, you will be able to move past this.

Don’t forgive - just forget him. He’s no friend, just acting the part.

I had a situation similar. This is how I handled it. I met with the friend whom I loved dearly, and told her how I felt.. But not freaking out..not accusingly. I just told her how saddened I was that she threw a wrench in our friendship. That I could forgive her but I knew that it didnt matter becuase she probably wouldnt really beleive it. So, unfortunately I was going to have to sever ties with her. Because no matter how much I was going to miss my dear friend..she had tossed mistrust inot the ring. I basically didnt make it about what she had ‘done to me’. I made it about what she had done to us, our friendship, and to herself…basically i lectured her about the type of human being she could end up being if she could jeapordize such a close realtionship just for selfish immediate motives.. I told her I didnt want that for her. That she still had a chance to shape her life the way she wanted. That she could be the type of woman she wanted to be. That I wasnt going to hate her and villify her just so she could look at herself and be like..’I'm just a messed up person’ wich is what she tried to do and just go on with her life like that. No, I held her accountable, let her know what hurt and damage she had wreaked, and how I thought more of her than that, and that I forgave her and implored her to get her sh*t straight befor she went down the path of darkness and selfishness and despair. And I broke up our friendship with a hug and well wishes.
maybe6months to a year later… we ran into each other.. and began to sort of talk and hang again. I just let bygones be bygones because I said everything I wanted to say. And because I truly love my friend alot. I just chalked it up to immaturity and lack of morals.. but I feel like in forgiving and wanting the best for her.. I found a way to heal..and so did she. It has been brought up once or twice since.. she knows my other friends know what she did..and she was embarressed.. but everyone make mistakes… it comes down to love. If you truly love your friend, forgive and try to learn from it…learn about your friend, yourself, and your lovers.. If you feel hate… pity them, and let ‘em go.