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I think that I’m in transition from bisexual to lesbian.

I say this because for the past 6 months or more, I’ve been repeatedly disappointed by men which comes as no surprise, and I’m wondering if I should just shut them out for life. What do you think?

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[think peace] offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 minutes after post)

i think you should follow your heart. if you believe that you no longer can love men then be a lesbian

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Queen Elizatron 4000 offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (5 minutes after post)

I’m bisexual, and somewhat know how you feel. Anger towards men will easily push you into what you’re going through. Perhaps getting better man friends would do the trick?

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*lilies offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 719 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (10 minutes after post)

my opinion is that no matter what your gender is you are always capable of loving. We face disappointments everyday. Even lesbian relationships have their own problems and mysteries the same as any boy-girl relationships.
so good luck and god bless in your life’s choices. :o)

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spur_cons1 offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Nicosia, 04, CY | 1 year, 4 months ago (13 minutes after post)

It doesn’t help..I’ve tried to find better men. But hey, in the country I live in, they’re hopeless. They’re people like Oracle who ask for a blow before I turn lesbian.. ts ts ts…. Anyway, I’d expect that from a man.
My only comfort is that I’ll be leaving this dump soon to go study in the UK. But I feel these last few months are gonna be so heavy..

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spur_cons1 offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Nicosia, 04, CY | 1 year, 4 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Thanks lilies and daisies, the same to you :)

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Queen Elizatron 4000 offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (18 minutes after post)

This is true, I have been hurt by women plenty of times, but for me, men hurt me the most.

Perhaps you’re hurt by men the most because you want them but aren’t getting any luck with them? You feel rejected by men, so you hate them? If you hate men, then why care how they act, they are simple minded fools right? I think you care about them more then you want to admit.

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spur_cons1 offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Nicosia, 04, CY | 1 year, 4 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Oracle, go listen to the wind blow through your head as I’m sure its barren. You and I obviously both know greek very well, and we both know what you meant to say. Go and be yourself, somewhere else. Don’t bother me with your crap.

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spur_cons1 offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Nicosia, 04, CY | 1 year, 4 months ago (24 minutes after post)

Maybe I do care, and that’s my mistake. U are right, they are simple minded fools, even if you meant to joke about it. I have been hurt by them, disappointed, and bitter, but I have never been rejected by any. That isn’t the problem. It’s meeting a decent one that is the problem… But when I’m with women they seem to understand things men couldn’t possibly imagine.

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spur_cons1 offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Nicosia, 04, CY | 1 year, 4 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Yes Oracle, thanks for proving my point about men. You are obviously an epitomy of a simple minded foolish one. To say the least. But proving that is all I’ll thank you for.

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spur_cons1 offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Nicosia, 04, CY | 1 year, 4 months ago (27 minutes after post)

Thanks Heather Marie, I’ll give that one some thought. :)

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Mee123 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (6 hours, 24 minutes after post)

Eh its just a label.

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nightsinge offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Bellingham, WA, US | 1 year, 4 months ago (7 hours, 19 minutes after post)

Be with women for now. You create your identity and you can call yourself what you will, but the most important thing is that you love who you love and feel good and enriched by those experiences.

I was bi for ten years and then gave up men completely. I took time to hear and learn what my heart truly wanted. Either path is fine, only be gentle with yourself and don’t rush yourself. May your path be filled with delights.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (8 hours, 51 minutes after post)

I’m sorry that guys don’t treat you right but as others have said, it’s not just men. Men may do it more often than not but women are also capable of doing the same thing. I hope you find someone who treats you how you should be treated.

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**Rainbow Girl** offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 62 #
US | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 day, 21 hours after post)

Be who you want to be.Whatever makes you happy go with that.xo

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tua0567 offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
US | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 days, 10 hours after post)

are you still sexually attracted to them or are you turned off completely now?

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tua0567 offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
US | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 days, 11 hours after post)

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Luton, I1, GB | 1 year, 4 months ago (5 days, 1 hour after post)

It doesn’t matter who you are attracted to just be attract to them
So if you are half bi half lesbian, then that doesnt matter

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spur_cons1 offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Nicosia, 04, CY | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 weeks after post)

Thanks everyone :) Seems I’m still bisexual but happy to be single for the moment. Things have been good.
Thanks again :) xoxo

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