Family help: What do you all feel about your significant other hang out and spending alot of her free time with her ex boyfriend ? - Help.com

Hi man,

Your wife should not be doing this, but there must be a reason behind it - ask her why? are you not spending enough time together with her and your kids? when he takes your kids out, are you around at the time or at work? do you take your kids and your wife out?

In my opinion she should not be spending time with another man, this is completely wrong - for whatever reason she has, my wife doesnt do this and if she does I would be very upset, make it clear that you dont like it, explain to her that it hurts you and it matters to you - ask her if you are not doing something you should be doing - you sound like a reasonable guy. If she doesnt cooperate/listen then try talking to someone that she respects to mediate between you.

I hope it works out man, under any circumstance, remember God and thank him for everything, you do the right thing, take care of your wife and kids.

Peace

Hi,

I would make yourself absolutely clear. You already told her it bothered you, now is a good time to make suggestions to resolve this. Would it be OK if they still see each other, but only when you are here too? Or that your kids never hang out with him, but she can see him? Maybe for you the limit is that they don’t see each other at all. And that’s OK. You have to see with yourself what you can tolerate. And it seems that the present situation is not OK for you. Trust yourself, it means it’s not!
And I wouldn’t talk about divorce before having talked through all possible options with your wife. If none is OK for both of you, then yes mention a possible separation, which would then match to be your intention. Therefore it is not a threat.
I doubt things would go that far. Just make yourself clear, and see what happens.

Good luck!

Angelica