Love help: How can i tell a girl that she neds to loose some weight? - Help.com

wow, thats a hard 1

why? is she morbidly obese? if not, then you probably have no business telling her anything.
if it’s affecting her health tell her, if not, i would stay out of that whole business.

Hell hath no fury like the wrath of a woman scorned

calling a girl fat is one of the worst things you can do, no matter how true it may be, believe me >

just say that you’re happy with how she looks and that she’s not fat but maybe losing a bit of weight would help her to be more healthy, make sure you say that you’re only telling her because you care about her though, that way it’s nicer

here’s an idea. :o)
suggest that she would go walking or do some exercise. and the best part is, you can join her do those activities. you can look after her, be with her for support and this is also good for bonding.

yeh, tell her you wanna go for a walk or something, and take along for fun.

although if she’s seriously overweight, walking won’t do it…

u jog in the morning of at weekends, swim, walk in the park, take the stairs instead of the lift. or u can tell her u are also watching your own weight. u can make that as a funny competition for the both of you. watch each other’s diet would do.

join biggest looser :P

When you do you wear a crash helmetknee pads and all the other potection that footballers wear, then run..very..very.. fast

hahahahaha

btw everyone just need to make this distinction:

lose /luz/
–verb (used with object)
1. to come to be without (something in one’s possession or care), through accident, theft, etc., so that there is little or no prospect of recovery: I’m sure I’ve merely misplaced my hat, not lost it.

NOT

loose /lus/
–adjective
1. free or released from fastening or attachment: a loose end.

8. lax, as the bowels.
9. lacking moral restraint or integrity; notorious for his loose character.
10. sexually promiscuous or immoral; unchaste.
11. not firm, taut, or rigid: a loose tooth; a loose rein.

13. not fitting closely or tightly: a loose sweater.

….?

everyone’s been mispelling “lose” as “loose”
it’s so persistent i felt i had to point it out…

O.o

sorry..It just reminds me of my daughter

tell her she looks good but would look and feel better if she lost weight

telling someone that they need to lose wieght, in today’s weight obsessed culture, is the same as telling them they are not good enough the way they are. That is whatthey will hear, regardless of how you say it. If this person is seriously obese, they ALL READY KNOW they have to lose weight. If they are just a pinch over weight, then nothing has to be said at all.

telling someone that they need to lose wieght, in today’s weight obsessed culture, is the same as telling them they are not good enough the way they are. That is whatthey will hear, regardless of how you say it. If this person is seriously obese, they ALL READY KNOW they have to lose weight. If they are just a pinch over weight, then nothing has to be said at all.

I have no idea why that double posted…

Do not, do not tell her she needs to lose weight. That will only lead to crippling her self esteem and making her think that her value is based on her weight. Trust, even if you try to do it gently, it still hits hard. Chances, if she asked, she’s thinking about. But it’s a decision she has to make for her self, not for you, or anyone else.

The only exception would be if she were morbidly obese, which is, or will cause serious health problems in the future.

As to just walking, well that could be fine. Losing weight slowly is less stressful. Perhaps she’ll start walking a lot and see a couple pounds drop. This is very motivating. Then she may cut out sugary sodas and drink from her diet and see an even bigger change. She may get fond of losing weight and then do it all on her own.

Only don’t suggest the walking as a way to help her lose way. Just say hey, I feel kind of restless, want to go for a walk. I really enjoyed that walk the other day, maybe we should do it more often.

Avoid, any mention of weight, even health related weight like the plague (unless morbidly obese). Girls in this generation are so sensitive that any hint to the fact others think them *fat* will poisen their self esteem, and might lead to over-eating and depression.

Ohhh thats tricky.
1. a girl hates being told shes fat.
2. she probably would appreciate tho.
Soo…

Try just saying or do you fancy cumern to the gym with me or going running or sum type of exercise every week so then shes not doing it alone and it doing it subtley.
Subtle works liek a charm.