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mapiqwst
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okay so i went out with this guy 6 years ago.

He ended up getting married has 2 kids but one is not his, but his wife says it is….anyways i recently have found him on a different website… and when i looked at his profile all my old feelings about him came back to and i dont know what i should do about…he was a really good friend to me and when ever i see him at his work he tries to talk to me and flirt with me…and i guess i still like him but i feel that if i talk to him im just hurting myself, knowing that i cant have him…i dont know what to do……

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Tobirocus offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (9 minutes after post)

the best thing to do with pain is to fight it……i know……
talk to him see how he is going, be friends with him again, even though you cant have him. you can always still have a friend. thats the most important thing

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Engleby77 offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 Add Friend #
GB | 2 years, 6 months ago (5 hours, 16 minutes after post)

If he really was a good friend to you, then there’s no reason why you cannnot continue with the friendship. But the fact that it will possibly mean that it will simply cause you more pain suggests that you should avoid this by trying to forget about him in that way, at least. I think it would be better for you to forget about him and move on with your life. It is better to be safer in protecting your feelings than going out with a married man and causing both his family and yourself the hurt which is almost inevitable to follow. You’re better off finding love with someone who is free to love you back completely.

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Rainbow Girl offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (8 hours, 1 minute after post)

You cant help how you like.You where with him for 6 years.You can still be friends with him but he has 2 kids.I think he still likes so but you may have to give this some time.Just think about it.Things may work out or they may not.In the end its up to you.xoxox

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