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well, try to figure out what exactly do you feel about this person. talk heart to heart and see if things are going to work out.
Does he have valid reasons to get jealous? if yes, then you have to do something about it.

have u talked with him about this? is he jealous bec u are saying hi to guy friends or he thinks u are flirting around them? some gf and bf are very sensitive to body language or non verbal communication. there are times when we think we’re acting pretty normal but actually we’re almost flirting.
what does he say to you regarding this? what does he want u to do?

i do not exactly know the details and how he deals with you in this kind of matter. but u know what, jealousy is sometimes cute but should not go overboard. if he knows that u love him, then he should trust you and u do the same to him. he might be upset bec he has certain issues that he has not been able to express to you and has been suppressing that feeling. the feeling of insecurity is recurring.

if u want to want to work things out, give him the option of talking with you and tell him EXACTLY what u want him to know.

when we love someone, it does not have to mean that we go STOP dealing with other people. we need people and friends along the way. we need to breath for awhile anf get recharged. how old are you and how old is your guy?

Sounds to me like it just wasnt meant to be. I know its hard but I would in the very least break up for a little while. Maybe youll see he was the best thing that could ever have happpened to you or maybe you’ll find someone way more suitable but you really need to find out for sure before this relationship goes any further.

jealously like this, where you lose your friends, is not healthy. He is trying to control you. He wants to keep you away from your friends, cuz they pose a threat to your relationship. I know that it doesn’t really, but in his jealous mind, it does. The first sign of what will lead to abuse, is when he tries to keep you away from your friends/family. I had a sister that went thru the same thing. He kept her in a little glass bowl, when she finally tried to break out, get a job, he followed her to work every day. When she tried to leave him, he stalked her all the time. She was finally able to get away from him, but it took years.. Sometimes, some girls are not that lucky. Go now before it gets worse.

Now, think. Has love become just a word? I say if you don’t love him, break up with him. Be honest with him and honest with yourself. He’s not happy, you’re obviously not happy. Ask yourself all of the hard questions. Be honest with your answers. Just do this without telling yourself what you want to hear. And then my dear, you’ll know what to do about it.

Luff,
-Aqua

Maybe Sitesurfer’s words are a bit hard, but I tend to agree. You need other people and you should not keep away from them. It is your boyfriend’s f** job to trust you, otherways you will not be comfortable. You shall of course not cheat him with others, but he must try to be comfortable with that you have friends and contacts. Should he start spying or questioning your whereabouts too much, that will instead lead to that you will seek comfort with somebody else, sooner or later.
Unfortunately often later, meaning a lot of suffering and a lot of badly spent time.

I actually think that you should go one step further, seeking advice from somebody who knows signs of controlling disorders. It is much more common than you may think. Does he love you, or does he SAY that he loves you? Look at his actions more than listen to his words! Does he SAY that it’ll destroy him if it’s over.. - do you really believe that? Does he make you believe that you have to thank him for sooo much… and so on? Do you REALLY love him, or does HE convince you that you love him?
Look into his past life - have “everybody” been bad to him, making him suffer? If he did something bad or stupid towards you, making somebody else complaining or accusing - do you defend him then?
I am asking those questions without knowing details, but in order to have you to see certain patterns that would make a psychologist interested.
Make a list of what he has done and said, with a “plus-” and a “minus”-coloumn.
Then make a judgement, preferably with the help from a non-biased person, whether or not your boyfriend tries to control you.

Oh god your in the same thing as I am. He loves me to death but he’s being obessive, and I’m losing all my love for him and starting to like other guys.

I think the best thing to do is to tell him. I’m finding it way to hard to do it to but I think it has to be done.