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Advice to all.

I’ve been here a while and notice alot of people take this site a little too much to heart. It should not take the place of actually living your life and learning from your own experiences. People get a little too wraped up in living their lives on this site and learning life’s lessons here. I see this site as entertaining and I do come here alot, but I do have a life to lead and family to take care of. People give their opinions on topics but that’s all it really is: opinions. Life is learned through trial and error. Sometimes I give my opinions halfheartedly, because that’s the way life should be lived. There aren’t too many mistakes that can’t be overcome and making a fool of yourself can always be overcome, so don’t be afraid. Do not take things so seriously. Life is a journey. And no one can truly give you the correct answer to your life’s problems because no one here knows all the details of your problem but you. Do not get too wrapped up here. Get out and don’t rely on this site to solve all your problems.

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Sida offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 22 #
Tucson, AZ, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (32 minutes after post)

100% agree with you, Cajun. Reality rules.

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lostforever offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 23 #
Upper Marlboro, MD, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (44 minutes after post)

Cajun, I am brand new on here. Thank you for that heartfelt advice. I know several people on help.com. They do spend alot of time logged in, thats for sure. I hope that I do not fall into that rut.
But I gotta admit. The people on here are very nice.
The allure is great.
Thanks for the advice. :o)
amanda

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DoubleO offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Sayreville, NJ, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

Well said. I agree.

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Burnley, H2, GB | 2 years, 6 months ago (1 hour, 42 minutes after post)

I agree too, but I only come on when there’s a reply to one of my posts..i don’t have many, and if it’s something that interests me..apart from that, not on here that much

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Cajun offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 6 months ago (1 hour, 46 minutes after post)

I’m just nosey, thats my problem.

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adrianna offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (2 hours after post)

What? I only give the BEST advice! :P
Okay fine, I’ll admit it - I agree with you.

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rookandpawn offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
San Jose, CA, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (3 hours, 25 minutes after post)

sound advice cajun

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♥Finley (JAYS) offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (3 hours, 49 minutes after post)

sooo true, you really have to figure out how to balance everything. i try to only be on when i’m working, though sometimes i end up half-assing it. very wise advice indeed.

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Cajun offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 6 months ago (4 hours, 7 minutes after post)

yes I know I said advise and not advice, smart ***.

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adrianna offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (4 hours, 8 minutes after post)

Ohhh I am so glad I read that. I wanted to correct it from the begining, but I have been working so hard to hold myself back from correcting spelling and grammar!

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♥Finley (JAYS) offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (4 hours, 10 minutes after post)

me??

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adrianna edited this post 2 years, 6 months ago. Read the previous text »

Advise to all.
I’ve been here a while and notice alot of people take this site a little too much to heart. It should not take the place of actually living your life and learning from your own experiences. People get a little too wraped up in living their lives on this site and learning lifes lessons here. I see this site as entertaining and I do come here alot, but I do have a life to lead and family to take care of. People give their opinions on topics but thats all it really is, opinions. Life is learned through trial and error. I sometimes I give my opinions halfheartedly, because thats the way life should be lived. There arn’t too many mistakes that can’t overcome and making a fool of yourself can always be overcome, so dont be afraid. Do not take things so seriously. Life is a journey. And no one can truely give you the correct answer to your lifes problems because no one here knows all the details of your problem but you. Do not get too wraped up here. Get out and dont rely on this site to solve all your problems.

adrianna offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (4 hours, 13 minutes after post)

Cajun - please forgive me for editing. I gave in to temptation.

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Cajun offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 6 months ago (4 hours, 28 minutes after post)

Thanks adrianna, and yes thanks fin for pointing that out.

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Cajun offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 6 months ago (4 hours, 30 minutes after post)

and your still my hero

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♥Finley (JAYS) offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (4 hours, 35 minutes after post)

lol i wasn’t pointing it out, i didn’t even notice it actually.

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♥Finley (JAYS) offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (4 hours, 47 minutes after post)

and you may want to rethink that, i’d make quite a pathetic hero in my present state

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Cajun offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 6 months ago (4 hours, 53 minutes after post)

I’m sure I could still find a good use for that one hand

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♥Finley (JAYS) offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (5 hours, 2 minutes after post)

lol you’re mean. are you always so cruel to cripples?

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Cajun offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 6 months ago (5 hours, 6 minutes after post)

Who is mean to who, my dear. I wouldnt even go there. If you had no arms I would still……………………………………….

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Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 6 months ago (5 hours, 19 minutes after post)

I was going to say something sweet

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Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 6 months ago (5 hours, 20 minutes after post)

not what you were thinking, fin

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adrianna offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (5 hours, 25 minutes after post)

Can anyone say, stop while you’re ahead?

Jusss kiddin’ :)

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Mï†z¥-superMODel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Tullahoma, TN, US | 2 years, 6 months ago (7 hours, 11 minutes after post)

Thank you Cajun… I am one of the addicts, but I am learning to balance everything now. I am still wrapped up in the site but also wrapping myself back up in my family as well. I don’t see any reason I can’t have both :D I love my family, and I love it here.

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Hope offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (12 hours, 26 minutes after post)

That is really great advice, Cajun.

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Maximina offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (15 hours, 45 minutes after post)

Well said Cajun. I am a person who normally has to process my problems verbally and this sight gives my families and friends a break from hearing about my issues. I do think that some of the advice I have received is very valuable, even from you Cajun. I agree that this is not the place to live your life, but it is nice to visit and connect with nice people on occasion.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (1 day, 12 hours after post)

You are 100% right Cajun, this site should be fun and just a past time, not a way of life. Things do sometimes get a little heated, and I am also guilty of getting to involved in a post and taking it to heart. After reading your comment, I will make a point to stay focused and keep things light. Thanks

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Milverton, ON, CA | 2 years, 5 months ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

i happen to fully agree with you

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Post it!64 offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Mottville, NY, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (2 weeks, 4 days after post)

………

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cajunpom offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (2 weeks, 4 days after post)

Hi cajun,
I am new here and I think that is great advice.

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Lancaster, CA, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (2 weeks, 6 days after post)

hi there! i have the same problem too. but since u havent hand the invitation yet just cool - off. tell your fiance that u need time, so to urself too. think and breath and dont even try to communicate to ur ex.

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Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 5 months ago (2 weeks, 6 days after post)

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Times' gone mad offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
Silver Spring, MD, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (2 weeks, 6 days after post)

Canjun, I’ve been here a little while, and sometimes you give heartfelt advice, and sometimes it’s short. That’s life—I just feel bad for the people who don’t get the heart felt advice…is what it is, it’s a ‘help site’ not I’m gonna live life for you.

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Cajun offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 5 months ago (2 weeks, 6 days after post)

And its not a “I’m goining to tell you what you want to hear, just to make you feel better” site.

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Post it!64 offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Mottville, NY, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (3 weeks after post)

well thats good

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Cajun offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 5 months ago (3 weeks after post)

yeh, even though I’m just crazy, huh postit.

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Post it!64 offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Mottville, NY, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (3 weeks after post)

huh ohh….. yeah
lol

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Cajun offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 5 months ago (3 weeks after post)

and how many birthdays have you had this week.

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Post it!64 offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Mottville, NY, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (3 weeks after post)

i think about 6 or 7?

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Cajun offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 5 months ago (3 weeks after post)

happy birthdays.

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Post it!64 offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Mottville, NY, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (3 weeks after post)

thanks

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Peachtree City, GA, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (3 weeks after post)

i need advice. i feel ridiculous putting this online. but its come to this. how do i post my problem? okay i feel even cooler for putting it that way but i guess i really am taht desperate for another opinion at this point.

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Cajun offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 5 months ago (3 weeks after post)

Ask it on the front page of this site. Or ask right here like you just did if you have to, I dont mind

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (1 month after post)

I find this more of place to go when you’re bored than anything else.
It’s INTERESTING. It can be intellectual and intriguing, or sometimes just plain stupid and superficial.
But that’s life right?
Thanks for the reminder. ;D

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Hanapepe, HI, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (1 month after post)

but some ppl need this site so they can tell how they feel.

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Toronto, ON, CA | 2 years, 4 months ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

Very enjoyable…very true..Life is waiting for you….

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 4 months ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

cajun, i don’t live my life on this site. i just come on if i’m really not sure of something and to help pplz. good night!!

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dillyB offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Frederick, MD, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

i like to hear the opinions. it helps. all my friends are my BF’s friends-and well they were all his friends first so thats just asking for trouble!

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Hanapepe, HI, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (1 month, 4 weeks after post)

i only put the things that i can’t say to my friends or my parents.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

hey its post it!64 i changed my account cause 4 some reason they blocked me…………………………………….f****** weirdos

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