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stupid helpbot!!! i think that their is not much you can do other than accept that this is how he expresses himself. try to understand that he is not mad at you so much as he is mad at current situations and that you could potentially be in harms way.

I don’t think he should express himself through anger. Did he know that there was a chance that you would be deployed before you got married?

Yes, he might not like to be separated from you but he has to understand that you don’t like it either. If you haven’t tried this as yet, try telling him how you feel about all his anger and how it’s not helping you or him for that matter. Ask him why he is saying awful things when he should be filling your ears with words of love, sadness of being apart from you, etc.

He has to change how he communicates with you because his anger, whether it is his way of expressing himself or not, might drive a wedge b/w you two and it can be harmful to your relationship.

hes angry because youve put yourself in a position where the risk of death is quite high(i suppose) and that just sort of seems as though you put your job above him.
but that feeling will be heighteed seeing as you just got married.
hes scared

A lot of people express concern in….’misguided’ ways. He’s worried you’ll get hurt or killed; most men feel this protectiveness over the women in their lives. You’re going to be far away where he can’t protect or help you. You need to let him know you’re trained in this, you’ll be surrounded by other trained soldiers, this is what you want to do, and if he really loved you he would support you. And if you’re lonely, make buddies with the other people at your base. Poker games for small change are always great ice breakers :)