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There’s always a friend in each of us waiting to be turned to. Look inside yourself before you look unto others. And once you are ready, turn to the world. This world is for you to change, no matter how discouraging it may seem. It won’t change if you don’t change it.

As much as you probably don’t want to hear it, God cares. This world cares. Like it or not, your life has made differences.

Some people may count on you in the future. Do you want to deprive them of that? They will look for someone to be there, and you won’t be there. Wait for your chance, every life has meaning. Even if you haven’t figured it out yet.

Talk to her about what? How you feel? Are you depressed? Maybe try to find friends that understand you. Keep a diary/journal that could help. Get a hobby to distract you, I know it’s hard but keep your mind busy on something other than how miserable your feeling.

Inside. Everything comes from within yourself. Take time every day to stop. Stop thinking. Stop moving. Stop knitting. Just… breathe. Close yourself to the world and be at peace.

The sadness will last for a while, maybe a long time. But sadness is part of life. A forest without dark places has value only to the woodcutter.

you feel alone but you are not … the feeling is as much in your head as it is in your heart … know that the aloneness is an illusion … I feel it often until I realize that there is some awsome stuff goin’ on within me and around me … if it’s about no other people being around you that could be a problem only if there is no transportation … since you are posting an internet statement I believe you have phone usage … no, I belive you are looking for that touch of another that tells you > hello I see you …hello I’ll talk to you … hello … are you looking for validation ? companionship ? aproval ………? been there done that … when I get to that lonely place I take a breath and go to a place of calm a place where I KNOW that I’m here because somnething beyond all the plastic put me here, put us ALL here for a reason … GOD DON’T MAKE NO JUNK … others in fear or anger or judgement try to put labels on me, on others … all that stuff out there has nothing to do with you … it’s just another’s illusion … they don’t know the SPEACIAL BEAUTIFUL OUTRAGEOUS YOU that you are … I’ll invite you to let other see the you that you are … maybe they just don’t hear your music … thier loss … this my favorite quote it’s from Angela Monet it goes like this … ” those who danced were once thought to be quite insane by those who did not hear the music … … … NAMASTE … the spirit within me recognizes the spirit within you

I agree with everyone who’s saying that your loneliness is an illusion. Your mind really does shape your reality to a remarkable extent.
But I can’t just say, hey be happy!, I know better than that. It’s not that easy.
So I would say, try to get out of the house, find a purposeful activity that gives meaning to your day, maybe volunteer at your local animal shelter, take up an exercise routine, and yes at first it will be a drag to do all these things but in time things will start looking up.

hey now moocow.. that’s not a good attitude to have. you should be grateful people care enough to even type out a response. you did post in an open website viewed by many people, you should accept anything that comes your way.
Most people on this website have good intentions and truly want to help. Just because you don’t find their answer to your request helpful doesn’t mean you should throw everything away…
Really, it would do you good to appreciate people’s time and to be more thankful.
I wish you the best, and I’m taking time to help and care about a stranger. That’s what this website is about. Isn’t it remarkable?

uhh… you’re welcome?

and you started your post by saying “i feel so alone”

******** have a bad attitude. why do you ask for help if you’re not gonna accept it? with that rotten way of treating people who are trying to help you, it’s no wonder you’re stuck in such a rut. maybe if you treated people better (including yourself) you wouldn’t make yourself so miserable.
you know, there’s not excuse to be rude, especially to people with good intentions who are trying to help you. there’s something seriously wrong with the way you see the world.

calm yourself. don’t cut yourself, that’s not going to make things better in the long run. learn to accept others.

and if we misunderstood, it’s because you didn’t communicate your problem very well. how are we supposed to know any more about you than what you typed? listen, people are trying to help, but you can’t get mad when they don’t know everything about you. it’s up to you to communicate your problem in the best way you can and then explain things when they’re misunderstood

hmm the *** are dam, u have a bad attitude. lol not as bad as it looks.

hey moocow … I mean no thing but love, but often as now I am seen as something else … but it’s it’s all OK … no it’s all good ’cause I understand that I see others and thier intention as unfriendly very often, until I realize that all this stuff I’m thinkin’ is simply a story I’ve made in my head … it’s not really about what others are thinking or intending … that’s when I know that life and all the others are basically, if not totally good … there is so much misunderstanding until I see beyond the illusion, the fog that I create … please please please KNOW that there are so many reasons why you are soooooo special, you/I don’t need to describe/understand/see the incredibleness just KNOW it’s there … it’s a gift we are all given when we come into this mystical rhelm

dont you realize? every minute im spending here is for YOUR benefit.. not mine.

you weren’t kidding about the anger… well, you came to help.com because you felt you needed help. now you’re getting attention from tons of people. imperfect, but with good intentions.
you don’t attack people who are trying to help you… seriously, would you help someone with your disposition? maybe you’re right, youre at a point where only you can help yourself. even if i just ignore you you still took time out of my life and took advantage of my good intentions to take out your anger on me. think about these things.
i don’t even know why im still here, typing to you. your attitude is so destructive.

no one’s saying you’re crazy, but think about it. The world isn’t against you. Why did you get so angry? no one was doing anything but trying to help you. in your mind, you saw it as people.. i dont know, frankly i have no idea how you percieved it. but the reality was different, and actually quite benevolent. your mind twisted it into something negative that it wasnt and you decided you’re somehow entitled to attack kind strangers who are spending (wasting?) their time on trying to help you. frankly, you owe everyone here an apology.

and by your mind twisting things and you acting upon your unwarranted anger, you turn your reality into something negative, like right now. you hurt me, and possibly others. now you really do have ill will against you. not strong, just like, wow this person is really ungrateful and has no right to be saying these things. if you take this as an analogy for your life, you can see the dynamics pretty clearly.

have you asked for any help? you need help with your anger, it’s destroying you and your life. i would say, look ahead, not back because that will probably just depress you, looking back on the self-destructive things you’ve done.
throw away all your razors, maybe stick them in a bar of soap so they dont cut anyone, you know, in case they portrude from the bag or something. try going to the doctor, maybe medication could help you start the recovery process. try anger management classes. therapy to help with the self hatred. and don’t say these are worthless suggestions because they make a lot of sense whether you like them or not.

non of us know any other’s whole story … wouldn’t it be cool if we could … ! I got a story about a time I wasn’t in a good place and I went to lunch with a friend … I was really in the dumps and angry about it and when the watress wasn’t or attentive or helpfull or friendly at our table and that really bothered me … well my friend started bein’ nice to her and after she left with our orders he said that she had kids and one was sick and havin’ thouble in school … we’ll I notice her mood and her helfulness went way up after my friend’s niceness to her … on the way out the door I asked him where he knew her from and he said he didn’t and that he just figured thet she had some kinda’ problem goin’ on and thought she could use a little TLC … at the time I have to admit that I felt he was playin a trick on me but in hindsight that’s all these assumptions I makeup in my head are … TRICKS ! … they ain’t real … I just make ‘em up ! … nobody likes me everybody hates me think I’ll eat some worms … man life is just what I make it up to be in my head … someone can tell me how great I am … am I really ? more often than not they’ll tell me I’m ____ fill in the blank ____ it’s just thier opinion /thier truth < they really believe it ! / it's what they see, what they think ... what's this got to do with loneliness ... in my mind everything ... when I'm lonely it's because I FEEL lonely, because I don't BELIEVE that anyone wants to be with me, it's 'cause I'm makin' these stories in my mind about what an unfair life this is
*** PLEASE NOTICE - I’M TALKIN” “BOUT ME*** not you although you may identify with some of this, I’m jus’ tryin’ to SHARE with you some things I see and how I deal with it … I’m not even sayin’ this a way for you … I’m just sharin’ … please know that I often need to hear this myself … so in a REAL WAY _ YOU ARE HELPING ME remember things I want to remind myself of … THANK YOU MOO ! my daughter gave me this quote [from ? Gothe ?] it’s never too late to be who I might have been ……….
ps: you may not see it but you give gifts to others unknowingly every day … thank you !!!

I’m not religious, but maybe you can find help through the church or through your community. Find the pastor/priest and talk to them about your problems, maybe they could help you or direct you to someone who can.
Well I’m glad to hear that you’re eating now :)

thank you, Midi!!! you reminded me of something too! yes we have a lot to learn from each other, and I should see past my initial perception to see the deeper truth lying there. It makes it worth it :)
Thanks Moocow, you’re also reminding me of this just by your presence. How can you be junk when you’re helping me? :)

you know what, normally i would be the first to agree with you. but they’ve helped you in your circumstances and could provide guidance. im not saying to go get endoctrinated, but the church pastor or other people who work or volunteer there could help you or find someone who can help you since you can’t afford therapy.

What is the coleman center? And wouldn’t it be worth giving it a try?

well, the way i see it is you need urgent help with your cutting and self-destructive behavior, and once that’s addressed you need help with your anger and other problems. So maybe it wouldn’t be so bad to get some medication while you find a place to help you with your anger and maybe get therapy.

there is a song that has lyrics in it like this …… if you see it … if you believe it … I believe I can fly ……. we…all of us…are incredible beings, spirits, souls … consider the lilies of the valley, the sparrows … I ain’t religious either but it makes sense that since there is something takin’ care of all these things on earth without the help of any government or institutions I’m gettin’ taken care of too …. look see > I got my all my health need from the county I live in ’cause my income is so low they have me listed as indegent … look it up … this is exactally what I’m talkin’ about … because I can see beyound the illusion I get help from all kinda places … it’s NOT about foolin’ ‘em into giving me help they wanna help me … I help other people in ways too, a smile, a friendly work, a friendly ear, … know that it’s there, look for it , expect it with greatful arms, …. Moo I’m seein’ a psycologist, a counslor, a neurologist, a endocrynologist, I was told fifteen years ago that I was as good as dead, I put my trust in something else … I ain’t nobody special I’m just someone who listens for the music … at times it’s quite covered up by the noise ,,, sometimes I’m surprise when I discover that the noise can be heard as music … man it’s a beautiful moment and YOU have made it that way for me ……. thank you Moo … thank you

look on the internet … there are ways … believe they are there and you’ll find ‘em … the more openminded you are the more suprises you will find … know there are many waiting to help you and know there are many you ARE helping … it’s really very interesting the way this life thing works … if you squint you eyes it sometimes seems VERY funny … it’s all in the way you look at it - ain’t it ?

hey Moo, I just noticed we’ve been on this comuter thing for almost two hours now … wow ! ……. time flies when you’re havin’ FUN … this is really fun and ……. ! whatever we see it as

i dont think midi meant it like that…

ok. good luck and take care :)

feeling alone is only true when you believe in it. and believing that ure alone guarantees tht u will be alone. until u realize urself tht whatevers bothering u has been experienced by a billion ppl (atleast) before u since the world began, whether it is losing parents, siblings, lovers, cheating, getting cheated on, being dumped by friends, being stranded, being called a loser, doing badly in exams, being expelled, losing out on a promotion, having no money, getting pregnant prematurely, getting a bad hair cut, your cat dying, your weight escalating, your hair falling, deadly disease, painful memories, desperation, being all on your own etc etc
you HAVE TO REMEMBER that whatever problem u have or have had has prolly been experienced by someone somewhere sometime and it did not end the world. cuz we’re all here anyway. no matter how big ur problem is, remember tht someone experienced it before u and got thru it, and even if they didnt, tht problem is never as big as life itself. and you’re never alone in your problems. some one’s already experienced the pain. and prolly a lot of other ppl are experiencing the same thing as u, u just dont know abt them. they will get over it, and so will you.
this always cheers me up.
cuz this too shall pass.

I would like to be of assistance, if I can. I have struggled with depression for most of my life. I have come to realize that most of my problems are self inflicted. My mind can easily be caught up in misery and worry when I take myself too seriously. When I try to keep a lighthearted attitude and remember not to think too much, it helps me alot. You must know that your thoughts and emotions are meant to serve you, not the other way around. You have it within you to master yourself. Choose to be happy and let nothing stand in your way. Peace be with you.

So. How’s the family?

i know you feel alone right now, and life seems to just suck in general, but you gotta kepp going, things can only get better from here. why cant you talk to your best friend? if you cant talk to her, try talking to a counsler, they are always there to listen and every thing is confidential. we are all here and want to help you as well.

feeling alone is something that can help you in life, it will help you become more independant. There are alot of people that have been in you position and im sure alot of them have come out of the other side stronger than before, just believe in yourself, things will happen for you, you just need to find the right time, it will come dont worry. stay strong and things will work out for you. if you need a friend or just some 1 to talk to, drop me a line, ill be happy to talk.