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How can I tell my husband that I’m not happy and I want a divorce?
I want out of this relationship so bad, but I’m afraid he would take his own life because he thinks that I’m all that he has…..
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You have to be strong for you if he needs help you can stand by him support him love him as much as you can & do but you can’t fix him he needs to do that. if he has issues he must face them himself maybe a push from you is all he needs. try a separation. Happiness is something you share with someone, if he is serious about what he sez about you being the only thing he’s got, he will do what he needs to do ,you can’t be responsible for that. I’ve been there, you could loose yourself while helping him
Yeah I understand, Take a couple steps back give it a good hard look, the house can be split the dog’s are like kids although 3 is hard to split up, (witch half of the one does one get lol)just a little hummer I know this is hard like I said I’ve been there more than once. Seriously take a step back take some space give some space decide how much the love & commitment means to you & you’ll figure out what you should do. I hope this helps you keep in touch, keep your head your friend Greg
Hello - I work with individuals such as your husband on a daily basis as it is a part of my life choices. I understand what you say with “I still love him, but am not in love w/him.”
Several questions for him first:
1) Does he love you enough to go into treatment and make positive changes in his life?
2) Is he holding on to you because he’s been rejected by everyone else - including family members?
3) CIs he willing to check out this web site and see how it relates to him http://www.midlife-passages.com/depre…
Please know that marriage life is constantly changing and we have challenges and tests on each corner and bend. Those who can face these with compassion can realistically win with love and friendship.
A question for both of you:
1) Have you taken time to sit down and write out what “love” means to you?
A question for you…
1) Is marriage only about love or is it about dedication and commitment- what you’re feeling for this man - is it the basis for leaving your husband or is that something is wrong with your marriage and you need to sort it out?
2) Have you talked to several couples that have been married - say 15 years or more…?
Most everyone that I know says that a good marriage is a work - and also many of them say that after the difficult times - falling in love again with your seems to quite a normal event.
Hopefully the web site will help wake your husband up and will help him realize that he is on a path of destruction - he has a chance to take a path of healing with you or continue on the old path and lose you forever…
If you do not mind - I will be praying for God to give you direction and then that you will have peace and joy with your decision - each of us have to live our own life - at times we come together and we learn to share and be of comfort to one another - at other times we have nothing to offer to one another - except prayer.
As for his life - similar to mine: Both parents have died, each of my 5 brothers and one sister have been in and out of jail - two brothers have died from alcohol - my only sister died from physical illnesses - we lived on welfare and my father prior to his death spent most of his life in prison…
God was my support - my friend - my counselor… in short - what happened to his family was not easy for any of them but his choices good or bad will determine where he’s going. I would suggest that he has to look inside himself and perhaps make a choice to turn his life over to God… it worked for me…
If you can take a break and go across the country or drive down to the beach and get a summer job - or just lay back if you can afford to do so… In the Bible - Christ took time away from everyone and went into the gardens… to sort things out… maybe that is what you really need to do… just go away and leave your cell phone behind with a hold on your mail in the post office… maybe set up a new bank account and get some real rest and peace back into your life - but I would humbly suggest that you do not get involved with anyone new - other than God…
This is what I have discovered after my second marriage: 1. Nobody can make you happy! There are things that people can do to enhance unhappiness but real happiness comes from an authentic relationship with the Lord. Marriage works like a business; no business works unless “you” work it. Getting business license, putting a logo on your building won’t bring business in; likewise,
getting a marriage license, having a big wedding, etc doesn’t make a marriage
Oftentimes, we are all subject to how things look on the outside; we see pretty faces, handsome guys, pretty cars, nice looking suits, etc we then, quickly draw the conclusion that it must be alright because it looks good and sounds good!!
It takes maturity to enter into a relationship which entails looking beyond the
covers before making a decision. We get caught up into images which are a reflection of hollywood then, we wake up one day and see the realities of what we have gotten into; so, we get “new” cars, houses, husbands, wives, thinking that the “newness” will make the difference. It won’t. It is like getting a new car with a negative mindset. The same new car will be a broken down one within a matter of months or that “new” house will be filled up with “dirty” dishes,
In due respect: take the relationship to God acknowledging your weakness and
need for him along with your husband….there will be a pleasant surprise.!
The last passage was wonderful and true.
Reading it I hope will bring newness to my marriage.
I understand how you feel, but talk to him, tell him how you feel, and help him alot, dont stop your life because of his, or you’ll end up getting sick
I think any lady who is not happy with her Husband she should make compromise with him and If she make wrong relations with another person, it is very great Sin , So keep into your mind Allah is Hazur Nazur and After Death He will take total sum of our perfomance in this world. and this life is very short. For further advise : 0331-3145204 : Email: i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> , and sorry for wrong spellings.
First off don’t just drop out. try to make it work.
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