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Ok i really could do with some advice on what to do…

My gf has left as she has to get ready for a hurricane that will hit and wont be on for a while. She hadnt spoken to me for 3 days previously and hasnt txted me for 6 days previously. And yeah that doesnt seem so bad.. but thing is i cant see her and i wont be able to see her for like… at least 4 months or up to 8 months.
And tbh i hate that as i really like having someone to be close to.. (no i dont really mean i just want sex) just having someone close by when i need them. My gf cant be and i hate it. I really like her more than anyone else but shes just never there =( For example i have called her and shes like.. oh call back in 30 min… i do that and she says the same thing.. then again and its just.. arghh.
I tried to tell her and she thought i was blaming her when im not and she got mad.
I really dont know what to do :( Could anyone help me please? Its making me very unhappy :\

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C.M.Theisen 2 #
Providence, RI, US | 3 years, 3 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Sounds as if you are completely in love with this woman, otherwise you wouldn’t be so filled with angst. I think you need to seriously think about whether the two of you are equaly committed to the relationship. That’s the only way I can imagine it being worth waiting for her over the next 4 to 8 months.

Do you have any reason to think that you have stronger feelings for her than she has for you? You sound as if you might. You’ll stress less if you feel more reassured about her feelings for you. Have you had this kind of conversation with her? Have you talked about what’s going to happen while she is gone for several months? Write back and let us know…

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Eddy 0 #
US | 3 years, 3 months ago (35 minutes after post)

Thanks for the reply :) She says she does. Also my friends think shes good and she means what she says. To be honest i would like to believe her and i mostly do but i doubt it at times because of one or two fairly horrable relationships previously.

From what she says.. yes. Also i usually forget all the bad feelings caused by this whenever i talk to her… at first when we start talking i usually feel unhappy and then i start talking to her and i feel great.

The problem is now besides when im speaking to her i usually have her in mind and get unhappy. I dont like it and dont know what to do and i suppose this has gone totally of the point of this reply so really to answer im just not sure if she feels the same way… Only way i could is with actions.

I guess maybe its because shes got less time as shes just started senior year. Before she promised to come on and say hi each day.. and she did :) But since starting school i have hardly spoken to her… never at all on weekends. She also used to text me a lot and she has unlimited texts and now she isnt texting me at all. That kinda makes me think… well a text only takes a few min just to say hi, why doesnt she just send one once or twice. So taking into account that she does have school and she has a life would i be over reacting to think theres somthing up with that?

Sorry this has become a lil long :\ Thanks for all the help and your time :)

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C.M.Theisen 2 #
Providence, RI, US | 3 years, 3 months ago (3 hours, 30 minutes after post)

Well, it’s tough to have a long distance relationship and you can’t really blame her if school takes up so much of her focus. Still, I totally understand how you feel ignored and maybe devalued somehow. Saddly, you might have to dial down your expectations for this relationship. I’m not saying expect a break up - I’m just saying that you’ll be happier in the long run if you realize that school is going to take up her focus and she just won’t have so much time for you. Try hard to not take it so personally. But do talk to her about how the current situation is making you feel. Maybe the two of you can agree to understand what the new baseline of activity for the relationship is going to be. That way she’ll know what you want to feel reassured about the relationship and you’ll understand exactly how much attention she can reasonably afford to give you.

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Eddy 0 #
US | 3 years, 3 months ago (3 hours, 44 minutes after post)

Yeah your right and i did try to talk to her like i said, and she thought i was blaming her.. hmm i guess i best text her explaining i wasnt :\ Problem is her txts are unlimited… mine to her are $0.38. Lol @ related links ‘I hate women’ ‘kill all men!’. Heh, thanks for that im starting to feel a bit better already =) Hmm infact iv gone from feeling fairly depressed to randomly laughing… my moods change so quick :S
Anyway, thanks again :) Iv got an idea now of what to do.

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spur_cons1 1 #
Nicosia, 04, CY | 3 years, 3 months ago (4 hours, 58 minutes after post)

You’ve got to know she’s worth it for sure, then you can wait the long wait.

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Eddy 0 #
US | 3 years, 3 months ago (5 hours, 6 minutes after post)

Hmmm ok thats got me thinking again, how would i know shes worth it for sure?

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Providence, RI, US | 3 years, 3 months ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

Odds are that at your young age, you can easily find other women to be very happy with. Realistically, it is very difficult to maintain close relationships with a person who attends a different school from you. You just need to determine if you are willing to settle for a stilted sort of half-relationship in the meantime. It might be safer to maintain a meaningful friendship and then see if romance can kick back in after graduation.

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