life help: I am 16 years old and someday would like to meet my dad. - Help.com

In two years you’ll be able to do as you wish regarding contact with your father. Have some patience, and until then, respect the wishes of your mother. At that time, you may find your mother has the information you need to talk to him.

This is very important to you, so maybe now’s a good time to talk to your mother more seriously.

What is your mother’s reaction when you ask her about talking to your father?

i assume that you know his name and where he lives? perhaps the easiest way would be to write him a letter and tell him exactly what you are saying here. tell him how important it is to you. maybe your mom could set up a meeting in a public place. My 20 year old daughter just meet her Dad again after 16 years (i left him because he became addicted to drugs and was not safe to be around ) it was hard for all of us, but she is glad to have met him. they keep in touch and are getting to know each other slowly . it isn’t what she would have wanted, but to her, it is better than nothing.
Don’t expect the void to just disappear you must be able to accept who he is,
and above all ….that none of it was your fault.
i wish you well.

Will she help you find out how to contact him?

Well, if she doesn’t mind you talking to him, maybe you should tell her you are going to, so she knows, then open the phone book and start looking for his name.

(((Heidi)))

Has he made an effort to contact you?

I don’t think it’s too much to ask.

if he wants the best for you, and what you need is to be able to talk to him, then he should be happy to hear from you! My daughters’ Dad was elated when she got in touch with him. He had wanted to see her, but did not know how she would take it! i encourage you to really impress upon your Mom how important this is to you and convince her to help. Us Mothers are sometimes dense and need help in seeing that we cant be everything our kids need!
Good luck and best wishes!

If you want to meet your dad donn’t let anybody stop you. It’s your decision. Good luck!

Good luck with finding your dad. Just please when you find him and you meet him don’t have any expectations he could be wonderful or a monster or maybe an ordinary guy. I will pray for you