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steffsing 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (40 minutes after post)

Here’s my two cents. You are in a good position right now! to find out that she can be a bit heartless and unfeeling before you got too deep. Any person who will not atleast give you the respect of a “sorry, I am not ready” or “i don’t think we are compatible” but instead will leave you hanging is probably capable of worse. since you really don’t know her that well - it’s probably not “real” love but I know for alot of guys it is a challenge to find out why she is not interested - it’s the age old ‘hunt’. The one that got away. if I may… you may find it’s less about ‘her’ and more about ‘why did she do that to me’. It makes you want her more (that’s the beauty of playing hard to get). She probably is just attracted to a different type of person - that has NO refection on you as a person (looks, personality etc…) what-so-ever (some people like blue some like red it’s all relative) so - let it go and stay open for the one that was really meant for you. That will make that little lass pale in comparison :-)

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (45 minutes after post)

p.s. I read that you knew her for 6 years - but you knew her in a COMPLETELY different light - dating is more intense than friendship/acquantences (of couse). You can have a great friend who sucks at male/female intimate relationships…

so you probably didnt really know her as well as you thought…

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pamark 1 #
Rogers, AR, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (1 hour, 38 minutes after post)

she got back with her bf. wait it out. she’ll be back.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (2 hours, 10 minutes after post)

She doesn’t want a loveable, romantic guy. She wants a crazy rebel guy.

TheBinsk 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (5 hours, 2 minutes after post)

Girls can be like that. We get confused on what we want. She probably doesn’t know if the make out session was good or not. Just wait it out, and really try to talk to her again. But don’t ask her about going out again. Be direct. Ask her what’s wrong, and be concerned.

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Sunrise 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (1 day after post)

It just sucks…she totally dropped me. Not to sound conceited or anything, but that has never happened to me. Anytime I have ever spent time with and made out with a girl they have ALWAYS wanted to be with me. I just learned from my parents how to treat a woman right. I dont want to think that she met someone better than me for her esepcially after all her talk about how she wanted to marry me and how cute our kids would be. Is it possible that she is just not ready for me yet? I would have much rather she at least lie to me and tell me that instead of just totally leading me on and blowing me off. My sister knows her well and said that she likes to do that to a lot of guys, but I thought that it was different since she had a crush on me for many years. She suggested that I ignore her and blow her off untill she realizes that I dont NEED her and can move on quickly. However, even after two weeks of not attempting to contact her…she still has not made any attempt to contact me. I fear that she will really forever be “the one that got away”. It is also discouraging to me because if there is something I want really badly, I usually get it just by pereverance. I just dont know how to apply perseverance to this situation or if it is even worth it.

steffsing 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

If she does this to others as you say - i stand by my last comments she may be a “bit heartless and unfeeling”. Do you really want that in your life? Or is it a competition to ‘get her’ so that it this won’t hurt your ego? Let’s call it what it is the R word - Rejection. It’s a nasty hurtfull feeling - but so what, it happens! get busy doing positive things and soon enough the right one will come along - this gal is PROBABLY not “The One”. don’t worry - what goes around comes around and soon enough she will understand how it feels to do this to others (not that I want anything bad for her)it just seems to happen.

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Sunrise 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (3 days, 7 hours after post)

Thank you for your reply. I actually deep down KNOW that it is because I dont want to feel rejected. I have been rejected before, but I have never been led on to such an extreme extent before and that makes all the difference. Usually everyime a girl was into me it always led somewhere…either a mutually accepted physical relationship or something more serious. I’ve never just been left in the dust with no explanation before. I can read all of your rationale on the issue and make my own, but at the end my heart takes over and I still will not stop thinking about her until enough time goes by or I meet someone else that ignites that fire inside me. Love is crazy.

steffsing 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (4 days, 3 hours after post)

you are 100% right! I hope something better comes along soon for you. Love is crazy that way….

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Godess50 0 #
Hemet, CA, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

Shes confused not you, she should know better that you can respect her. Thre arent that many peopel to do that

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Need a womans opinion here.
I am crazy about this one girl and I have been for 6 years now. I am 25 and she is 20. We had never hooked up until a month ago when I took her to a wedding as a date. I had broken up with my gf about 3 months before and although I dont normally rebound, I took her out after she had only broken up with her bf only one week before. We have always had a thing for each other in a flirty way, but we never acted on it because we were always invloved in other relationships. She always told me that we had an “arranged” marriage as a joke, but I think she wanted to believe it.

Anyway, we had an amazing time at this wedding that I took her to and afterwards as soon as we got into my car she literally jumped me in the drivers seat and we had an unbelievably hot makeout session…best in my life. I knew she was a bit drunk though, but I didnt want to believe that she was just acting on unsuppressed inhibitions. I took her back to her place where we kissed and cuddled in her bed for awhile and although she wanted sex, i didnt think it was the right time so I kissed her goodnight and then left. After that, everything seemed like it would unfold wonderfully…I saw her again at my birthday party the following weekend and then again the weekend after that when she agreed to an “official” date…I took her to dinner. We had a good time again and she asked me out to go see a movie the following evening. That evening came and she stood me up and that was it…she texted me some excuse that something happened and she was upset and never made plans with me again. This happened 2 weeks ago and I have not spoken to her since. I sent her a message and asked her if she wanted to hang out again and to tell me if she is not interested anymore so that I dont bother her anymore…she ignored the message.

WHAT HAPPENED?!?! My only fault in this whole thing was being crazy about her…Yes I maybe moved bit fast because I tried to kiss her a few times and I told her that I likes her a lot. Is she playing mind games?! Did she lose interest because all of a sudden I was too available to her and she didnt have to chace me anymore? Im stumped and really upset because I truly saw something special in her. I know she isnt ready for a new relationship already and maybe I gave her the impression that I wanted one, but shouldnt she have the decency and respect towards me to just tell me that! OR is it that she just doesnt like me anymore or did she meet another guy who she likes more than me? Im confused and heartbroken that we ended before we ever started.

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