If your boyfriend whom you live with wanted to go out (without you) and stay out all night, would that be okay?
Am I over-reacting in telling him that “We don’t have the same idea and expectations of what a relationship should be so lets just consider ourselves roomates until our lease is up in Dec.” Yeah I broke it off! We have been togather for a little over a year now. No longer I guess any thoughts???
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Hell no! But the whole relationship is screwed up anyway. Why buy the cow when you get the milk free? For the same reason you buy books that you can borrow from the library free. You want to KEEP them! Understand? The rest is up to you… Hugs
Remember the golden rule “Treat other as you would like to be treated.” I can understand your boy friend going out alone but the all nighter tells me there may be something else going on.
If you trust him, let it go out—Tell him you’ll go out with your friends or something too—& if he’s got a problem with it, then you should have a problem with him going out all night.
It all comes down to trust - if you trust him, then let him go - if you don’t, then are you sure you should be in a relationship with him in the first place?
Relationships should be based primarily on trust, and if you don’t have that then what is there to build upon?
I think Graceful Skull is right - tell him you’re going out with your friends too. Don’t make it an “anything you can do…” thing - just say that as he’s going to be out you thought you’d arrange to meet up with some friends.
At the end of the day, if you can’t trust him all night, where does it end? Do you trust him to go out to the shops on his own, do you trust him to be in the house on his own while you are out……
It’s a slippery slope, and if you are not careful it will be the end of the relationship (although you say you’ve already broken it off!) , not the fact that he went out on his own for one night.
What the hell, stop smothering the guy- if he wants to go out that should be ok, so long as he’s not cheating on you what’s the problem?
You’re two individual people, not just two people in the confines of a relationship; you gotta learn to trust one another and if you can’t trust him to go out then what’s the point of even being in that relationship?
You don’t own him, and he doesn’t own you.
i think thats ok as long as u trust him!!!!es got is own life as well like ya no!!!!but if yee were closer yee wud b able to go ou together my bf dont go out with out me lol…
Yes, it would be ok.. The fact that he asked your permission is already a sign that he respects you, he is honest with you therefore he doesnt have any plan to cheat. Show him that you trust him, thats the key to a long lasting relationship.
Well i think its disrespectful, and when its our time to go out, its like nah, u dont need to be shaken your *** everywhere. HE then gets jealous, but you kno what, Karma comes around and his little *** is gonna be crying like a baby cuz im gonna go out and get fd up!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe even meet someone new beings its not such a big deal to these guys…
WTF. There is no reason my boyfriend should be coming home at 6 am in the morning. Especially when he has to work the next day. I am 20 and he is 23 he goes to the bars with his friends that is fine with me. Yet, bars close around 2am so what would was he doing for the next 4 hours? Two weeks later he went out again on a work night didn’t tell me until 4 am that he was staying at his “friends” house. Not even naming his “friend” When I asked which friend he got defensive. We have lived together for 3 years and he has never done this to me always home by 2am when he went out with his friends and he was never defensive. Bottom line something is up. Ladies listen to your woman’s intuition and stand up if you feel like what he doing isn’t right. His clothes and stuff are now in the living room with one piece of paper that says “Goodbye.” The house is all in my name, and he just lose the greatest thing that ever happen to him.
My boyfriend of 2 years is now 29 years old.
He has started going out all night and staying out. For example it was his friends birthday the other week so they all went out on a mini bus, he promised to come home at 4-5 am when the bus turned up. at no arrival i called him it was 5.30 the next evening when he finally got back. he sees nothing wrong with this. what bothers me is the fact he promised to come home at that time.
then on saturday night we both went out together and then we said we were coming home early to have a nice night together he got in at 3 am after ignoring me all night and we are still at loger heads over this.
i know that if i stayed out all night he would go crazy and the simple fact is i wouldnt do that to him and wouldnt expect that.
there are standards of rules in a relationship and i feel that if you agree a time to be home you stick to it or atleast have the decency to call not just stay out all night.
I want to trust him but I don’t know if I can I had been used and cheated and lied on before my bf told me he ain’t that way but how should I know he don’t get jelouse over me when guys flirt with me or anything it hurts raly and he will be gone frome 1 to6 am: l I know he has n work or anything I think hè might be ccheating on me
There is no reason he needs to sleep out. Go out and have fun but respect you and the relationship to come home. I would never put up with that, never. Bring ya *** home when the bars close, bottom line!
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