Love help: my gf thinks im cheating on her… its the last thing in - Help.com

Sit her down and tell her that you’d never do something like that and that she needs to learn how to trust you.
Does she have a reason not to trust you or is it just one of those things?

be consistent. call her. write her. your gf needs them much. guys don’t just understand that.

okay good. …uhm..then why do you think is she doubtful?

You say there is a lot more than that….does she have a reason not to trust you? Have you hurt her in the past?

If there’s alot more to it than that… perhaps you can share just a little more at to why she would think one thing soooooo bad, while you remain so very innocent. Which one of you cheated in the past? why can she not trust you… what did you do before?

your girl must be thinking you’re being too friendly with other girls is making her feel uncomfortable. words are just words Bob.you may say that you are loyal to her but your actions might mean another thing. try to examine yourself if you are being friendly or close to flirting.

so… since you are a long distant relationship, you must talk to your girlfriend about these other girl friends. Not a smart idea buddy…sorry. She’s GOT to know she’s the only girl for you.

what are you afraid to tell me?

she might need more assurance. just my opinion, most girls do not worry when they feel fulfilled and happy.

ok… first you tell me there is “course there is alot more to it”. You tell me she does not trust you, but of course you are completely innocent. Then you tell me well… maybe not innocent you have girl frinds (friends that are girls) where you go to school. First you say it’s a long distant relationship… then it becomes only 30 minutes away by train. You contridict yourself a bit, do you realize that? In a relationship that does not work very well.

You’re leaving something out. You need to start telling me what SHE is telling YOU. How do you know she does not trust you? What does she say… don’t leave anything out.

ask her what she really wants you to do for her to be happier. is it cutting off all your friendships with other girls? or she just wants you to slow down bec she thinks you are up to something while she is away?

bob… I’m sorry if I offended you. Please accept my apology. In fairness however your post was contradictory, and quite honestly you left out a VERY big part of it. A HUGE part of it!!! The fact that your girlfriend has been diagnosed with a emotional/mental condition is no little thing in your relationship.

There really is no medication that will take away her paranoia. There are meds that will help to sedate her, but if taken to the extent to remove paranoia, she’ll be pretty loopy. So, that being said there is very little you can do to make her trust you. How often do you take that train ride to her. I would recommned at least once a week… more often if you can. Do not talk to her about any of friends at school (that happen to be girls) this undermines even normal relationships, let alone special ones. Basically, you have to take out every instance that would make her paranoid, which is pretty much impossible.

Next Bob.. I would start seeing a therapist. Talk to them about your co-dependent behavior. I know… I’m being offensive again and I’m sorry… but believe me dude… it takes one to know one, and I’ve been working on it personally for 5 years now!
Bright blessings ~ Richard

Im assuming you are a young man and just starting your life. You owe it to yourself and to this girl to walk away now. You are putting yourself in an impossible situation. It will take a great deal of maturity, loyality, dedication and God’s blessings to begin to manage this relationship.

Let her go, get another girl unless you are ready for the pain and angiush you are setting yourself up for.

You can’t fix this……. relationships are hard …. communications are paramont…… Your present girl is not capable of managing a relationship.

Am I saying it is not possible to have a successful relationship with her? Not at all….. Anything is possible…….. Why do this?

wtfinger

If you truly love her, tell her the truth and if she doesnt trust you then, get rid of her, it will hurt only till you find someone better, who does trust you!