life help: Hey guys, I just want know, do you ever get turned off by a single action done or a single word said by someone? - Help.com

What kind of action?

Not that I recall. What action seems to be bothering you?

Yes, sometimes a person will say or do something that just turns me off that person. Strange thing - I don’t stop dealing with them but I think differently about them.

Give an example. Maybe the one that prompted you to write this?

I think that the worst thing that a person can do to me personally is to go to shake my hand, and then put on the big squeeeeeeeze.
It is physically painful, so I will go out of my way to avoid that person after that.
I have actually lost clients because of this.
I have always wondered why people have to do this to a girl with small hands anyway???
My coworker calls them “macho schmucks” LOL!
Turnoff!!!

You mean like… friends who hang out with each other without even asking if you want to come, when you usually do everything together?

Hypocrites, then.

its a sad sad fact of humanity but most of us are hypocrites at some time in our lifes. its human nature to take the easy path and sometimes that means we say one thing and do another.
some people take the easy way more often than others though and in more major ways.
its a bit harsh to write someone off for just one action or word thoug isnt it? especially without letting them know and giving them a chance to right it or learn from it at least.
god thats some good advice(!)-easier said than done someimes though eh.

One thing that can make me absolutely hate a person is saying ‘Who cares?’ or ‘It’s just a _____. It doesn’t really matter.’ because everything matters to me.

i dont like it when my friends kiss my *** when they want something. thats annoying and a turn off. and i like it when they can get changed in front of me, that means they trust me enough not to mind. :)

One of Nietzsche’s aphorisms points out that when someone offends you, even if you accept their apology, you will still hold the inconvenience of the matter against them.

You can learn a lot from reading one of his books.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nietzsche

well i guess it all boils down to what that person said, and if you value their friendship enough to try and work through it, or if it isn worth it.
sometimes people come into your life who are not good for you, and it is detrimental to you to have them there.
sometimes people make mistakes and say things in the heat of the moment, or because they are going through something, or because they are mad at you for some reason. but that doesnt make them a bad person.
i guess you have to decide which one it is and whether you want to put the effort in to change your thinking.or if youre better off not spending any more energy on them.

Often when someone does or says something that strikes us at our very core, it is a reflection of something we need to deal with in ourselves. It’s not always obvious or straightforward but can usually be found if you give yourself time and space and ask the question of yourself ‘why did this offend me so much?’
When I was much younger I would always think it was the other person, but as I’ve gotten older, had more of the experiences and taken the time to ask the question of myself, be still and open up to receive the answer, I’ve found more often than not that it was a trigger to something in my past that didn’t sit well with me. Once recognized I would then forgive myself and the other person, thanking them (in meditation rather than in person) and let it go.
I’ve generally been able to feel comfortable with the person again after that.