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tanyaecummin
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Hi my husband has left me two months ago, moved out

and rented house for 6mths, we have been married 2 and half years and i think desperately loved each other, we also have a son together of 19mths, I am dying inside and dont feel i can cope without him. He has daughter, who he left previous marriage to go off with family friend and didn’t see her for 2 yrs before meeting me and then she started to see him visiting us. He turned up to me with a barrel load of guilt about his daughter but has never discussed how he felt and never having dealt with being a second wife and step mum handled the whole situation badly, he also has behaved immaturely about it, walking out the first time I ever opened my mouth and said anything about her so we all had to tread on egg shells. It became a real grey area and resentment built up regarding her, not the child’s fault but us as adults not communicating properly with each other. This is the only issue we ever argued about. I have for the past 2 months accepted him in his new home, taken baby to see him whilst coping with all the pain and hurt and kept smiling throughout until last Saturday when we discussed everything and it ended in huge row and now its over, please help i love him dearly….

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CrackHacky offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Mill Hall, PA, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (5 minutes after post)

can you explain the situation with the daughter again. sorry. i don;t understand.

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gratesagere offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Kings Walden, I9, GB | 2 years, 5 months ago (14 minutes after post)

The first thing is that both of you must want to reconcile your differences. You cannot make him want to do something he does not want to do because eventually he’ll go back to how he was.
Ask him if he wants to save the relationship. You may not like the answer if it’s not what you want to hear, but speaking as someone who has been divorced when they didn’t want to, I am glad for it now as I can lead the life I want to with someone who shares my ideas of what a partnership is.
If you want to talk this through I am happy to.

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