girl help: i want to have a kid so bad but i’m only 14 years of age - Help.com

Please don’t have a baby. Not just because its wrong for you, but its wrong for the baby. Its going to have a life, and it has to depend on what you can provide for it to see how its life turns out. Having a baby because you’re lonely is cruel to the baby. While you don’t really understand that yet, its terribly selfish and wrong.
Wait until you have a good man, a job, some life experience and education. Otherwise, you’re setting your baby up for a very hard life.

You should wait until you’re older, unless you’re so rich that you can give the baby a great life at 14.

I can understand where you are coming from Kathren. A lot of people dont understand how it feels.
Since I was 12, I wanted one SO BAD and I couldnt understand why.
I just wanted something to care for, something to devote my life for, or make my life worth something more than just…me me me…
In todays world Kathren, so many people live life for their selfish needs. But you also have to understand that this feeling you are experiencing is your own way of demonstrating a selfish need.
I am 21 now, so I have gone 9 years wanting a baby so bad it hurts. Being jealous when my friends or family get pregnant, and tell me it was a mistake. I get very mad when people tell me I am still young, and have my whole life ahead of me to have kids…but no one seems to understand that MY whole life means to be a mother.
I will never understand why this feeling is so strong for me, and I have been looking for answers. I have found none. It is just something some people experience. Instead of hitting us in mid 20’s or later… it his us at an early age.
People will say:
Get a dog…. I have 2 dogs now. And trust me, it is NOT the same as your own child.
As much as you think you would be an amazing mother to your baby, sometimes, you have to think of what an amazing mother really is in the eyes of your child.
You need to think of all the things the baby needs to grow healthy, a devoted spouse, a stable job to provide for your baby, and you need to have fully discovered yourself. Your thoughts, your beliefs…
You need all this before having a baby.
Want all you want hun, but you have to realize that once a baby is born in your life, your wants will not be yours anymore, but your childs….
If you are ready to sacrifice everything you want to be yours in life…and give it all to your baby, then you will be ready.

i know exactly how u feel… people always tell me i have my whole life to live and blah blah blah and its totally hard to listen to them because i want a child so bad!! i mean my life seems to be heading no where and im so bored with my life!

come sleep with me then

I dont think that there is anything wrong with having a baby at a young age.
Who cares about the way people look at you;
Who cares about having friends when you have family and a daughter/son.

dont do it

i no i wanted it but i talked to my mom

I am 30 years old. I am married with a house and a job. Picture perfect. Children are a lot of work and a lot of responsiblitly. I would love to have a second child after spending 10 years in college to get an education so then I can afford more. But right now I am emotionally ready but not financially ready. I can not see a child that is 12, 13, 14, 15 or even 20 is ready for a child. There is a lot of lessons that you have to learn first before having a child. One being mature enough to disapline your child and teach them right from wrong. A lot of children who have children do not understand that there is more then hugging a child. How are you going to support this child when you are not even old enough to have a child? How are you going to get medical insurance for this child? Get the child to a doctor? How are you going to go to school so then you are not being supported off of other tax payers money. A lot goes into making a decision to having a child. Not just that you want to care for a child. I love my daughter to death but she is a lot of work. I don’t want my child to be a brat and it is hard work to make sure she stays a good girl at 14 months old. Please speak to your parents about having a child. Remember the grass is not always greener on the other side. And you should have a child with a person that you love and are married to. Thank you!

I just turned 16 and i wanted to start a family with my ex gf. You should wait but it feels that you just want someone to love you really and someone to understand you, and the fact that you are bi makes things harder. I too want a kid so badly but i have no one to have it with…so maybe thats a god thing.

I know how you all feel! I am 26 years old and wanted a baby since I was around 12 years of age (actually I wanted to adopt one when I was 7!).

Although back when I was 12 I was convinced that I was capable and mature enough of having and supporting a baby and undergoing all of the obstacles, I look back and think what the heck was I thinking! I have learnt soooo much since those days and I cannot imagine where I would be these days if I made the decision of having a child back then. I would have a 14 year old at the age of 26!

You need to live your childhood/teenage years, become 18!

Trust me, you have sooo much to learn and you will mature and look back like I am now. I was exactly like you, stubborn and not wanting to listen to anyones opinion BUT if I didnt have people telling me to WAKE UP to myself my life wouldnt be the same these days. You want a man to propose to you because he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you NOT because he is forced to because you have a baby together. You need financial support, a future i.e., house, car…things you have earnt and can pass on to your children.

Not to mention, a baby/child deserves a family - a mother and father idol

hello take me as a child i’m 8 and i’m sick of my mum,

I want a baby to and im only 14!