Love help: Well see, there’s this girl. - Help.com

How did you two break up in the past, what was the reasons?

If you’ve gone out only twice, and know she’s the “one”, trying to get her to see you as the “one” is as likely to push her away as it is to draw her closer.

If you scare her with your interest, you will likely lose the relationship. To keep from scaring her you need to respect any boundaries she has toward you or toward dating.

It’s a fine line between “love conquers all obstacles” and stalking. If the first two dates were horrible, be prepared, for the possibility that this girl might eventually say that she is not interested in you. I don’t mean to depress you or tell you not to keep trying. I just wanted to give you that friendly reality check your freinds are supposed to give you.

So here it is: lesson number one is that you cannot force somebody to love you. People fall in love all the time with people they think are going to be their soul mates - but the relationships still goes sour and blow up for one reason or another. Being in love can be harsh. It’s still worth it, of course, but ease up on the intensity of your desires for this woman. Don’t put too much pressure on this person too soon or she will run. For your own sake, don’t actually expect anything from her. Don’t start expecting specific outcomes. This will keep things more relaxed and genuine for the both of you. Hopefully your next dates will be better!

I am in a similar situation (I’m 22 years old, female) with a man who is 29. We dated for about 3 years, and things ended in disaster. I am seeing someone else currently, but am not happy because I KNOW that this other man is the person I am supposed to be with. I can feel it in the deepest of my heart. I still talk to this person everyday and usually see him 4 or 5 times a week (no sexual relationship at all, just hang out as friends), and it tears my heart out every time because I know he is the right person for me, and I know I’m with the wrong person. I believe if we gave it another try, we could work through all of our difficulties because we have both grown so much over the past couple years, but, he will have none of it. I’ve tried talking to him, but he is just at the point in his life where he is burned out from seeing anybody and he needs to be alone. He also has not dated anybody since we broke up (3 years ago.) The only thing I can say is that I guess there will come a point in time where you are either going to pursue this girl you want (and there will be one of two outcomes there–either, she’ll accept, or decline), or you’re going to walk away from the whole situation because it hurts too much. I haven’t reached that point yet, I still keep holding out hope that this guy will have a change of heart and decide to give things another shot. Trouble is, if you’re trying to make this girl “realize” that she is the right one for you, you are without a doubt wasting your time and you will drive yourself to the brink of insanity. Everyone has their own mind and feelings, and you can’t make her realize feelings for you that she just straight up doesn’t have. Maybe she really does, but that’s going to be her decision to come around to them and acknowledge them, and ultimately act upon them. There is nothing you can do, bugging her about it will only drive a wedge between the two of you (believe me on that). Until then, you’ve got time and that’s about it. So take your focus off of the situation for right now. Focus on something you can make a positive impact on (I know that sounds corny and ridiculous but it’s true.) Hope this helped at least a little–hang in there, and say a prayer for me too while your at it. :)

Hi,

She can´t realize things that she doesn´t feel. I already met many girls that I thought were were the ¨”one”s…Well they were the ones for the time I was meeting them. Remember relationships take at least two people finding it beneficial to be together……
You can´t make her do anything, she will do things she wants, so maybe sometimes the wisest things is to let go. I don´t know if it would be good solution in your case, but it is alway one of the options,

love
rafal