Love help: Ever been in this situation?

Crotchy

Ever been in this situation?

IF so, what happened? Did you get back together? Are you still together?

This is the situation.
You are in a great relationship, everything is working fine. Then suddenly, things change. She’s doubting everything in her life, her job, her school, her relationship. She’s scared that, 2 years down the road, she’ll end up married, engaged, or pregnant with you, and she’ll regret it.
She says that she’s not looking to date, or a new relationship, because if she can’t handle a relationship that was perfect until she started doubting herself, that she knows that she’s leaving a guy who would do anything for her, why would she go to another guy.
I love her… with all my heart. I would do anything for her. But this is how she feels. She feels that, right now, she has nothing stable here, and that she needs to get away, because she’s not settled here yet.

She says that she doesn’t know what the future holds. She still sees me in her life, no matter what, but doesn’t know if it’s just as a best friend, or in a relationship. She still cares for me, but her heart is not in the relationship right now.

Now, my question to you, help.com, is if you’ve ever been in this situation, and if so, what happened? Did things work out? What happened.

I’m not looking for hope, I’m just wondering what was the outcome.
I know that, for now, I will have to move on with my life. It just sucks that all the love that I have inside, for her, I can’t give it to her really.

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Crotchy changed the tags on this post: they were "Love, life, heart, Feels, guy, work, Right Now, relationship, girlfriend, broken, lost, sad, hurt" 2 years, 5 months ago.

Help me with: Ok… I need some advise… Any insight would greatly help!

Luv4cm #
Charlotte, IA, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Well yes this happened to me once, he was left me for another girl. He went out with her for 3 months then dumped her, we were still friends and then we went back out again, and here i am 10 months into the relationship with the most wonderfl man a woman could ask for.

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cecypdel 10 #
Monterrey, 19, MX | 2 years, 5 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Mate… I once was like that n then got the opportunity 2 leave everything behind n go 2 Australia… n I did… A year later I came back n… even tho it was difficult @ 1st… my old bf n I started seein ech other again… n we r quite happy 2gether now… the thing is… he let me go so that I’d do what I had 2 when/where/ n with whom n had 2… sometimes u just need 2 let go n let the person free because they cannot give themselves 2 anyone if they r not happy with who they r n what they have…

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Crotchy 1 #
Vancouver, BC, CA | 2 years, 5 months ago (22 minutes after post)

That’s what I’m doing.
I love her, with all my heart, and I know that I have to let her go. I know now that she needs to go back home. I told her that I want her too.
But, I’m scared that I will lose her. She’s the best thing in my life, and it’s hard to let her go.. and it hurts, every day.. but I know I have to do that.

So, this is truely a case of:
” If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it was meant to be. Otherwise, it was never meant to be.”

Any other inputs, I would greatly appreciate it.

Help me with: Ok… I need some advise… Any insight would greatly help!

lizzielevini #
SG | 2 years, 5 months ago (40 minutes after post)

Lol, anyone else would kill for a boyfriend like you. This prolly doesn’t help your situation, but this girl doesn’t know what she’s giving up, or letting go of. Good on you that you’re so much in love with her man, but make sure the relationship isn’t one sided. You may be blinded by love now and all, but if in the future you get together, will this issue ever come up and spark off tiffs? Make sure she loves u back equally, or find someone who will! =D

Lizzie

PS: Tell us if it works out between u two, yeah?

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gnarlycharlie101 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (48 minutes after post)

unfortunatey i can’t honestly say that something like this has happened to me. But what i can say is that no matter what, you should let her go and respect her decisions. Keep in touch, and because of the bond that you two share she will come back to you. also, is going with her an option?

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Crotchy 1 #
Vancouver, BC, CA | 2 years, 5 months ago (56 minutes after post)

Lizzie,
Thank you for the kind words. I’ll be on this site for a long time, and I will definitely let you know how things go.
I guess only time will tell how things go between us. Only time will tell how these issues will affect us in the future.

Gnarly,
I don’t think that right now, me going with her is an option. I told her that I would.
I can find a job back there without a problem. But, she feels a need to help her parents first, then concentrate on herself before anything else. She feels responsible for her parents. She needs to do this alone.
I will keep in touch with her, that’s for sure. She knows that she can talk to me, no matter what.

Help me with: Ok… I need some advise… Any insight would greatly help!

Crotchy 1 #
Vancouver, BC, CA | 2 years, 5 months ago (59 minutes after post)

She needs to do this alone, but she knows that I’m there for her and she knows that she can talk to me. I also told her that if she needed me, for anything, I would be there for her in a second. No matter what. ( well, in 4-8 hours depending on when I can get a flight). That’s not an issue.

Help me with: Ok… I need some advise… Any insight would greatly help!

gnarlycharlie101 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

well it seems like, at this point, all you can do is respect her wishes and wait.
good luck n’ best of wishes

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MSBRIA_0 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 5 months ago (3 hours, 17 minutes after post)

i’ve never been in ur situation. but i am in a relationship with some just like you…a loving man…..
if she is leaving to take care of her family then you have nothing to worry about. maybe what ever is going on in her life will not let her love you will all her heart…just be there for her…. and like you said if it was meant to be she will come back….
honestly though dont wait forever b/c there might be someone else who would love to jump on your train…
Good Luck

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Crotchy 1 #
Vancouver, BC, CA | 2 years, 5 months ago (12 hours, 21 minutes after post)

It’s funny,
I’ve been doing a lot of talking to people/ friends/family.
My mom brought up a good point.
If she knows that she’s running away from something that is good… then, there is something inside of her that is scaring her.
IF she thinks that 2 years from now she might regret something…yet, she was in a perfect relationship…what is causing her to be this way

Help me with: Ok… I need some advise… Any insight would greatly help!

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