Love help: My boyfriend’s mom emailed me and she told me to leave - Help.com

Before he moves. Talk with him and ask him if he feels that your relationship can last. If he says yes, Then keep up as solid a relationship as you can until you can meet again. If he honestly says no, then that is just the way it is and you will have to push yourself to say your final goodbyes and move on, or maybe even keep up a relationship as friends.

Then just say “see you in college when we get there” and cut it off for now. Stay in contact when you can and once the ‘rents are out of the picture go wild.

Try to keep a relationship of some kind up with him until he is able to move out of his parents control. Then you should be free to see each other at your own expense, if the connection between you is as strong as you say, then he and you should be able to accomplish that

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let him decide if he wants you or wants his mom

No, there should be no additonal hostility between you and his family. To maintain a healthy relationship, it is urgent that you try to be close to those whom he is close too. His family may not be too fond of you right now but I can almost assure you that if and after you establish a solid relationship with him, a good relationship with his family will follow eventually. Also, the last thing you want to do is give him an ultamatum, especially if he is only 17.

Forward the email to him and ask him what he wishes you to do. As a parent, I feel it very wrong for another parent to put themselves in this situation. It wasnt fair of her to do that to you. Hes 17, he should be made a man by being able to make his own decision here.