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Whats changing? I bet your mom does care. Parents have a funny way of showing love! trust me.

I lived in different places and had a really tough time, but I concentrated on sport, because you can make friends quickly, but I learned that sometimes people who love us are also going through difficult times themselves, perhaps your mother wants you to be tough and move on, by showing you tough love, of course she loves you, she is your mother, but you need to learn to communicate with her dear, remember your mother has feelings too, and she has tears too.

i would clean your room to get her off your back. then call your friends everyday. my friend moved to california last summer and i talk to her by iming her. i’m sorry you have to go through that. and you can talk to her about how you feel. i’m the same way… i don’t cry that often and it’s really hard to tell people what’s on my mind. join clubs and you’ll make new friends, but you don’t have to forget your old ones. best of luck!!

Think of this as a new adventure. Clean your room, go out for the day, find something to smile about!

If your mom doesn’t want you to associate with these old friends it could be for reasons you have not shared yet. Parents don’t want their kids to be miserable. There must be more to it.

Sometimes you have to let go of that reputation for being strong. It may be difficult, but sometimes things need to be done in order for you to get by. All of this stress is going to drain you physically and emotionaly if you keep it bottled up. Talk to your mother, go to a friend and cry on there shoulder, write it down, or just go for a walk to think things out. Keeping all that emotion bottled up in you isn’t good for you.
I hope things turn around, please take care and stay storng
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Jessica

Hi LOLO .. I know it is hard LOLO I have been there sweety but the best way is to tell your mother how do you feel , you can’t blame her for something she doesn’t know about , why you are crying in private ?! crying doesn’t mean you aren’t strong .. Please speak up with your mother maybe she is having hard time too because of those changes you are going through .. TELL HER EVERYTHING & CRY OUT LOUD if you want to , DON”T EVER BE ASHAMED TO SHOW OFF HOW DO YOU FEEL

Hi Lolo,

Sorry to hear about your problems with your mom. I think you are a good person and a smart person. I hope someday you and your mom will be able to resolve your differences.

Your friend,
Limon

Step one: always keep you room clean so you mom doesn’t have to tell you to clean it. Just keep it f-ing spotless and she won’t be able to say a **** word about it.

Step two: you have contact info for your friends? your mom won’t let you on the computer? I bet she will let you go to the library. Then you will have all the time you want to be on the computer, or writing letters, or on the pay phone talking.

Also talk to your mom about how you feel. Make a case for why you should be allowed to speak with these friends and tell her that you want to come up with some rules you can both agree on as to when and how you can talk to them.

School is very important and doing good in school really will help you in life. She is probably only trying to be a good mom and help you do good in your life ya know? I bet she has really good intentions. She most likely doesn’t realize how hard she pushes and how it makes you feel.

Maybe you should tell her that you think school is important and you want to do good, but sometimes you feel that her love is based on you grades more than your self. Tell her that you feel she plays favorites with you and your brother based on your grades.

If talking to her is scary then maybe the two of you could talk to her together, or maybe write her a letter and both sign it. That way she won’t think that you are overreacting. Try to give her actual examples of things she said or did that made you feel that way.

hang in there girlie! I have problems with my mom too. A lot of people have a hard time with their parents but just try to be understanding.

Honey your mother is going through a very hard time decause the divorce & I think u do too .. Its all not your fault but you will understand how hard does she feels .I think she is crying in private & she always showing strenght just like you . She is not ignoring your love to your friends but she is in a hard time to understand how do you feel toward your friends .She cares about your school so much because she wants you & your brother to do well at school to prove for yoursedlf , Your father & the whole world that she can take care of her kids alone & she are still doing great .. Take it easy on her sweety because I’m sure that she is going through very very hard time . I know it is not your fault & you deserve to be taken care of because you are the kid & this is her rule to take care of you but she is no angel , she is just a human being who makes some mistakes sometimes .

sometimes we feel like parents don’t understand and don’t care and we don’t understand why they do the things they do but one day in the real future you will and then you will see your mother was just trying to help you.

I don’t know your mother. Probably she loves you.

But I also agree with the statement you said came from your father. Most important in life is to be a good person, school is important but it comes second to being good.

A tidy room also comes way behind a lot of other things. The only reason I can see for keeping your room tidy (except for avoiding to step on a sandwich or something), is to get used to order and be able to organize things when getting older. But it comes in handy for parents when they want to occupy the kids instead of arguing…
“Go and clean up in your room!”

On the other hand, cant you be good AND do so-so well in school?