Feel help: I feel upset and angry because its almost a year since my dad died. - Help.com

Think about the good side if your life. Your dad is in heaven now and wants you to be happy.

wow. see i don’t know what to say to you because that is intense.
so just god bless (even if you don’t believe in god) and i’m sorry that your dad has passed on.

the only thing worse than an unexpected death is and expected one. it’ll be a year on halloween since my grandmother died. i’m sorry.

no one can tell you it’s ok cos it isn’t you know that and so do I but whatever people say he was your dad and you miss him so much. I don’t know what happened and I am not asking but you will get through this however hard it seems now. all the god and heaven and that stuff don’t make it any different but you will get through it. life is never easy and sometime we all have to deal with the ones we love dieing. if you are 9 or 90 when it happens it’s really really hard and of course you are angry about what happened. no one would expect you to feel any different. the 22 will be tough I won’t pretend it won’t and not just for you. it is a time you will always dread cos it was when someone really special went away. you will cope. do you live with your mum? are you close?

but at least you have someone there who will understand how you feel. I guess it’s been really bad for both of you and its hard to be close sometimes. you will probably find you can help each other on the day and I know that might seem hard. everyone copes in different ways. it ain’t going to sound right at the moment but every year you will learn to cope a bit better. I’m not saying you will feel less just you will learn to cope with your feelings. I guess you are still quite young and it’s hard enough to cope with things I do know that. I guess it won’t be much of a consolation but I will be thinking about you and if you need to talk again I am happy for you to have my email address. I will not make any secret I am a man in my 50’s but if I can help just by being someone to talk to please do. my email is (email removed)

if giving my email is a problem I understand.

ok I wish there was more I could do to help just hang in there and you will be ok

Your father is where he is missed the most and with this post you are showing how much you loved him, I agree with ianandsu, you should try to take this opportunity to come closer to your family. Maybe you should pay him a visit together and tell him about how you’ve been.
If you think that’s not a good idea, maybe you should still try to go just by yourself, I think that will help you feel his presence and you will find peace, comfort and strenght.

Hey, Flo.

You’ll probably always feel something around the anniversary of your father’s death. I think there are a lot of feelings that you might not feel ok to express, but they are your feelings.

(((Flo)))

My bithday is today the 15th and my dad died a long time ago and that hurts like hell but my brother died in March on the 6th. My mom is in a nursing home and I have a disabled son and no money to celebrate. But today I broke down hard and have been crying all day my son has been talking about killing himself since my brother died thats how bad the loss is to him and for a while today I knew how he felt. But I remember that he would want me to be hppy that I have life and do the baest I can with what I have left here on Earth wher=ather its a day or 30 years, to live happy and full and know that they are there watching everything and are proud.

I am sorry for you loss but joyful for your birthday and long life to come.

Happy Birthday,

Catherine

Flo,
Today is my dad’s second birthday since his unexpected death in February of last year. One thing that really helps me cope whenever I miss him is to write him a letter telling him how I am and about how my life is now. I do it probably once every few months. Sometimes I talk about things I miss doing with him or memories I have about him. Anything I would like to say to him if he was alive. When I’m finished, I take it out to the river where we used to go canoeing and fishing and I let it go there. I believe the thoughts eventually make their way to him where ever he is. Today I took him a cupcake with a candle on it as well. This ritual has helped me a lot because I can separate the time I spend missing my dad and thinking about him from the rest of my life, which helps keep me thinking positively. Maybe it will help you, too.

I’m so sorry about everything. My love goes out to you.

I think you’re right, Flo.

Hi Hun just a quick note to say I didn’t get in touch yesterday cos I thought you’d want to deal with things your own way. I was thinking of you though. I guess everyone tells you time will make things easier but we both know every year you will miss him. Do me one favor and I know you said before that you and your Mum weren’t that close but just go up to her, give her a hug and tell her you love her. It might sound daft but you will understand that it’s something you’d wish you could do with your Dad if he was still here. Sometimes when we are with people we may love them but we don’t always have to like them 100% but while you can just do it. Don’t be too afraid to do and say the things we one day won’t be able to. And finally wether there is anything there or not when we die makes no difference what matters is that your Dad would have wanted you to do the best with your lfe that you can so just go for it and make sure that you will be able to look back and know he would have been proud of you cos that’s what he would have wanted.