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I’m in trouble.

I have a very big crush on my boyfriends best friend. I think I only like him because I want to help him. He drinks and smokes a lot. He’s so depressed and I really want to make him happy. I’m pretty sure the only person he’d let get close enough to him to help him would be a girlfriend.

its kind of like this story with this cute little kitten i had. there was a phone cord wrapped really tight around his legs and he was screaming and clawing at the cord trying to get out. if i tried to help he’d hiss at me and bite me. he thought something was attacking him. …thats what this boy reminds me of. its a silly metaphor but…i really like this boy. I dont know what to do. i dont know what to think.

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Limon offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 4 months ago (2 hours, 45 minutes after post)

Hi Linda,

A few things. First of all, this is your boyfriend’s best friend, so if you choose to act on your feelings, it is inevitable that you will hurt your boyfriend. How do you feel about your boyfriend?

Second, if you are interested in this guy primarily because you want to make him happy, you need to ask yourself what kind of relationship you would have. Would it be balanced? You might have some tendencies toward codependence, but I’m not an expert. Here is a link that you might want to take a look at to see if it fits you: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codepend…

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Linda O offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Rockford, MN, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (5 hours, 17 minutes after post)

i had similar thoughts after making the post. i guess my real problem is my existing relationship with my boyfriend. i might write about it in a different post.

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Makati, 53, PH | 1 year, 10 months ago (6 months after post)

linda how old are you

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (7 months, 1 week after post)

ha

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