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What would make your life worth living?
I have a lot of those times. I spent years being too afraid to leave the house, feeling like my life had no meaning. I looked for answers but couldn’t find any because I was waiting for someone to rescue me. Eventually someone showed me that if I want my life to be more then it was then I need to make it what I want it to be. No one will rescue me, I need to rescue myself and let others help. Tell me some of your goals. What are things you would like to achieve in life?
i read a great book once, “the Chosen” by Chaim Potok. In it the main character’s father says at one point, “a man must fill his life with meaning, meaning is not automatically given to life.”
Actually, the whole passage is very insightful. Here’s an excerpt:
“Human beings do not live forever, Rueven, we live less than the time it takes to blink an eye, if we measure our lives against eternity. So we may be asked what value is there to a human life. There is so much pain in the world. What does it mean to have to suffer so much if our lives are nothing more than the blink of an eye? I learned a long time ago, that the blink of an eye in itself is nothing. But the eye that blinks, that is something. The span of life is nothing. But the man who lives that span, he is something. He can fill that tiny span with meaning, so that its quality is immeasurable, though its quantity may be insignificant. A man must fill his life with meaning , meaning is not automatically given to life. It is hard work to fill one’s life with meaning. A life filled with meaning is worthy of rest……….I want to be worthy of rest, when I am no longer here……Few goals are worthy of greater dedication. ”
Well, the only way you are going to move forward and change your life is to decide that you’ve had enough of the way things are and fight back. Decide what your goals are, decide you are willing to fight to change your life. If you give in to this, then there is nothing anyone else can do to fix you. You have to fix you.
in the passage i cited you, Chaim Potok writes, “meaning isn’t automatically given to life” so my point is that you need to Chose what it is you want to devote your life and energies to. it is rare and unlikely that your ‘purpose’ so to speak, will simply one day land in your lap as you go about your everyday business. the choice then, is only the first step. then the work starts and you move forward from there.
i don’t really understand what you mean by giving up, since it doesn’t seem to me that you’ve decided yet what it is you want to do. what are you doing now? what are your options for the future?
So what are you up to? What are you going to do next to get to feeling better?
i guess the only thing i’d like to add is that you might like to figure out what it is you’re passionate about. it easiest to find a purpose in s/thing you’re passionate about - and then it doesn’t feel like work at all.
(for instance- part of my job required me to work with young offenders. it was only after doing that, i discovered i had a passion for working with at-risk youth).
good luck. you have time still.
Are you still there?
One of the best things I ever did when I felt I had nothing to live for was volunteer and get involved with things I cared about or enjoyed.
There is so much out there. My advise is to go find what gives life meaning for you. For some it is a true love, kids, friends, etc. For others it is knowledge, trills, adventure, etc.
For me, when I stood on top of a hill that we hiked up I realized just how much is out there that is yet to be discovered by me. It would be such a shame for me to stay still and not look for those things that make me happy in life.
i feel like you all the time im in the same boat, no job, new place with no friends, old friends are not the same, i stay home allday, no money. i dont know you just got to keep on livin. its hard but if you make it through this tough time and finnaly make something of your life, when everything looked like there was no way out. your gonna be proud of your self and find new reassurance and self confidence just to know you made it through this hell that your feeling now. forget everybody else focus on you, get up to the top and if you dont make it keep trying untill you do. once you hit rock bottom you still havent failed unless you dont get up you fail when you give up so right know the only way is up.
i really dont have alot of friends,and i feel theres more to me than just staying home and sleeping late.im homebound because of my belly.i have such a big dream and theres nothing i can do to achieve it.the last hour i have cried out i have nothing to live for.im 12 and i dont want to continue wasting my life
whats the answers to the riddles….. I’m still young, not out of highschool. I have no friends, my father ******* at me and my family all the time. Have never had a girlfriend, I have to work all the time. I’ve looked at almost every aspect in live, and it just seems there’s nothing worth living for. Everybody does the same thing, were all a bunch of pathetic insects living on this earth…… I have just about lost it and have thought probably a 100 times on how i would want to die…. but even if i do off myself, are we really dead? or do we keep living on forever… so that would be a waste…… If anybody knows a good solution please let me know….
Trust me, im feeling worse than everyone on this site
never never never give up
i am so young and i feel that people don’t take to me at all. so many times i was supportive to others and was there for them, and in the end they treat me like crap. i am now in my mid twenties without a friend in the world who cares about me. i have homosexual tendencies that i am afraid to act upon and even less heterosexual tendencies that i am scared to act upon for fear i will get in an unpleasant situation for fear of what people will think of me either way gay or straight. i am afraid of going on vacation because i have nobody to go with. i have gotten in fights verbal and physical with my “friends” after they treated me like **** as I should have i feel it’s not right but now i am alone. i have never had anyone that loved me nor have i ever loved anyone. i feel i am just going through the motions. i feel my work is the only thing that gives me any purpose in live at all… it’s the only time i feel valuable to anyone. as i write this i am crying… it’s hard to admit. i don’t want to kill myself. i want to live. i laugh and joke around a lot and am a cheerful person outside of my own thoughts and feelings… this isn’t therapeutic. i don’t know what to do… i don’t want to live like this. i want to live like everyone else does. like my estranged friends do. i want a life partner a girlfriend. i want to see the world with someone.. i want to CARE!!! & i want others to care. I’m not ugly or fat or stupid or unattractive in my opinion. I have a high opinion of myself and am very creative and intelligent. But wherever i go in my 25 years on this planet I’ve been shunted and kicked and beaten into the dirt to the point where i feel like the world is against me so I’m against me I can’t change who I am and I don’t know what’s wrong with me that it needs to be changed…. i just don’t know what to do….. i’m just so down all the time I don’t do anything. i just watch tv all day on weekends.. i’m shut in and i should be out there living.. I don’t have mental issues … it’s just that this state of life gets me down and i don’t like being sad or unhappy or alone and yet that is what i am most of the time and i want it to stop but i don’t feel i have the strength to make it stop because until now nothing has worked, i have been in this state of being for most of my life despite my best efforts to the point where i stopped caring…
I understand - you all have a friend in me.
Brothers and sisters, there is a lot to live for.
Believe me, I’m one of those people that just sit around on the computer all day, simply because I have nothing to do! I sometimes feel life has no purpose as well, simply because I’m doing nothing productive. But I constantly try and drown out those thoughts, life is what you make it. If you aren’t satisfied with your life, find something that satisfies you - whether that’s exploring the planet, playing sport, doing voluntary work. You will find something you enjoy and love, you’ll be in a much more happier and social mood - thus continuously improving your life.
I have an aim to join the Army by next year - this aim makes me want to live life, fulfill my ambitions.
Seriously, there are kids in Africa, Gaza, Iraq, that think they have nothing to live for because everything and everyone is taken from them. But do they give up? No, we all have a purpose on this planet.
when you have nothing, you have nothing to lose.
always keep on going, to show others your strenght, to prove to yourself that you are worth something. and mostly ALWAYS live for others.
if you have nothing to live for personally, then live for someone else.
keep faith and hope. as your happiness will soon come.
and never give up :)
x x x
its so easy for some people to say “its going to be ok” and “stay happy and keep your head up”. but what those people dont realize is that its hard to have that mentality when it seems so bleak.. i myself deal with suicidal intentions.. i find myself to a knife to my throat or my heart and i tell myself that just one thrust will end all of the pain.. but does it really?? i keep telling myself that saying: suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. which it really is. noone really knows what the future holds for us, but i think that just dealing with what life gives us is the best way.. i myself am native American, and i have that warrior belief that no matter what you should take on in your life you take it on with all your inner strength and overcome your obsticles.. i really hope all those with similar feelings as myself heeds these words and stay strong.. i write this because i want others who fight those feelings like i do,and to find the strength to find that meaning that they have been searching for in life.. much luck to all of you wayward brethren.. remember.. theres only one person like you in this world.. make your lifetime worth it… :)
i feel like my whole life i’ve done nothing and haven’t accomplished really anything. there’s never anything to do, just the same old routine over and over again. i know you have to make your life worth living for and you have to keep a positive mind set. but lately all i’ve been thinking about is me not having anything, i barely have a family, i’m losing all my friends from being so negative all the time. all i have is my boyfriend. i’m in high school and i can’t even do well. all i do is fret about everything, feel like i don’t fit in anywhere and feel like dying every single day and i can’t stand being this way.
send me a message people
I want to die. now i want to be kill i hate my life thats it. my heart is broken and my repect for my self has gone kill me now.
I find that I get very down in the dumps, and yes because life is often meaningless. I spend a lot of time by myself and I have tried to enjoy being by myself but I don’t think it is good for me. On the other hand I can’t lean on others because they are infailable and they will sooner or later push me away if I try to draw on their energy all of the time. And I am bereft of positive energy to interject into relations with others. I can’t blame them for not wanting me around.
I look at the talents that I have and projects that I could be engaged in and often I am left with the overwhelming feeling like I don’t want to do anything except sleep and shut down. Often activities have a “feel good” element to them, but that usually sooner or later end when depression sets in and envelops my whole being. Some days it is painful just to push myself to get dressed and tie my shoes.
Society doesn’t give us any credit for at least trying to follow through on some of our activities of daily living. But these activities are important, and often my heroes are the people that can tie their own shoes each morning.
the last seven years i have been in and out of deffernt stages of hell, i say hell for lack of a better word. i have walked with death from motorcycle crashes to drug overdoses. i find little peace in the fact that im not disfigured from my past, atleast not on the outside…i am wrighting this because what iv read here tonight has helped me get through. life is hard to say the least. there are times that i live minute to minute. i have nothing to lose but my life,to top it off i feel as if i lost that a long time ago. i belive it counts that im here wrighting this now. a lot of things can happen in life, a lot of those things will be bad. no way around it but, its what you go through in life and what you make of it that makes you who you are. i hope with what has been said my hell is in good use. much love to all of you that need it. the world can be a small place i hope to get a chance to meet some of you in it one day
Every week I struggle with one simple question. Why did I allow him to hurt me. I should have been able to protect myself. I have questioned myself and have asked why am I still alive. I don’t deserve to be alive. If I am unable to protect myself like a man then I should just end my life.
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