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I just don’t get it.

I have been dating this guy for almost two months and When I’m not with him I feel like he doesn’t like me at all. Actually, even when I am with him sometimes, I feel like he doesn’t like me at all. He doesn’t ever touch me, or kiss me, or anything really. I just don’t understand. He says that he likes me a lot and that he thinks we are going to be together for a long time if not forever, but how can I be when he doesn’t even seem interested in me at all? Am I being too self involved?

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CrackHacky offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Mill Hall, PA, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (2 minutes after post)

this happened to me. it turned out the guy was gay and i was his ‘cover’ lol.

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Torquin offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Milwaukee, WI, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (2 minutes after post)

Depends on how long you’ve known each other and what kind of personality he has. He may not know you’re ready for that sort of attention.

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msnm1 offline Unverified User #
Cincinnati, OH, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Well I’ve known him for over a year and I really really hope he isn’t Gay.

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cady offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
San Francisco, CA, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (12 minutes after post)

Some people don’t know how to be affectionate, or they don’t understand how important affection is to others.

TALK TO HIM!!

Talk though, don’t accuse or jump at him. Be kind and patient with him and tell him what you need. Yes, it’s ok to need affection. He may just not need it as much as you do.

Talk…….

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Barbyman offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 4 months ago (14 minutes after post)

why dont you ask him to kiss you ,”like would you like to kiss me?”lets see what he does,you may get a surprise ,he is just shy…

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msnm1 offline Unverified User #
Cincinnati, OH, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Yeah, he says he is shy. And ever since we have been dating I have always been the one to like ask him to kiss me. Sometimes I just feel kind of whoreish in a way because I seem to want more.

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mauri offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Delft, 11, NL | 2 years, 4 months ago (18 minutes after post)

maybe you 2 are too young, how old are you?

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msnm1 offline Unverified User #
Cincinnati, OH, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (18 minutes after post)

18, Is that too young?

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mauri offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Delft, 11, NL | 2 years, 4 months ago (19 minutes after post)

are you his first girlfriend?

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msnm1 offline Unverified User #
Cincinnati, OH, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Yeah, does that mean something?

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cady offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
San Francisco, CA, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (20 minutes after post)

No 18 is not too young to be intimate, usually. Depends on the maturity of the person. But generally, intimacy at that age is NORMAL!!!

Talk to him please.

Good luck.

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msnm1 offline Unverified User #
Cincinnati, OH, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (21 minutes after post)

See, I thought the same thing. I talked to him a lot about it and he just says that he is too shy to start anything. I would think he wouldn’t be shy around me.

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mauri offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Delft, 11, NL | 2 years, 4 months ago (24 minutes after post)

Cuz I was like that with my 1st girl for about 1 month.. we were 16…
Then you grab him and kiss him a lot all the time, grab his hand, hug him…. try that, at least for 1 week.. he should improve.. make him comfortable.. maybe he needs to be pushed a little bit..

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cady offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
San Francisco, CA, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (25 minutes after post)

Ohhh, different story now.

He is letting you know he’s not ready for intimacy! Please respect that. Allow him to become comfortable first. Patience is the key.

Never push this kind of stuff. Keep talking to him and give him small advances. With time, he’ll find comfort.

It takes some people a LONG time to learn to trust the person they are with when it comes to these things.

If it becomes more than you can take, maybe he just isn’t ready to be in a serious relationship. You can either wait for him or you can move on. But I’d be patient with him for a while. ESPECIALLY if you are his first girlfriend.

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Barbyman offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 4 months ago (26 minutes after post)

sometimes a womans touch is all a man needs,sometimes a woman has to make the first move,you know each other for a year, guide him to the land of eden,hope he will follow….

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mauri offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Delft, 11, NL | 2 years, 4 months ago (30 minutes after post)

noo, it’s delicious to feel the love of a woman, feel the affection of a woman is the best uplifting feeling a man can have.

If he is shy that doesn’t mean he doesn’t want it.. but he is shy that’s it. He needs to be a bit more confident, he needs to know that you want him and that you like him.. you should try what I said.. you are his first girl

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msnm1 offline Unverified User #
Cincinnati, OH, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Thank you all so much. All of you have really helped.

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seperfiv offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
San Rafael, CA, US | 2 years, 4 months ago (5 hours, 5 minutes after post)

well he is deffinently part of the YRAX club. be careful of further encounters with him

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