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I would try the library. I am sure the service desk people will know who can contact that will help you out. They should have info on a community outreach program that helps people in dire circumstance’s, like yours. Good luck out there. I am rooting for ya. It’s rough on the streets.

Have you been applying for jobs? Have you thought about moving to another state?

Brilliant. Your life has just put you in a circumstance which allows you to start over.

It is difficult to make a suggestion… you’re so obviously going through a terribly tough time. So tough that it is hard for you to see beyond it. Kind of like living in a haze or deep fog without seeing a clear patch.

You may need to start looking for the best qualities in yourself. Try and remember what it was like to do something that made you feel 10 feet tall! It could be anything… someone you helped tremendously, making a goal for a team, riding a bike across the country …whatever positive it may be and how it made you feel.

Sometimes it is tough …but if our “ship doesn’t come in we have to try and swim out to it.” Motivation to just do anything can seem like quite a chore, but once we get to motivation we can become unstoppable. It is a key to getting control over your life. Challenge yourself to try something new. Like Oster said your, “circumstance gives you a chance to start over.” We all have set-backs and some of them are extremely hard to see through - it takes courage, but starting over is how we manage it sometimes. We pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and say, “OK. That was pretty crummy, but thats behind me now.” Tomorrows another day to start fresh. Prove to yourself you are ready to make the next step …even if its a small step.

Maybe try and make a plan… write down what you would need to do to get from where you are to where you want to be. Of course you will see your obstacles in that plan, but write down ways you can think of to overcome those obstacles. Make a list if you have to. Write down what it take to get out of your current situation and some positive alternatives to that situation. You mentioned not liking the idea of living with a friend… what would you need to do to get out of that situation? Mossy Glade was suggesting a library or community center… these are great places to “start over.” You can also check out other online resources like http://www.craigslist.org for jobs, housing and additional support.

I do hope something works out for you.

Yes. It certainly is difficult to get inside someone’s head and see things from their perspective - everyone has their own unique problems in this world. Someone can tell you not to worry… that there are other people with much worse going on in their lives, but I think its hard to think about that when you have you own troubles.

It sounds to me like you are making a step in the right direction. You mentioned getting away and meeting some new friends. Finding places where you can meet new friends with similar interests is a good start I think. Try looking into places that will encourage you - not discourage you. Places that encourage you to feel healthy and good about yourself emotionally and physically.

And I definitely don’t think you are dumb… asking for help isn’t dumb! To come to this forum and reach out to others proves that you are thoughtful and open to suggestion. You are making the first attempt to get yourself out of a rut! Thats a good deal!

I think a tour bus business sounds like a great idea! And why not Nascar? Sounds like you are sharing your dreams with the wrong people and that can be discouraging. I had a ‘friend’ like that once. She would often put down my dreams and aspirations. That really is not a friend. Anything is possible if you believe in yourself and have the motivation to get there. If they don’t believe in you - start believing in yourself. Try to find out what steps you would need to go through to make it happen. Maybe try looking into tour bus companies online or at your library. Find out what it took to get there. Try asking someone who owns a bus company. Find resources and tools such as job centers, the library or an online job site that help expand your possibilities. For instance http://www.google.com and type in the search input box, “tour bus company” or “jobs tour bus” or “nascar jobs” …something that would be related to your field of interest. Try and look into finding a job where you can work your way up or into your goal… even if it isn’t quite what you want yet. Big dreams sometimes start small. Maybe start by working for a tour bus company. Prove to yourself you ARE capable of it. Put money aside to start your own business. Take it one step at a time.

You mention having no encouraging friends, family or money. I can imagine it must be hard… but those are your obstacles (and life isn’t short on obstacles). How to get around them is the question. As ‘Oster’ mentioned …you really have a new start. Begin at the beginning. Start with your idea of making new friends…people who encourage you and can help you to make healthy or positive connections. Sometimes friends become family.

Sounds like you’re just irritated with your circumstances, but know what you want to do. Do you really need other people’s approval and support to do what you want?

Hay life is what you have, regroup yourself start from right where you are
Here are some suggestions.
Apply for unemployment benefits, also apply for food stamps and go to to all the employment agencies in your area. Start right now! and proceed upward! look upward! and remember to do a random act of kindness on and for yourself and others - alright!
and remember this - Things could be a lot worst! stay and remain greatful!

First thing I’d do is get a car. Save for it, check local churches for a car care ministry, ask friends and neighbors if they have a car they can give you or sell you cheap.