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We all have a purpose, a reason for being. If you can’t find one, then maybe you just need to keep searching. Please don’t kill yourself. It’s a terrible thing to do. Why do you think there’s no reason for you to exist?

How about this? You think of someone else besides yourself! How about you help some cancer patients or deliver meals to old people who can’t get out?

If you have depression then you need to see a shrink and get meds perhaps. If you are just seeking attention there are better ways to get it.

I hope you find the things that make you happy in life

What? No, don’t you dare kill yourself. You HAVE a reason to exist, what talked you into thinking otherwise?
Right now, I suggest talking. Just talking. To us, family, or, most importantly, yourself. Your mind is pulling you down, telling you everything sucks, there is no more reason to live. You know what? That is wrong.

yes you definately can talk to us. and i wanna know y you want to do this.

Andrew,

The helpers of the world are always the ones who are forgotten and ignored. It is just something that we all have to deal with. I would pride myself on being someone who helps, who cares if others notice. You know who you are and how much you help others. You will eventually find someone who realizes how good of a person you are.

Killing yourself is the most selfish thing ever. I’ve had my run with suicide… myself and my friends. There is only one person that has control of your happiness. Don’t expect anyone to MAKE you happy.

There are plenty of people posting here even before I get to finish mine. We all know what there is in life and makes us push on even through hard times. Killing yourself is not a solution.

If you’re under 25, stop looking so near sighted. There is a reason that the quote: “Life begins at 40.” exists. Why end it all now before you get a chance to see why life begins at 40?

Go travel and see new things. Make new friends. I just moved to a new place and I have no friends. But, I’m trying to meet new people. Emotions are hard to face sometimes. Don’t let your sadness rule you. That’s lame.

i have an idea.
get a myspace.
then browse people with the same interests.
then talk to them.
and i can guaruntee that you will meet people who live near you and then whala.
you have friends.

my suggestion to you is to first love yourself, find people that do not ignore you, and if people do not appreciate you for you then they are not worth worrying about anyway

You are not invisible, not at all.
Yes, people have things they depend upon, and you do to, but it doesn’t show itself to you unless you look for it. I know you have been looking, but look more and don’t give up. Count on yourself for a start, you will always be there for you. That sounds cheesy, but you really do need to love yourself or you won’t let anyone else close for fear of yourself.

find out what your hobbies are and then join a group that likes the same things, but first you must like yourself, how does people ignore you?

you’re not invisible.
not one bit.
otherwise all of these people wouldnt be telling you NOT to kill youself.
try going to a local hang out or a coffee shop
and maybe just try to meet some new people.
ok nevermind.
even i wouldnt do that.
maybe join a club.
or try a new sport and take some lessons.
how old are you anyway?

ok this sounds completly stalkerish….but trust me.
im 14 and i cant do much
how old are you and what city do you live in??

why do you think you are not getting noticed, are you standoffish, shy, etc….

In myspace, people don’t just appear at your doorstep, you have to be out there and let them become your friends. Actually, that is true everywhere. Do you go to school? Join clubs, try something new. People are not always horrible, and they are not out to get you. Chances are, there are people who want to get to know you, but are unable by your shield of depression and lack of self confidence.

this wants to make you die?

your ability to identify the source of your problems will be the same thing to pull you out of this depression.

what do you want from life?

Yes, that would put down your confidence. However, you realize the problem, and it’s starting point, so don’t you think you can work out of this? It’s grade school, it’s supposed to be a good time in your life, with your only troubles are what people think of you and what you think of yourself. Do you really like being miserable? Do you really want to die, or just escape being lonely?

but this was in grade school.
you’re 27 now.
grade school was 20 years ago.
youve changed.
everyone has changed.
you can have amazing realtionships with people.
you just need to find those people.
and its honestly not hard to do.

when you said i was being somewhat generic..
and when no one actually changes.

i know what you meant.
im presently going through my own personal struggles.
its not easy.
truthfully there is no one that can help you.
not even professionals.
there are only two people that can help you.
god.
and yourself….you need to really dig deep and pull yourself out of your depression…

death is not the answer.

heres a reason to keep going.

there is one special person out there waiting.
waiting to meet someone who will change their life.
and…YOU will meet someone who will change your life.
then you will meet someone else whos life YOU will change.
you need to live untill you meet this person.
dont expect it to come immediatly.

the fact that you are alive is reason even to live, who knows what might come your way, something good will happen, and just think how strong you will be if you overcome this crisis, and then you will help someone else that is going through the same thing…

thank you anonymous person.
thats exactly the point i was trying to make.
i obviously just cant express my feeling very well.
=]

your both great

both?

l and andrew

oh ok.

andrew do you have aim or anything like that?

You want a reason to live? Well, I don’t know your life all that well, so you are going to have to find that yourself. It is not something we can actually decide for you, just help you on that path. What about us? We are thinking and typing our time away, for YOU. We are doing all we can, for you. If you kill yourself, we will never know the person we tried to save. You will never know if you could have changed your own life, and other people will never know you.

Suicide, in my opinion is the chickens way out. You don’t want to face what goes on in your life, so you leave. People care about you.

a reason to keep going…you will never knwo what you will miss.

I have been close so many times in the past; but my life is amazing right now. I would have missed it all…

This will pass.

andrew i will leave you with this, if you live in the past then you cannot live in the present and if you are not living in the present then you cannot look forward to the future…

hotsox is absoltuly right.
you say you’re invisible and no one cares.
but everyone who is leaving replys on here is taking the time out of their night to type a response and to let you know what their thinking.
and we dont know you at all.
so we obviously care about you.
please dont end you life.

Forget about your family and forget about the past. That is what is holding you back. I like what WantMore says. This will pass. Go out and help people and feel good from helping people. That is why you are here. I would also like you to google The Secret if do not know about it. Look it up on YouTube. There’s also a post on here about it. STOP LIVING IN THE PAST! Learn from it, but don’t dwell on it. Build yourself a life from scratch. Take up martial arts. Learn to control your mind and body - the best martial art for that is Tai Chi.

But if you are in so much pain and absolutely can’t take it anymore, fine. Go ahead and be a coward. I may sound harsh, but it’s the truth.

Yay! I was right! Anyways, Andrew, you haven’t replied in a while. What are you thinking?

yes again hot sox is right.
you need to reply.
im getting a little worried.
please reply.

Andrew, you have people here that obviously care for you. Surely you can find someone near you that cares for you too. You just need to open yourself up to new people.

ok good.
so do you realize now that all of the people who have posted on your site truly care about you. and they dont even know you. so imagine how people who do know you would feel about you.

so dont then.
you will meet new people. its just a matter of time. over time you will create amazing realtionships with people. the people who have posted replys on here obviously care about you and they took time out of their evening to try to convince you not to kill yourself. im writing the 41sh reply. you posted this just about an hour and a half ago. thats how many people care about your being. now imagine how people would care about you once you met them in real life..once you make freinds they will realize how amzing of a person you are and they will love YOU. well you cant. it sounds harsh but its the truth. you just need to start over to a certain point from where you are at now in life. you cant completly start over. but you can change. and changing doesnt include death.

Andrew, what Validipinio says is very true. However, if you’re not a Christian or disilusioned with the church and it’s people, please still listen to what she says. Conrolling the thoughts in your head is key. Reading positive things and avoiding negative stimuli is the only way to fight this overwhelming feeling of lonliness you have at the moment. It will pass, but it will pass quicker if you decide to take control. You have extraordinary talents, abilities, and qualities that you either don’t see in yourself now or haven’t cultivated yet, that the universe has blessed you with and through you will bless the rest of us. Although you may not see it now, you have an impact and if you allow (not expect) others to do so, they will have an impact on your life as well.
As for counseling, it IS free to those who need it. Start with the # listed at the top of this page that ‘Helpbot’ has posted and they might be able to give you some free therapy centers in your area, as well as help you. Not every therapist is peddling something.. Some will empower you and reveal the truth about who you are, not just what you see now.
Look up Andrew, you’ll be there soon… on top of things.

I do not think it is a good idea. To be honest I have thought of it too. I just felt there was no end to what I was going through, but it seems that we are far more worth more than we put ourselves to be. I wish the best for you and be safe and careful you are loved and you are needed always remember that.

Read This: http://help.com/post/81540-yet-anothe…

join a church. thats the best thing i ever did. people dont ignore you if they need your help. and you can make something big of yourself. set goals. who knows? you might end up the next multibillionair by some odd twist of fate.

True ThisFire, the creator of Desparate Housewives was homeless when he came up with the idea.

i was in kinda the same boat as you. and what happens is we become negative. then nobody wants to be around you because they dont want to feel bad too or they try to help but we come back with a negative response for each of their suggestions. and the fact is we truly believe our responses. a lot of times it is because of outside issues or people that we get like this. i was abused as a kid, picked on in school, and i seemed to stay afloat for a while but it seemed like all my friends, which were the only things that kept me happy, were all gone seemingly at once.

the truth is i pushed most of my family and friends away. some moved away. i got into a negative relationship for like 4 years which made it worse. i let myself go into such a hole for so long that when i finally came out no one was there. i couldnt believe how they could “let me” do that. i find i cant depend on anyone. the problem (i feel) is that we look to other people and other things for strength and support when it is inside us all along.

i would have never believed this myself but i now know its true. i said to myself, how could it be? i have no energy or strength left in me. im worn down. but its in there trust me. im not totally “cured” because i still have an emptiness in me i am trying to figure out. but i wont give up. and i definitely felt it would be easier to not be here. BUT that means “they” win. all the people that hurt me and it also means i went through all that suffering for nothing. i wont let that happen. why should we suffer all this time and then end it without feeling good?

i was actually able to turn MY thinking around after nothing seemed like it would ever work. we cant change or control other people (god how i wish we could sometimes lol) but we can change and control ourselves. and that all we have to work with. i am actually in such a ****** spot right now and im not worried or depressed. wow i actually just realized that-good for me.

you have to actually work on yourself though. positive reinforcement where there is negative conditioning.

i totally recommend “the artists way” book by julia cameron. to everyone. (you dont have to be an artist) is for unblocking yourself. and it has similar principals of “the secret” but it was here first and is probably better to read before the secret.

but you dont have to be that elaborate and read a book. you just have to tell yourself positive things. and say or write what you want and really know that they will happen. you have to force yourself NOT to try figure out how - just know that it will. i know this first hand.

I tried to kill myself about a year ago. I still have the large scar and yes I did it the right way. Let me tell you this world is a ****** up place with some of the worst kinds of people and saddest moments. It also has some of the greatest moments and incredible people and you just have to find where to look.

I discovered that the core problem to my depression was my environment and my unhappieness with myself. I found that making a list aka Mission List of things to change about myself and surroundings kept me motivated and interested. I also found that I was bored with my life and needed a change. I decided that I needed to move to a different area. One of the best things in life is the unknown. Yes, it can be scary and awkward at times but thats what makes it so amazingly interesting. You will need to learn how to survive in a different environment and meet new people. New people equals new opportunities to find great people.

Look at it this way. You only have one life to live. You give it up now you lose everything but if you fight for the one thing you want the most you can gain everything. You need to fight, lifes a challenge. Don’t give up.

Heres my suggestions of things that will keep you going:

Mission List : Objections to be completed over a given amount of time. Complete one and check it off.

Music: No not depressing music. Motivating or beautiful tunes. I found a lot of power and motivation from music.

People: Friends and family. Pick the people you care about and are good to you. All the rest just leave out of your life. Not only will you feel in control of your life but you will be much happier. What do you care what people think anyways, I mean you were going to kill yourself. Instead of killing yourself, improve yourself and show the world you are stronger.

I have a song suggestion. Kanye West - Stronger. Rando I know but it goes with what I said. If you ever need to talk again, just say it.

Life is a big school. We join it, we get to learn, we graduate when it’s time. Some of the lessons we learn are sad some are happy. What really matters however is the extent to which we are good students. Everything in life either good or bad teaches us something. Sometimes what we learn is obvious at the time we are being taught, some other times it is less obvious or even hidden. In the latter case one has to take the time and find out what the lesson had been about. This process might take hours, days, weeks, sometimes years. Think about it and certainly don’t kill yourself! You will only lose the chance to see what you are being taught right now! It will only make you stronger and more confident in the future. Don’t decide to miss out life because no matter how dull it might seem to be at times… it’s beautiful after all!!!

right now i am breaking up with my boyfriend and i have to move out. everything in here is mine and i dont know where im gonna put it. i dont even know where im gonna go! (and i hate my job) and i am actually NOT depressed or even worried. which is amazing for me. i am not on medication, not dilusional, not crazy (well were are all a little crazy =) but its because i already changed my thinking prior to this.

i reconditioned myself and i have a more positive attitude. i dont care what people think (as much). i have wasted so many years where i felt numb and like i asleep, but i am changing that every day. i cant depend on anyone to do it for me and this world aint getting any better. and its not that i dont care, which is an attitude i had before which leaves you numb. i am actually coping and i know you can too.

dude dont kill your self that retarted and you will be like bad and dude just dont man theres no point to kill yourself life only comes once dont waste it and kill you self cuz after u do that but then at the last second u dont want to its too late and your dead

killing your self will only hurt every one around you

Living is the only absolute truth in life. Lose life and you lose any chance of ever having meaning in your own eyes.

Here is what helped me:

You have purpose. God created you for a reason. There is a God. Society and Satan (he’s real too) don’t want you to believe that there is a God but there is.

God loved you so much he sent his only Son to die for you. Your life can change in an instant with a simple prayer that is heart felt.

Just say God, I know I haven’t been perfect but I want to know you. Please forgive me for my sins. I believe you are real and I believe Jesus died on the cross for me. Please show me you are real. Help me God.

I promise you…he will show you the way.

would I be named a bad person if I said I think this is(without reading anyones replies) an attention thing?

yes you would be a bad person.
*******.

andrew. how are you doing today?

How did u think no one was noticing you when many people replied to your post.I am a younger to u.I still dont know the world properly yet. I lived with parents less than three years that to when i was a kid. I started moving from hostel to hostel every 3 to 4 years. I dont have people of my own(I mean perminant). I survived all my lonliness and hatred by helping someone who were suffering like me. The world does come to your feet and give u everything. Everyone is just some who will be forgotten. might be just the matter of time. I really dont know what to advice you.One thing is sure go searching for happiness and pleasure you may not find it. But stop be little more patient see if someone arround needs help.see where you can be useful and dont expect anything in return.You will defenetly be happy in short period of time….

Well that what i learned from my experience…
“If god pushed you from top of the hill, don’t worry he willing to teach you how to fly”…..

look, there is no quick fix. but obviously you are not alone in a sense because you have all of us dodos trying to help you even though that may not fully take place of actual human contact wherever you are. but it is something. also, who cares about not hurting yourself “because of other people” who cares if you hurt others by doing that? they hurt you anyway. But dont hurt yourself FOR YOU. You deserve better. better than anyone else has ever given you. you are the only one who is there for you. we cant be happy in other people unless we are happy with ourselves first. we cant sit around waiting for someone to make us happy. we must make ourselves whole first, then others should compliment us, not complete us. maybe you should be made whole through god if thats your thing but if not, you can do it yourself. you are deserving just because you exist. you dont have to prove it to yourself by listing your qualities or comparing yourself to other people. even if you are a total a-hole you still deserve to be here and be happy. (with yourself and/OR with god) then happiness with others will follow…