depression help: 41 years of age, still lost, alone and lonely, anxious and depressed at times but very intelligent, please help in any way you can. - Help.com

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What do you love?

As Richard Bach says…”perspective, use it or loose it” also… “Ask for your limitations, and sure enough they are yours”.

Answer these questions for me. Don’t answer until you’ve seriously considered honestly the true answer…

1. Where do you get your energy from? When you are upset, do you find that being with other people, in a social atmosphere is energizing, OR do you find that your energy returns while you are by yourself, with a book, or tv, or whatever?

2. Are spontaneous, a dreamer? Do you often examine the present situation, or do you imagine what the future could be?

3. Do you think “hard” about every decision, or react quickly based on how you feel.

4. Do you enjoy starting a project, or finishing one. Have you found that you often have a great idea, get it started, but find it hard to finish, OR do always work hard to finish a project, tying off loose ends?

If you can, answer these honestly. Do not answer these using how you Want to be, but rather how you actually are and have been in the past.

what makes you feel lost?

Depression tend to cause the feelings of loneliness, anxiety and feeling lost. I think if you concentrate your efforts on controlling your depression, things will greatly improve for you.
There are many steps you can take to improve that though. Go seek professional help, maybe get on some medicine to help control it and stay close to family. I also struggle with depression. Expression is they key. Don’t sit around by yourself. You need to express what you’re feeling.
I hope you can find something that works for you, and start to feel better about yourself and your situation. You’re only 41, you have a lot of time ahead of you, so remember it’s not to late for a fresh start.

you say that you are still feeling lost? How long have you felt this way?

Life doesn’t stop at 41. I know I am 42 ~chuckles~.

You can have all the intelligence in the world, but if you have no wisdom (willpower) to back it up then therein lies a problem ~smiles~.

An intelligent man knows smoking is bad for him but continues to smoke anyway. A wise man quits using wisdom (willpower) because he knows it is detrimental ~smiles~

I am 95% more intelligent than the rest of the world. At least that is what my psychological evaluation says ~chuckles~. However I still to this day do some really dumb stuff ~grins~.

I am constantly evolving and that is what keeps me content. You are the master of your life my friend, if you are unhappy and contemplating the life questions then you need to break away from your repititions and try something new ~smiles~.

One thing that really helped me get out of my rut at 40 was volunteering my time helping others less fortunate. By getting out of myself and helping others the selfishness and other unlikeable traits I had started disappearing or lessening ~smiles~.

It was hard at first because I don’t really want to help others, society teaches me to be selfish and consume junk…it is revolutionary when you do not follow the idealisms fed to us by those in control ~smiles~.

This is a speedbump of introversion…do not ignore and let it pass you by or I promise they will get worse as you get older ~cringes~.

Be well my friend and great luck to you!

To drink the wine of life, and the joy of God. That is a wonderful elixer. To pour out of our well, water which is refreshing to others. That is holy. We all need that drink, we all need to pour into others. If you ask, the creator of the Universe will answer. His son is that life, and those who truly know his son can lead you to that well of water that will quench your thirst.