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Pretty much what I was going to say.
And generally it’s a good idea to find out if the guy you are interested in is married BEFORE you start going out. This will prevent the entire problem. Might want to keep that in mind.
Yes, I would ask him too, but I would go a little further than that. Ask to meet his family…friends..that will tell you if he is hiding something. If he isn’t married than he will want you to meet his friends and family..
Best of luck to you!
How long have you been with him and what would make you think he is married
From a married man - some clues might be;
- if he doesn’t hang out with you at his house
- check the phonebook and see who’s listed for his address, or check www.switchboard.com for his address, name, or phone number
- ask his neighbors
- does he wear a wedding ring, or have an indentation where a ring should be, or a tan mark where his wedding ring would be
- ask him if he is
- or if you want to be really sneaky have one of your friends call his phone and ask for Mrs. so and so, and if he says, “no” ask when she’d be available to talk.
first of all, what makes you think that? why instead of asking if he is cheating, you ask if he is maried?
if I thought my guy was married. (not cheating) married. lol. i would sit him down and seriously tell him that i was married. (i would say it was stupid and i was going through the divorce process) then i would see if he said “hey, me too” lol.
i agree with tom.the.fis
Check his wedding finger for a tan line where a wedding band would be ~winks~. And yes ask him ~smiles~, if he lies it is on him, or you could always hire a cheap private detective ~shrugs~.
some guys are just soooo good in lying.
hmmm has he introduced u to his friends?
have u gone to his home?
have u looked at some albums?
gosh i really need help with this too
i dont have a house number cause its suposedly a long distance
number for his work in another porvince
ive never been to his place but im suposedly moving this in april when its our 1 yr
anyways i cant ever look at his cell and when i peek for a sec when hes on it
i seen a few girls names he says they are workers from his cafes i know his aunty
or his mom according to friends of mine,,, its just really weird he can talk to me all
day everyday but still i have questions why ask me to marry you and not intruduce me to your family ?? he seems too good to be true except the phone and home thing.. which is big
1)if a guy is not taking you to his house….ITS A RED FLAG
2)if a guy does not answer some calls in front of you because he says I don’t feel like talking to this person right now- ANOTHER RED FLAG
3) also go to a trip together and tell him to pay for hotel with a credit card….My guy didn’t want to -RED FLAG ( statements come home and she can see it) - pays everything with cash
4) scheduled calling time ( after 9 always tired and going to watch some TV and relax) because his spouse is coming home at 9:30pm
I HAVE BEEN THROUGH THIS SITUATION WHERE THE GUY EVEN BROUGHT ME TO HIS PARENT’S HOME TO INTRODUCE ME TO HIS MOM BUT HE NEVER BROUGHT ME TO HIS HOUSE…AT THE END HE WAS MARRIED!!!!!
Hello, sorry for my bad english (i’m from argentina) i need now the same. i have boyfriend for 1 year but now i knowing diferents things that are not true, ex: his friend woman was his girlfriend for 8 years and the adreess him i have is not the correct now. he say that the phone have 1 adress diferent that the home where he live becouse say that in usa you can move to other house and not change the adress from telephon company. i’ll be glad if someone can help to me with this. i was trinf to see in internet but i have pay for information, i’d like know if you know 1 page or site where i can question about.
maybe you could find out from the court house or somethin?!
ih my name is june i have been seening this man he tells me hes devorced and that hes not geting married again im thinking hes still marrieg he has a son hes never seen since he split from his marige so what should i do.
Hi i’m currently in a relationship with a man who is 10 years my senior. He has two kids one girl and one boy both of the age where they can talk.Before we started seeing each other i asked if he was married and he told me that he and his wife split a while back how long ago i’m not sure. I haven’t met his kids yet because i’m not ready to..Do you think i should just meet them and get it over with??…some guys that i’ve been talking to(mind you they just want to get in my pants) have said he’s married because i haven’t met them or been to his house yet. He’s up early like 4 in the mornings during the week day and doesn’t get off untill like 4 he also has to take care of his kids football pratice and stuff like that so i only see him once a week. Then he goes to bed around 9 at night. i’ve read the comments above and saw the thing about the 9:00-9:30 rule and i’m wondering if that applies here or if it’s because of work?.. also when i go to his house what do i look for to see if he’s married. i know if there are no family pictures lying around the house then he’s hiding pics of his wife or something along those lines. I’d really just like to know what to look for..
your input is greatly appreciated
I recently broke it off with a guy when I found out that he was married. It was one of the worst things I had to go through…(throwing out all of the stuff he had at my place made it better for me). After wondering for months if in fact he had a wife I used www.marriage-licences.com to search for him and find out if he had a marriage licence anywhere in the states. He was married in another state and it turned out that he would just travel into town on business a lot. After I confronted him about it he said that his wife was fine with it but I wanted nothing to do with him any more.
i have been dating a guy who i also think is married. we have been friends with benifits for over a year and the past 5 months he asked t get serious. great i thought. but still never been to his house, or his home town. never met his frends. cant even see who he is friends with online, like facebook? i live in the uk and was wondering if anyone could give me site to find out in the uk?
He might be good at lying but i have confronted him about it and his excuse is his home town is a **** hole, he lives with his parents and that all his friends are married with kids???
I am worried and i wont let it drop until i find out. i dont even know his address????
please help. im only 22 and dont want to get my heart broken.
he is 31. sorry forgot to mention that
@lian, we too have similar issues, if ever you think that this guy is married… maybe he is.. if he cant be honest with you by not telling his address.. he can lie even bigger than that… to be in love is not a mistake.. but if your doubtful about the love he has for you then you should think.. you are really doomed to get a heart ache dear.. am suffering now.. be sure to know and meet the family first.. before falling in love..
I was seeing a young man for about 1 y
yr. He wouldn’t see me for 2 months at
a time.I thought it was because of our age
difference. (30 yrs) That should have
been a clue. He approached me on facebook.
He could never spend the nite.
We didn’t go out for months at a time.
I never met family or friends. His wife
messaged me on facebook. Somehow she found
me. He blocked most of his facebook page info.
Saw all of the red flags and decided
to ignore them until the wife got in touch with
WWooww geez …i looked threw all my boyfriend stufff pictures and papers all the way to tax forms and bank statements & yup found out he was married now going on 10years with this girl .but were still together & its going on1year and 9months for us”..and hopefully the divorce will hurry and jus be final..cant wait to be his only ..and yea he never wanted me to leave him so he never told me..it hurt but never deind it..
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