friends help: I broke the “chicks before dicks” rule n now all my friends hate me! - Help.com

I wouldn’t worry to much about it. There are worse problems in life. if she likes you enough, she’ll get over it — but do you really want to remain friends with someone so controlling?

Your friend doesn’t sound mature to me

I have just read you post. My mate at school was like yours - when I stood up to her in the end she got mad loads of times but I just kept standing up to her and now we have worked around her controlling problems and we have a good friendship.

She still goes a bit mental but I just calmly tell her the facts and walk away. She steams and cools down then we chat and are back on track. I always remain true to our friendship but am very firm with her. Over time this has resulted in a very strong understanding friendship.

Your mate needs to realise that although u are friends u are not answerable up to her. Friendship involves give and take. If the shoe was on the other foot - what would you have done? Probably just been fine with it and listened to her problems and helped her? I hope.

In the future when you have a serious partner - will you need her permission to take matters further - maybe move in with him??

Your life is your life and hers is hers. Friends should be there to make life a little easier. There are enough hassles out there without friends adding to them. But communication is the only way to sort problems out.

I suggest you stand tall on Monday and carry on as though nothing has happened. Its your mates loss if they carry on acting like silly jealous girls. Get yourself out there - be friendly and get a few more mates under your belt. They will soon come round.

And STOP apologising to them. What have you done wrong exactly? Nothing x

Hahahaha when we were kids we had one called Bros before Hoes ~smiles~

Woops hit the send button to quick ~chuckles~

What is funny about school is it seems like this big deal, but you know what? Almost everyone disappears after high school, and especially after college, and people will get married, if you friends have such lame expectation of you then they aren’t really friends ~smiles~. I wish someone had told me that back in the day when we prescribed to that garbage.

occult i was just going to say that this is like the rule guys have have “bros before hoes”

don’t worry about it just enjoy the time with your boyfriend. its just a stupid rule. plus everyone breaks the rules “rules were made to be broken”

If your friends are more important than your boyfriend… well, he’s not much of a boyfriend, is he? Guys are more than just accessories, you know.

So would the boys rule be dicks before chicks ?

look, my BEST friend did the kind of similar thing, we went on a trip from School and she chose the guys before me and that was after her saying, I want to have fun and spend time with my girls anyway at the end of the day, I was very annoyed at her and I’m not really a person to hold a grudge but the next day my other mate told her how I felt and then a couple of days later she asked me on MSN what did I say and how I felt and stuff ant I told her absoloutely EVERYTHING, we had a 2 hour long conversation and we didn’t take it the wrong way, we actually sorted it all out and knew where we both stood at the end of it, now your mates should also be understanding like me, if they are good mates, I can tell you now the only reason I was able to talk to mybest friend and tell her how I felt was because I love her to bits and I think our type of friendship is the type that will last, there always has to be one that is mature to sort it all out because if I was the same as my mate we wouldn’t have got anywhere and just kept on arguing…everything’s back to normal now.