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could it be that you are trying to protect yourself from getting hurt and that results to having hard emotions?

Welcome to the ebb and flow of homrones and emotions ~smiles~

yep yep yep… I’ll go with Occult of course. Just growing up. You are a guy right? Your voice will start changing soon…if it hasn’t already. Welcome to manhood.

yeah mate! same thing happened to me lol.
everything would bother me, then all of a sudden I don’t give a **** about anything an it’s gr8!

I dont see how thats great, i mean, wouldnt it suck not to feel anything?

it’s not great. and it’s definitely a defense. you need to challenge yourself to feel. you need to take the risk and allow yourself to feel. it’ll take practice.

it’s not great at all, even though it may keep you from getting hurt it will also stop you from experiencing some of the best things life has to offer

make the change, allow yourself to let go. it’ll take work and it won’t be easy. but it’s definitely worth your while.

maybe consider going to counseling, they might be able to give you some key perspectives to help you on your way.

if you aren’t being hurt so easily, i’d guess it would be a good thing. n perhaps you simply have a more positive outlook on the way things go, like things happen for a reason, and you trust everything will turn out okay.

if you feel like you aren’t feeling much of anything anymore, you don’t get excited or happy, then you might be trying to insulate yourself in an unhealthy fashion.

See when the human is pushed, especially the male we have a tendency to shove everything down. Meaning males usually start to build some serious walls to keep what used to bother us out. Do not let this happen. This will take years of therapy to let others in so that you will feel at least halfway human again, instead of feeling alien.

marvelous you have a special gift ,that is you can switch of anything what may put pressure on youre self regarding panic,where others truly flipp out ,you are as calm as a cucumber and this will be with you all youre life.i call this a defence button,its in you, most of the peoples heart beat would go up yours is steady or goes down i have the same symtoms i went in the operating theater they could not find my heart beat as it realy slowed down and for you ! yours is a grow up problem nothing more so may the force be with you…

Jeez its not like I don’t let anything in lol. Then I would be incredibly boring.
I just don’t look at anything like its a big deal anymore, its not like i shut EVERYTHING out, i just filter out the negative stuff that comes through.

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Dont get me wrong, iam not like a robot or something! i do feel happy, excited and all that jazz… just not sad… :S

Maybe it is a defense? I guess it kinda makes sense… although nothing that bad prior to when i noticed had me any reason to be defensive…

Slimline - I really hope your right… A gift!

The Dog - I think your on to something - i dont shut every thing out… Infact iam a v happy person - i just dont linger on bad things…

Snowflake048 - How do i challenge my self to feel? I could pretend to cry, but that wont acheive much… If u have any ideas i am more thatn up for them.

Thanks for every post

Btw - its a v nice community you have here at help.com… v helpful..

Just remenbered my password - thats why it was anonmous

I think it will eventually come back, i was similar, i just supressed a lot of stuff and then finally my ex gf helped me realize that its ok to be emotional about some things some times. Give it time though.