life help: Hi, i really dont know what to do anymore? - Help.com

I feel you! I owned an IT consulting firm making $$$$. I owned the world then BLAMMO I am sick and in pain every single friggin day! Suicide? Yeah I’ve put the barrel to lips loaded on more than one occasion, but even being terminal and sick ( was suppose to be dead two years ago) I still have something to live for and I am glad I didnt kill myself.

As long as poeple love me I will strive to keep alive. My spiritual conviction don’t allow me to just kill myself either, but I am a firm believer in “Death with Dignity”. It sounds like you could still have a great quality of life, and I was just watching a show on CNN yesterday about a runner who has to fake bionic legs, so the road is not closed for you yet my friend and tehcnology promises even better results in the future, perhaps in 8 years down the road they will be able to regenerate body parts back.

Hang in there friend and then when you feel that love, or something good happens to you hold on to that and don’t let it go, and know why you want to live!

(((otwrO))) I am so glad your two little girls won’t have to grow up without their dad. It is and will often be hard, but never as hard as that would have been.

Oh otwrO… I am so sad for what you have lost and the cruel way it happened. No one whould have to go through what you are going through.

My prayers are with you and your family. Your wife sounds like a woman who can handle a lot and with time you will find your adult role again. Surely you are her best friend.

Surely you are better now than you were right after the accident. Things will never be the same, but they will be good. We all have ups and downs, but at least we have not lost you and I hope we never will.

Sorry you have had to go through all that. I can’t say I understand, because I’ve never walked in your shoes. All I know is - when things get bad for me, and they have been, just not in a physical way like you…. the only thing I know to do is take one day at a time, sometimes one hour at a time.
I have a family too, and children. I could probably bet, that your kids adore you like mine adore their own father. When you’re at your lowest point, think of them and what it do to them, if you really did kill yourself.
Sometimes, it’s hard to see the full picture - hang in there, you never know what is right around the corner.
Though you have lost most material things in your life, and I understand you need the basics to get along, but you still have the most valuable thing ever - your family… imagine what it would be like, sitting on your ranch, with all your cars, with no wife and no little girls running around.

since you can’t get a job then your wife should go to college and become a dental-hyenist. they make tons of money and i hear that it is really easy.

Think about all what you’ve been through. This might be a sign from God for you to think again about yourself and your family.See the good things. You’re still alive, your daughters have a real chance to live with their dad, which is an amazing opportunity compared to children living with one parent(divorced,widow,single..).I think that all you need to do is to find a real job(related to computer…) which could be done on your wheelchair. Think also of commuting.

hang in there i have and realize that every days not perfect but for some reason i am still here and alive.. just think of this what if ya wasnt.. 6 feet under ya cant make any changes there live for them not yourself ..theres allway tomorrow even if your not . but the life you have is worth living .. my dads gone and theres no way i can make a phone call an say hey whats up . and your wife . what about her ? your thinking of leaving her alone in this world . keep trying youll be allright..

otwr0 you’re not a child, you’re a man on the road to recovery. People do amazing things faced with serious hardships. Soon after most severe accidents people are faced with some of the most trying days in their lives and they can’t begin to think about having to deal with it another day, but you’re obviously stronger than that, you’re looking for thoughts, advice and solutions, you’re grateful for the gifts you still have, love ones who are there with you.

I hope you’re open and talk to your wife about your feelings. The two of you can work though this hardship together and become stronger. It’s the one thing a lot of couples don’t do enough of and can put undue strain on the relationship. Good luck.