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Preach it, sister!

i have found that to it hurts peoples feelings and there is no need for it i totally agree :D

Amen. I agree wholeheartedly.

I agree with you. I usually give my best effort not only to not insult people, but to make sure that they feel as comfortable as possible around me. I learned long ago that many people are pretentious simply because they feel self-concious about something in their own lives and so insulting, mocking, or disregarding someone only makes them feel better about themselves. People like that are unlikely to change and so they will always be around. Just be wary, but never let them change the way you treat others.

When poeple hate themselves and don’t like themselves they like to ensure everyone else feels just as crappy as they do. I usualy recognize this right away and just feel pitty for them ~smiles~.

I just worry about myself and help those I can ~smiles~.

True, not everyone is capable of ingoring them and seeing them for what they are. Their soul pays daily for their indisious behaviors and karma will catch up with them too ~smiles~.

I agree with heather marie we can all be guilty of judging, especially on here people are asking your opinion you can’t help but judge

again that is something that we can all be guilty of even if not intentionally

Aye, Heather we all judge. I have to make judgments to keep my kids safe, to keep away from emotion and drug addictions, etc.

You have know way of knowing who is telling the truth, but I have to believe they are or else I wouldn’t even bother ~smiles~. And if I have to go through 800 posts of liars and trash to help one person then I am validated ~smiles~ in my efforts.

We are all human and capable of anything at any time dependant on any given situation ~smiles~.

People have a hard time believe other people can or cannot be a certain way because they aren’t and this makes them cynical. I do get cynical sometimes, but not when I perceive it to be serious. Are my perception ever wrong? ****! I sure hope so, I would like to be perfect but that is setting myself up for a fall of megalomania ~chuckles~.

i just think people who have a negative mind set emit these feelings to others, they should follow the adage of, if you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all, how ever they tend to feel better saying their crap.

i totally know what you mean. there are these really annoying girls at my school and i hate it when they talk about me behind my back. and my twin sis goes around and says things behind my back ABOUT ME!!!! i hate it and my friends are always telling me exactly what they say. i am going to go up to her best friend who is the worst when it comes to gossip and back stabbing and say to her,” why is it that you take joy in making others feel so bad about themselves?” even though i already know the answer. people who do tht kind of stuff only do that because they want to make themselves look big, like ‘oh i can make fun of these people’. i hate because they think they are the center of attention but everyone secretly hates them. she only has friends because people are afraid of her and think that if they don’t join her then she will spill their secrets. they were dumb enough to even share their secrets with her. do u know what i mean?

For the most part I have read supportive responses, but I really do know what you mean. I have seen a few that sound quite hurtful. Although I know can be quite sensitive, I would imagine the posts weren’t very helpful to someone else who is hurting inside or trying to stay positive about something. LazyDaze also posted about unsupportive responses that were other than helpful to someone looking for help a week or ago. I was so glad to read her post since I had seen some unfriendly responses myself. Sometimes there are a few angry folks who log on. Seems that these angry people really don’t want others to be happy because they themselves are unhappy in life. Their questions haven’t been answered and they are frustrated for some reason or the other. There is some truth to that old saying, “misery loves company.” I think people get jealous of someone else’s enthusiasm, contentment or happiness so they feel the need to put them down or bring them down. Sad, but true. Usually, offline, those are the kind of people I let go of in my life because no matter what I say or do they want me on a negative train of thought with them. They feel it is necessary to crush any hopes or dreams someone may have. :(

Online bullies and flamers are a pain… but they serve to help us to realize and appreciate the friends we do have here and offline even more.

Keep up the great work stk3650! You are one of the many supportive ones here!!! :)

Wow, great post.

I can see it form both sides. On one hand, I work very hard to be nonjudgmental and compassionate on sites like these, but god help you if you are a telemarketer calling my house at 8am on a Sunay. I can be vicious.

I often wonder if they hang up the phone and say ‘now why does she have to be such a *****’, not realizing that I may have only gotten asleep a couple of hours earlier.

While I feel at a loss over the viciousnous of others, I need to also look at myself.

Everyone feels justified in their actions…even the really evil people who cause harm. No one thinks they are the bad guy.

I am both.

This is a bit late of a reply, but I feel compelled.
I. Am a sinner.
I have a thing with being incredibly cruel to people who hurt me somehow, so I think for a lot of people, being mean is a release. An impulse.
If something triggers you…you get pretty nasty.
This isn’t an excuse; I’m not proud of what I’ve done to demean some people.
Just offering an opinion.