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ok right now im really depressed because of a family problem.

my parents fight and argue constently and my mom is layed off and my dad doesnt have a job. and i guess you could say money is low right now. My dad always makes up excuses not to work and my mom doesnt wanna work either. Losers huh? yeah thats probably what most people would call them. But anyways, they both smoke dope in our house and they smoke. We always getting into little fights with my dad about him not having a job and everything but he keeps bringing up other stuff and excuses. When they fight its mostly because of my dad. Like at 2 or 3 in the morning beecause of…yeahh. It wakes me and my sister up and he punches holes in the walls and busts everything. It really hurts me because he verbaly mentally and emotionly hurts my mom. SOmetimes the arguements gets so bad that he almost physically hurts her. Like for example a few months ago my dad came after my mom but me and my sister were pulling him back so he wouldnt hurt her. He does and says the nastiest things that no one my age should have to hear and go through. his friends are bums and they do drugs to and he is always going out of his way to lend them money he doesnt have and he does everything for them. i yell at him for it cuz he spends alot of time with them but he says he is doing acts of a christian by helping them but they rip him off and could probably careless for him.

i know we are only human and make mistakes but is my dad taking atvantage of that saying? and i dont know if they should get divorced i kinda want them too but i dont kno if its best? someone please help me, what should i do.

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needana offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Be careful but it seems evident that you should try to get out of the house. Maybe you have a friend that will let you stay at there house. I assume your young but I don’t know how young so please tell us.
Your dad is nice to your friends because they can help him get weed or vice versa(not that weed a lone is a bad thing). You should if nothing else try to make new friends.
Talk to your counselor at school but be careful of what you say because by law they have to report abuse. If you want to stay with your family or have to stay then you should talk to someone at church–most of the time I would say seeking counsel at church is bad but they are the only ones who will keep the secret. If he ever hits your mom, your sister or you I beg you to leave. Call the police and say you will only press charges if they promise to take you away.
I too have experienced things like this and I guess i should tell you that you are not alone and there are people out there who will love you and take good care of you and you dont have to live like this anymore.
Thats all I got now more to come.

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eneidaot offline Unverified User #
US | 2 years, 3 months ago (3 hours, 55 minutes after post)

Hi. The situation you and your sister are in is dangerous. You need to reach out to your school or family/friend that can guide you. Call your local operator and they should be able to give you the national or local hotline for children. Please understand that their actions are inexcusable and you and your sister are victims. You are not responsible for your parents and should seek help and a safe environment as soon as possible. You are too young to have to deal with this and be very careful with whom you speak(if anyone) on PC. Good Luck! Stay safe

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needana offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (4 hours, 17 minutes after post)

13 ok.
Your younger than I thought but that can be beneficial or not depending on how bad you want your life to change.
listen I can’t tell you what to do– no one can, not now at least, or maybe just not on here. But I can tell you this sweet heart you need to tell someone im glade u posted your actual fake name this time.
I can go on and on with ideas but it all boils down to this: SEEK HELP YOU ARE IN A LOT OF TROUBLE!

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car offline Unverified User #
Middlesex, NY, US | 2 years ago (3 months, 1 week after post)

You sound like a good kid. Are you in school? believe it or not there are people at your school that are there to help you. Your parents don’t have to know your talking to them. They are there and close. They can help you more then anyone on the internet can. If you won’t do this for yourself do it for your sister.

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