friends help: me and my gf broke up recently, and now i’m getting strong feelings for her best friend.

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me and my gf broke up recently, and now i’m getting strong feelings for her best friend.

i’m hesitant about approaching her about it because it could damage the friendship between her and my ex. For her own sake, i’m cautious. what should i do??

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octopus 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (0 minutes after post)

give it time plenty of time… this is a tricky one

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elochka1976 0 #
Assen, 01, NL | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

If you have strong feelings to the best friend of your EX. Why not? But Are you sure that you want to go on with a new girl not because you can be closer to your EX and to have info about her?

borntobug 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

elochka1976, it’s definately not because of my ex, its mostly an unfortunate coincedence. I’ve liked this girl for a while, she’s pretty and funny and nice. i met her through my ex and we’ve been friends for a while. i liked the friend more than my gf after a while, so i ended the relationship.

so she’s kinda the reason i broke up with my gf, not why i like her now.

TBOBW 1 #
Georgetown, NY, US | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (12 hours, 28 minutes after post)

Wow this a tough one. well you only live once play your part just tell her if her friendship with your ex means that much to her she’ll let you know she can’t see you in this level or maybe she really doesn’t care about her friendhip, she’ll be with you. life is too short enjoy. let her know.

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leyla_swor 0 #
Austin, TX, US | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (13 hours, 3 minutes after post)

This girl, if she has good character will turn you down until her friend is over you. You should still let the girl know. Maybe she knows something about her friend and another guy that will allow you to be close.

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vballchik3575 1 #
Fallbrook, CA, US | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (18 hours, 15 minutes after post)

wait,like JessicaRabbit said, give it some time

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borntobug 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 3 hours after post)

thanks..if i tell her, like TBOBW and leyla said, then it’d b awkward and it mite seem desperate to her since it’s rite after a breakup, or seem like i’m using her as a recoil and to make my ex jealous.. those are all wrong impressions..

borntobu #
San Francisco, CA, US | 11 months, 1 week ago (2 weeks, 4 days after post)

nothing else i could do? (btw, it’s borntobug again, from a different location).
i mean, none of these responses have anything about an immediate solution. what can i do now?

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borntobug 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (7 months, 3 weeks after post)

anyone hav a different idea now?? nothing that involves waiting for a long time

capreol 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (9 months, 2 weeks after post)

I am in the exact same position myself right now, Tho after my old girlfreind broke up with me, i am curently with her best friend right now. But how we are doing well is we don’t let “jade”(ex)know that we are.its a hard thing to do, but its been 2 months now, i might not try it, tho we kinda have it placed like online dating tho we get to see eachother not very often/

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borntobug 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (9 months, 2 weeks after post)

yeah, only im not dishonest like that.

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