Well, if you really love him, I assume that you must really care about his happiness and well-being. That he’s been involved with the same girl for 3 years may indicate that he is happy where he is. Does he show any signs of being unhappy with his current relationship? If not, then having that discussion with him may not be the best idea. Loving someone is a selfless thing, at times.
Well he has been with his girlfriend for 4 year really but i think he is with her because he is comfortable with her since his parent are not stable and she is always avalible for him. So i don’t know if he is truley happy with her…i just know the way he looks at me. Do you still think i should not tell him? Because your right i do love and i want him to be happy.
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If he was unhappy with his current girlfriend, then I can easily imagine, based on how you’ve described your freindship with him, that he would’ve been very comfortable to either say it directly or let some telltale signs slip out.
Either way, if you do tell him, try to be respectful to all concerned. Good friends are hard to find and I’m certain you wouldn’t want to do any damage.
So what you are saying is that is he is happy with his girlfriend since he hasn’t gave me a clue that he likes me? Yet does a clue that he likes me could be the way he flirts with me and notices me whereever i am …does that mean nothing?
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Best thing that you can do is to subtly let him know that you are available and let him take it from there.
The clue is not in how he deals with you necessarily, but how he feels about where he is currently. What you’ve described is someone who seems to be very comfortable with you and engages in playful flirting. No harm in that, given the vast and varying definitions of flirting. However, if he’s not given any indication that he is unhappy with his current girlfriend, then I would certainly breach the topic carefully and respectfully, if at all.
Still confused but thank you sagudu =)
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Well, the only thing that would alleviate your confusion is having the conversation with him. That way, you would know how he feels. Any discussion with anyone else about it will not alter the reality of your situation given that it’s his input for which you’re searching.
So, having said that, I’ll retract my original suggestions of remaining selfless, and suggest, instead, that you have the convesation with him in a careful and respectful way.
My first reflex, upon entering the discussion, was to not encourage the interruption of a happy union, however, I’m sure, as good friends, you and he can discuss it with no ill consequences.
You are really really right…Thank you again
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He has a girlfriend dont even go there sister.You probably only like him because he isnt available.And all boys/men flirt maybe thats just his personality. find someone of your own.
oooo dear let me say he is in a relationship do not intefer with that. a little flatter in his life made him feel good to find out he still turns heads. if they we broken up this would be different you need to know that most of the time if you cross that line it will bite you in your butt down the road. Let this go and find someone else to love. be his friend and never by no means cross the line or temp him to cross that line with you. this will not make you a good friend. dont get in a love triangle you do not want the heart breaking outcome.
hey… if you feel strongly about the guy then TELL HIM, i’m sure he’s mature enough to deal with it, maybe he’s waiting for you to let him know about your true feelings but at the same time he doesnt want to confront you because he might be feeling apprehensive about the consequences. If he is happy with his current girlfriend then he’ll let you know, but if he feels like he could be happier with you then at least your giving him that option, i feel that if you dont let him know you’ll always look back and wonder ‘what if’ so go for it, theres no worse feeling than regret, but you have to remind him not to choose someone he likes over someone he loves, because if it is just meaningless flirting with you then you shouldnt push him to leave his girlfriend for you.
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i think it is a posablity that he like you because you are someone to him that is alway there. i think you have a chance. but i think you sould also stick to him like a friend.
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the hardest thing you can do in life is watch the one you love the most love someone else
-johnathan richards
nice little quote thought it might help …or something..
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