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please help me. I have a wonderful friend at work, I would say that she is the only friend I have at work since I don’t find anything to talk to my coworkers, the thing is that this girl and I get along so well most of the time, she has been my model to follow, she is older than me for about 4 years, my problem is that, last year when I started this job, I was shocked and confused about the way people treated people here. so she helped me a lot, we find many things in common, but the problem is that when I get depressed she says I am sick and I should go to the doc!.. I hate myself sometimes becuase I told her last year I was going to the psichologist, but not because I was crazy, but because I found being shy and sad all the time a problem, specially when I was at work. She is awesome as a friend, yesterday we had an argument I told her that I was still sad for my dog and even though she understands that, she told me inmature because I got sad, and I told her: It has just been 1 week since he died!…, and we argued, today, she is avoiding me and answering me bad and that hurts, I feel like she thinks I am weird when I get sad, it bothers me and hurts me… dont know what to do or how to react… she answers me in a bad mood, just because she says I am going back to how I was last year when I started this job, and she hates that… PLEASE HELP ME, because I dont know what to do!!, I can not even talk to her, cause she starts seeing me weird and answering me bad, I am mad, and times like this I feel I don’t worth at all… I hate she keeps telling me I am like I used to be and stops talking to me!!.. I keep telling her I am better, I dont get like I used to, and she answers me bad!! I think she thinks I shouldn be how I am !! it hurts :(

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 2 years, 3 months ago (6 minutes after post)

You’re perfectly entitled to be upset for your dog, you should give her some space for awile and always believe in yourself, don’t listen to her when she says you are you’re old self, you are exactly who you are and it’s up to you to be happy with that, maybe she’s not as great as you thought she was, I’m sure she is an awesome friend but don’t invest your happiness in her oppinion of how you might be

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MusicFreakMaria offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Midlothian, VA, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (8 minutes after post)

i suffer from depression but doubt that I can help but only so much… Hve you ever concidered going to a therapist? Mine has helped me somewhat… But the whole dog thing is normal… always believe in yourself… ignore whateveer it is bad she says to you… If she cant exept how you are… expand your social circle…

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lucichcar2 offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 50 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (11 minutes after post)

It hurts me bad, I was doing ok today about my dog’s lost, and I am thinking right now that in 30 minutes we called the vet and put him down last week, I was doing fine!.. and she brought me down and I have just started to think about all the pain my family and I had last week, I know I should be stronger and those stuff, I have been trying to think positive lately, and when I see my sisters sad, I try to cheer them up!!.. I decided not to talk to her until she does, because I am sure that if I do talk to her, she might still think I am weird. :(

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Oster: Gettin' It. offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (29 minutes after post)

Some people feel death and separation VERY strongly, and it makes them incredibly sad. It takes a little time to get over, so you can tell your friend at work that it hurt you very badly and it will take some times to get over. But you still must work, and try to be professional while you’re there.

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Wayne, NJ, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (44 minutes after post)

Well i think you are like that now because of your dog that was your love. your everything. and now its gone and you feel lonely like you have nobody and that that peice of you is missing. maybe you should just give it some time. as for the girl she isnt your true friends if she is acting like that. she should be conforting you and helping you feel better. no matter what.

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OccultPizz offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Spokane, WA, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (2 hours, 44 minutes after post)

Ummm I would have to agree with you friend you are taking the dog thing way too far!

Sometimes we don’t like our friends because they are telling us the truth to try and help us, but we don’t want to hear the truth!

If your friend is that close to you perhaps you should give your friend some thought ~smiles~.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (15 hours, 31 minutes after post)

I don´´t know all my friends tell me thruth It do not bother me at all! when she tells me the thruth!! she is so nice. but hurts me when treats me bad. that is what bothers me, makes me sad and hurts! … she always tells me what she thinks… but she have to react like that only after one week after I lost my dog, well I am quite well with that now! u guys helped me a lot!… but hurts me cause I always try to be nice with her, and she behaves weird to me…:(

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (21 hours, 13 minutes after post)

Thanks all of u!! u really helped me!! kisses and hugs!

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