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When your life is stale and snapping out of it isn’t working.

I would say that I have a decent life food home job all basics. I am the kinda person who learns to adapt to any situation and just do the least amount of work possible. That i know is a negative thing. I have been working pretty hard at my job and thats a new thing, but I just don’t care about anything. My life is ridiculously stale stagnant and unyielding. I posted on here not to long ago about how over whelmed I was and the truth is i was just tired. one good nights sleep and for the most part I got over it.
I have tried new hobbies i have tried new people and new places. I have even started to write again all these things I went into with a belief that they would help reinvigorate me or something.

Why is it that at the end of the day no matter how much i did or how little I feel like I have wasted my time and my life is zooming by?

I remember clearly a time when I was happy and it wasn’t that long ago. Could it be that truly my quashed dream of being a religious leader is causing this?

If you guys wouldn’t mind i am fishing for advice so ANYTHING would be appreciated.

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~LazyDaze~ offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 239 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (8 minutes after post)

If life throws you a lemon, make lemonade. That is a little saying a heard once and i just thought it was cute.
I don’t try to understand your problem as even though allot of problems sound the same here i know each one is unique.
Maybe you are right, your dreams have been dampened and its made a dent on your being, you may need time for it to heal.
Try makeing a list of all the things you have done that make you feel happy, or worthwhile and try pinpoint why they made you feel happy, also the things that you would love to try and see if you can come up with another dream to reach for.
I know i don’t have the answers to your dilema and it feels like a rock you have to carry but just try and know that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel however bleak it may seem, you will get there

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the_girl_you_knew offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
Nottingham, J8, GB | 2 years, 3 months ago (57 minutes after post)

if life hands you lemons, ask for tequila and salt.

im not too sure i wanna help you, not after you tried to pass depression off as being too needy…

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needana offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 hour after post)

what so I don’t believe that depression is a mental illness so u don’t want to help me?
fine with me. go away then.

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the_girl_you_knew offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
Nottingham, J8, GB | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

hey try reading my reply, i gave a nice quote to help didnt i? you know what, i actually think its your attitude thats holding you back, you come across as very hostile.

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Elexa Rose offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 7 minutes after post)

At this point all I could say, although used alot and pretty cliche in my opinion, I think it’s your outlook on it. Everyone has times where their life seems mundane, like it’s purposeless to get excited about anything, because it’s the same thingas always. What I usually do is look around in a new sorta way. You don’t need to go to another country, or even town, to have more excitement. It sounds completely cheezy, but instead of aeeing things, think about the,. Anything you want to do, do it. If it’s late at night and you want to go somewhere, go. You only live once, so instead of thinking about what you’re not doing, just do it.
and btw
These brain chemicals—in varying amounts—are responsible for our emotional state. Depression happens when these chemical messages aren’t delivered correctly between brain cells, disrupting communication.
Think of a telephone: if your phone has a weak signal, you may not hear the person on the other end. Their communication is muted or unclear.
–It’s similar to bipolar disorder or ther brain disfunctions. People who have no imbalance in the brain and still say they have “depression, wel say what you wat. But don’t deny there is a serious mental disorder here.

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Jade offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 37 minutes after post)

In regards to your post - you need something to challenge yourself and fuel a passion. Why can’t you pursue being a religious leader if that’s what you want?

In regards to depression, it is very real and it stems from as Elexa Rose indicates a chemical imbalance within the brain. It is a form of mental illness because it is related to the functions of the brain.

Depression is also brought on by tragic events which may or may not affect the chemicals in the brain.

Please do not disregard depression as a serious matter, it is something which was brushed under the carpet for too long and is now finally becoming accepted within society as something more than ‘crazy’.

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needana offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 45 minutes after post)

ok thanx
i can see that posting my opinion about depression will plague me on here so this will be my last reply on this site. You assume that I do not understand depression theory and that is not the case. read my stuff on the post labeled depression and you will see that.
ok so at this point I will codify my position and then run in the other direction and remove myself from this site i once loved.

I have heard read and seen on T.V. this idea of depression being a manifestation of a chemical imbalance. This is not a difficult theory to wrap your head around which is why a simple telephone analogy will suffice to explain it.

I have a number of responses to this and I will only throw out a few.

1) No one has found what these chemicals are and we do not fully understand how it works. look it up and all you will find is the term chemical imbalance repeated into oblivion. This is not a complete scientific fact not yet at least. It is what I have termed for the sake of this discussion depression theory.

2) it is arrogant to assume that just because the world believes that something is a disorder that means that everyone must believe it. The fact that up until just a few years ago in the DSM the definitive legal definition and list of mental disorders had included right along depression homosexuality as a disorder. SOMETIMES IT IS A PERSONS OBLIGATION TO CALL THE WORLD ON ITS CRAP! Homosexuality is not a disorder and the way I know that is they had little to no proof that it was and eventually the country said prove it or shut up. So I say about depression and a few other ‘disorders’ like eating ‘disorders’ prove it some science would be nice.

3) Just because a doctor makes the claim doesn’t make it true sweetheart. People like to make money and I believe from that goal depression sprouted its ugly head. The medications that treat depression often have positive results and then sometimes they propel people into a suicidal frenzy. The reason is the scientific community doesn’t understand anything about depression and they just keep guessing. I will now drop the word placebo and pray someone picks it up.

4) the argument now changes as I type this to both situations and chemicals does everything cause depression? If something traumatic happens then that is the problem not an illness.

5) I have an opinion and it didn’t sprout up from an ignorant stance and I shared it on a site that encourages people to have an opinion.You disagree fine but never tell me to not believe in something. try to convince me fine thats your prerogative but leave it there.
anyways thanks for the help with my original post and I don’t know why this turned out this way see you all later.

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Jade offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 59 minutes after post)

Hmmm.. no offense was meant. I can only speak from what I witnessed…

I watched my ex husband suffer from severe depression, he was on meds- not placebo’s,
he would occasionally forget to take his medication for days at a time and the difference was very drastic.

As soon as he was on them again for a few days, the change was again dramatic.

This is why I believe that is related to a chemical imbalance.

I suffered from depression after my mother died, It took me a year, I was offered meds but refused them for I wanted to feel my grief, not numb it. There was no chemical imbalance associated with that depression. which is why I stated that it’s also traumatically induced.

Again, my apologies.

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