Love help: I´m not sure if I love my boyfriend. - Help.com

While age isn’t generally a factor it might be in this instance. 15 year difference can really set apart maturity levels and ideals. You either have to commit and believe him or not. Its a tough decision.

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pedr wrote:
Is he rich? Thats what matters.

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id say trust is the issue here. are u feeling jealousy and want to spend more time with him? perhaps tell him in a positive way and im sure he’d be understanding. its important to allow him to do his own thing in life too.

What religion is he into Satanism? Oh well I guess 15 years isn’t that much is he is 90 and you are 75 ~chuckles~.

The bottom line here hun is that unless you catch him red handed or you are a psychic you need to completely let it go. This is baggage from past relationships coming on strong ~smiles~.

If he says he loves you and his actions dicate that he does, then you need to go with it because baggage like yours only comes from two places insecurity and guilt, so if you haven’t cheated then it isn’t guild, so it must be insecurity the fear of losing him or getting hurt. It is your mind working to protect you by using all the baggage of your past ~smiles~

I can’t really answer the “if you love him” question, but insecurity has nothing to do with love or justice. It is an inhibitor ~smiles~.

Hi Anon…Florence is totally right…He does need to do his own thing..BUT…he needs to do it in a more up front, honest way…if you two are committed, it would be fair (and nice) for him to let you in on things that concern him.
Maybe if this girl is/was in a really bad way, she could appreciate some female help as well…
You cannot keep a man on a leash…well not for long…because eventually they will snap it loose…
I also agree that 15 years is a good bit of age difference….but not all that bad….you can learn from each other…
So…you say that you love him…then give him his space, be there for him, and mostly take care of yourself, too…..
If he goes in different directions, and does so secretly, then its time for you to make a decision…
Good luck, anon…..our hearts are with you all the way….

Mandy—oh I just saw the above reply as I was finishing…oh no no…see, if the man is innocent and finds out that you were following him, then HE would probably think of THAT as a betrayal of your trust…be careful, anon…and in the end, just do whatever your heart tells you. We just offer thoughts and ideas here. Not solutions.

Thanks for your advise. I just don’t really have anyone I really trust that I can talk to, either that, or I feel their opinion would be biased. I really needed the opinion on this from someone standing on the outside. I do have a fear of being hurt or of being manipulated by someone else. Thanks! Oh, and by the way, my boyfriend’s not rich! :)